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How can i stop myself getting nervous?
I have never been nervous around guys but theres this one guy who i seem to totally lose the plot around, i get all nervous and shy, i really like him, if i keep getting nervous im gonna mess things up, so how do i stop myself getting nervous? 
Reply 1
Relax and act in exactly the same way you would with a guy you dont really like. Its hard, but he will see what a great person you are if you do
Reply 2
Deep slow breaths, but obviously not raising and lowering your rib cage as if you are in ante natal classes :P
Something i read or heard somewhere else was to play out the scene in your mind beforehand and imagine yourself there, talking confidently - taking control of situation. That's more psychological though and can be applied to relatinship situations, but was put to me as a way to overcome nerves when speaking publicly (e.g. speech in paacked room, all eyes on you)
If you're in some kind of social event (party) then flutter past and casually say something quick/snappy like hi how are you im good, quite thirsty off for a drink be right back. (obviously wait for his replies and dont say it all too fast) that way you're not comitted to a big convo with him and you can leave before you get tongue tied or if you feel nervous, without it becoming apparent. However, if a conversation blossoms from that then stick with it!
Something i read or heard somewhere else was to play out the scene in your mind beforehand and imagine yourself there, talking confidently - taking control of situation. That's more psychological though and can be applied to relatinship situations, but was put to me as a way to overcome nerves when speaking publicly (e.g. speech in paacked room, all eyes on you)
If you're in some kind of social event (party) then flutter past and casually say something quick/snappy like hi how are you im good, quite thirsty off for a drink be right back. (obviously wait for his replies and dont say it all too fast) that way you're not comitted to a big convo with him and you can leave before you get tongue tied or if you feel nervous, without it becoming apparent. However, if a conversation blossoms from that then stick with it!
Reply 3
It's quite normal to feel very nervous around someone you really like, although I can understand your frustration.
If it makes you feel any better, people cannot usually tell just by looking at you that you feel really nervous (although nervous gestures could suggest this) so if you're around him the liklihood is that he doesn't really notice your nervousness.
Furthermore, I've been told that when you are around someone who you like a certain biochemical reaction occurs in your body that causes your pupils to dilate which apparantly makes you look at your best
Try not to worry about messing up and making mistakes - whatever they may be.
To be on the safe side, when you're around him try to make sure you're not doing anything that could end up nasty such as carrying a tray load of drinks that may come crashing to the ground.
What you have is certainly a very common problem and, if he likes you, he is most probably actually feeling exactly the same.
Good luck and take care
If it makes you feel any better, people cannot usually tell just by looking at you that you feel really nervous (although nervous gestures could suggest this) so if you're around him the liklihood is that he doesn't really notice your nervousness.
Furthermore, I've been told that when you are around someone who you like a certain biochemical reaction occurs in your body that causes your pupils to dilate which apparantly makes you look at your best
Try not to worry about messing up and making mistakes - whatever they may be.
To be on the safe side, when you're around him try to make sure you're not doing anything that could end up nasty such as carrying a tray load of drinks that may come crashing to the ground.
What you have is certainly a very common problem and, if he likes you, he is most probably actually feeling exactly the same.
Good luck and take care
Reply 4
Get drunk
Reply 5
puppy
Get drunk
eek ..maybe not the best advice if u want to look him straight in the face again lol... I have the same problem as u unfortunately!! and I end up running out of stuff to say to him becuase Im constantly thinking 'ahhh I like him .. I have to say interesting things ahhh' !! crazy I know! x
Reply 6
I cant even look at him because im that nervous and when i get nervous i sit twiddling my thumbs.. cant help it.. thanks for the advise anyway people
Reply 7
Eat lots of chocolates
Reply 8
Just try and forget about the nerves, i am in the same situation as you. But i can look the guy in the face
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