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Bf problem

Me and my bf have sort of fell out at the moment. I dunno what happened we just sort of stopped talking the other day and instead of actually talking about what was wrong I left without his house without even saying bye or looking at him or anything and haven't seen him or spoke to him since (although this is because there's no way of me contacting him without visiting him). I had sort of just started acting as if we had split up but tonight my mate who stays near him came to my house and said she bumped into him, my other mate and her bf. She asked him if he had dumped me or whatever and he said no but then my mate that was with him said she had something she had to tell me herself.
So I phoned her tonight and she said that my bf told her that I've to "get myself sorted" and when she asked what he meant his example was that I should give up drinking :confused:

.. then he said that the more he hears about me the more he thinks he doesn't like me as much and that if I don't get myself together he'll end it. My mate told me I should go to his tomorrow to talk things out and find out exactly what he means by the "things he's heard about me" but up until now I've been the one running after him and I'm sick of it. So can anyone help me decide what to do? I don't actually want to end it just now but obviously if it comes to that I can't stop it. But should I go see him and again be the one chasing after him? Or be stubborn and leave it alone? Any good advice on this matter is welcome.

Reply 1

Kittennffc

There are two possible outcomes here:

1- You go and see him, and although your pride might be a little dented, you'll talk and sort it out. Find out what hes been saying, what hes heard about you and set the record straight. If he believes mindless gossip from the street about you and believes it, is he really worth it?

2- You let pride get the better off you, and leave it. Who knows what would happen after this; he might come running, he might end it, who knows but its a bit of a risky option.

Even if you decide you no longer want to be with him, wouldn't you rather end things personally and on friendly terms? Personally i'd go and see him and try and sort things out. Sorry i've not been much help here!