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    why is it, its seen as wrong for the female to be older than the male in a relationship? up until the age of 25 - 30 its like a major issue! then age difference dont seem to matter.

    so what exactly is the problem here?
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    Well, it depends on the age gap whether theres a problem. I personally don't see any problem in most cases (although extreme age gaps, yeah, of course).
    Its just that a few people have a problem with it, and like to make a big issue out of it.
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    (Original post by lumpycustard)
    why is it, its seen as wrong for the female to be older than the male in a relationship? up until the age of 25 - 30 its like a major issue! then age difference dont seem to matter.

    so what exactly is the problem here?
    Who has a problem with age gaps???
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    (Original post by ben2111)
    Who has a problem with age gaps???
    well most of mine and ma bfs skool, and many people aorund us. te age gap is one yr and 9mnths
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    is it a problem? i never thought so
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    (Original post by lumpycustard)
    why is it, its seen as wrong for the female to be older than the male in a relationship? up until the age of 25 - 30 its like a major issue! then age difference dont seem to matter.

    so what exactly is the problem here?
    This is an discussion with one answer....some people accept it and some dont!
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    Its so ancient the belief that women have to be younger than the men isnt it! Go Demi Moore i say!
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    (Original post by Everdawn)
    Its so ancient the belief that women have to be younger than the men isnt it! Go Demi Moore i say!
    excuse me? dont u mean GO LUMPY! hehe
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    (Original post by lumpycustard)
    excuse me? dont u mean GO LUMPY! hehe

    i say its all cool!!!
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    Prob has to do with the whole maturity thang. Girls mature earlier than boys (generally) so I think up to about age 20 it's seen as an issue. But I don't think it should be. Big age gaps are a bit wierd but if it's love, it's love - why should anything stand in the way?!
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    That to, but Demi is our celebrity comaprison.
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    Perhaps some ancient part of our brain objects because we see the older woman as infertile and the young man as virile. We are all programmed to reproduce, after all.
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    Coincidentally, we were talking about this subject as our 'meal time debate' yesterday, but it wasn't just with the older woman; one of our male friends met some 16 year old girl at a gig the other day - he's 19 and she really likes him but he says she's too young. However he said that 3 years wouldn't matter if she was 17 and he was 20, it was just cos she was only 16...I can kind of see his arguement I guess, but I don't see much wrong. It was then that he asked us if we'd go out with a 16 year old lad, and every single one of us girls said no. I think its just some kind of preconception most people have got...I think it comes from the fact that boys are generally more immature than girls until around the late teens - my brother is 16 and i'd never consider ever going out with one of his friends (they enjoy burping a lot, and don't like washing) however if I had a brother 3 years older then i'd probably go out with one of his friends without thinking about it.
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    (Original post by Chicken)
    Coincidentally, we were talking about this subject as our 'meal time debate' yesterday, but it wasn't just with the older woman; one of our male friends met some 16 year old girl at a gig the other day - he's 19 and she really likes him but he says she's too young. However he said that 3 years wouldn't matter if she was 17 and he was 20, it was just cos she was only 16...I can kind of see his arguement I guess, but I don't see much wrong. It was then that he asked us if we'd go out with a 16 year old lad, and every single one of us girls said no. I think its just some kind of preconception most people have got...I think it comes from the fact that boys are generally more immature than girls until around the late teens - my brother is 16 and i'd never consider ever going out with one of his friends (they enjoy burping a lot, and don't like washing) however if I had a brother 3 years older then i'd probably go out with one of his friends without thinking about it.

    i am 19 and my bf is 18 but there in the summer i will be 20 and he will still be 18...we have been together since i was 15 and he was 14...(4 years and more)...we got bullied about it at school but we are still going strong so age differences can work...
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    i am 19 and my bf is 18 but there in the summer i will be 20 and he will still be 18...we have been together since i was 15 and he was 14...(4 years and more)...we got bullied about it at school but we are still going strong so age differences can work...
    awww lovely stry
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    (Original post by Chicken)
    (they enjoy burping a lot, and don't like washing)

    Are you suggesting that you enjoy washing? If so then I am shocked :eek:

    MB
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    i am 19 and my bf is 18 but there in the summer i will be 20 and he will still be 18...we have been together since i was 15 and he was 14...(4 years and more)...we got bullied about it at school but we are still going strong so age differences can work...
    Thats not 3 years though...would you consider going out with a 16 year old now?

    I'm not saying it's unacceptable, just pointing out that its not as common as girls dating older boys. I think it becomes less of an issue when you get older though, my mum is 2 years older than my dad, and obviously Demi Moore and Sadie Frost don't have a problem with age difference!!
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    (Original post by musicboy)
    Are you suggesting that you enjoy washing? If so then I am shocked :eek:

    MB
    What??? It's personal hygeine!!! Something which they lack!

    And actually its nice to be able to go and have a bath full of bubbles and stuff!
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    (Original post by Chicken)
    Thats not 3 years though...would you consider going out with a 16 year old now?

    I'm not saying it's unacceptable, just pointing out that its not as common as girls dating older boys. I think it becomes less of an issue when you get older though, my mum is 2 years older than my dad, and obviously Demi Moore and Sadie Frost don't have a problem with age difference!!

    probably not... although if i wasn't with my bf and i liked someone, their age wouldn't be enough to put me off....
    but i have to say...the prospect of a 16 year old doens't really excite me atm!!!

    i think that you either both need to be adults (over 18) or both under 18- i don't think you can start a relationship bridging that gap...

    don't know..interesting....hmm.....
 
 
 
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