How can I meet?

I recently split from my boyfriend and am feeling pretty low. However, I know that I need to move on so the question is how...I have a few mates who are guys, but thats all they are. I'm not into the clubbing lifestyle, one-night stands just aren't my thing. I know people are going to say join clubs etc but this never works.

I need someone to love me though. I've only ever had two boyfriends and when I haven't been with them, I've hated the person that I am.

Reply 1

Hel

I'd suggest getting some counselling. Not meant in a cruel way, but hating yourself when you're single is something that needs sorting out.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I've always hated myself, I'm just quiet/nervous/anxious/unsociable. I noticed this changed when I was with my boyfriend, I need someone to give me that confidence again.

Reply 3

*~vicki~*

to be honest, i think, you need to take time to yourself, before finding another boyfriend. It seems like you have some problems with yourself, as noone really 'needs' a partner and no one should feel that they depend on a partner to 'like the person they are'. Sure you are probably a different person when you are with said partner, but thats no reason to hate yourself without them. I think you need to learn to like 'you' before finding someone else to as well :smile:

Reply 4

Hel

You shouldn't rely on other people to make yourself happy. Currently, you do. Therefore, get some help. If you get a boyfriend now it will just be a temporary solution that doesn't address the underlying problem.

Reply 5

*Claire*

I'd agree with the posts above. I've had quite low esteem & boys were never particularly interested in me. Then I got together with my now ex bf. We were together for 3 1/2 yrs & he helped my esteem. However much other people upset me I knew he always loved me & thought I was great. He used to tell me I was pretty which no guy ever had before. When we broke up it was really hard for me & at first I wanted someone else. Gradually I'm becoming happier with myself without a bf. Its still not easy but I want to become more comfortable on my own before getting another bf