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Worried about uni/homesickness .... anyone else?
As of today, I am not really worried about it, but usually, I make all these plans and then, when it gets close, I totally panic and freak out and am so scared I'll feel really sick and like I've made the wrong choice... So I just wanted to start a thread to see how often you go and see your family? Only during holidays? Do you get homesick? When you do, what do you do about it? I mean, I know there's no rule as to what to do other than to go out and try to keep busy, but still... Just looking for reassurance, I guess...
Basically, I'll be starting at Nottingham uni in September and I'm from Germany, so I really won't have the possibility to go home on weekends or stuff. I think I'll go home during every break, at least for two weeks or so, so that means I will never be away for more than about 3 months at once, which comforts me a bit
But I'm just worried that I'll get really homesick at some point and totally freak out...
During high school, I went on an exchange to the US for a couple of months and I had always wanted to do that, but right before I left, I was having actual panic attacks and thought I'd be sick at the airport from hyperventilating and worrying etc... And when I was there, it was fine. I did get homesick at times and I REALLY missed my dog more than anything and then I got really ill for like two weeks, but somehow, I was able to cope and enjoy the whole experience, so that makes me think that I will be fine now, especially since I'm older and more on my own and ESPECIALLY especially because I am taking my dog and that's a major plus for me
There are only two people I will really miss anyway and they are my mom and my best friend. I have a lot of friends who live hours away from me now, so it won't be different with them. But I'm really worried I might miss my mom ... It sounds like such a ridiculous thing to say, because I'm 21 and I've lived on my own for 3 years, but I really am worried. I see her every weekend, I don't have any siblings and my parents are divorced, so my mom really is my family. I mean, I do actually think that I will be fine, but I'm just worried I might fall into this hole of homesickness and that I might just turn into this 5-year-old who wants to be home ...
Is that really weird? Does anyone else have worries like that? Has anyone been really homesick during uni and yet been able to cope?
Thanks for advice or reassurance
That's what I need 
x
(And sorry this turned out so long )
Basically, I'll be starting at Nottingham uni in September and I'm from Germany, so I really won't have the possibility to go home on weekends or stuff. I think I'll go home during every break, at least for two weeks or so, so that means I will never be away for more than about 3 months at once, which comforts me a bit
But I'm just worried that I'll get really homesick at some point and totally freak out...During high school, I went on an exchange to the US for a couple of months and I had always wanted to do that, but right before I left, I was having actual panic attacks and thought I'd be sick at the airport from hyperventilating and worrying etc... And when I was there, it was fine. I did get homesick at times and I REALLY missed my dog more than anything and then I got really ill for like two weeks, but somehow, I was able to cope and enjoy the whole experience, so that makes me think that I will be fine now, especially since I'm older and more on my own and ESPECIALLY especially because I am taking my dog and that's a major plus for me
There are only two people I will really miss anyway and they are my mom and my best friend. I have a lot of friends who live hours away from me now, so it won't be different with them. But I'm really worried I might miss my mom ... It sounds like such a ridiculous thing to say, because I'm 21 and I've lived on my own for 3 years, but I really am worried. I see her every weekend, I don't have any siblings and my parents are divorced, so my mom really is my family. I mean, I do actually think that I will be fine, but I'm just worried I might fall into this hole of homesickness and that I might just turn into this 5-year-old who wants to be home ...
Is that really weird? Does anyone else have worries like that? Has anyone been really homesick during uni and yet been able to cope?
Thanks for advice or reassurance
That's what I need x(And sorry this turned out so long
)
I only see my family during the holidays. You'll probably be too busy to get home sick to be honest- term goes so quickly you'll barely notice in. In any case I'm sure you'll settle in really quickly and you'll meet loads of new people so you'll be surrounded with friends to distract you.
I go to uni in Wales, but my family now lives in Canada. Obviously I am going there over the summer, but this year I had a choice of whether to go home over Xmas or Easter, and I chose Xmas. So over Easter I spent almost 2 weeks in halls (on my own half the time!) and then went to stay with some friends where I used to live in England.
I do get homesick quite a bit, but I think the trick is to throw yourself into uni life as much as possible. I probably could have done a lot more, but if you are busy then you don't have time to sit in your room and mope. Also having good friends around you helps a lot too, one of my flatmates has been an absolute star, she feeds me chocolate when I am feeling down
If you make a really good new life for yourself in Nottingham then you won't miss your old life quite so much. Plus Germany isn't *that* far away, your mum could always come and see you for a long weekend sometimes.
And remember that everyone feels homesick at some point, whether their parents live 100 miles away or 1000 miles away. Its perfectly natural to feel a little scared when taking a big step like moving away to uni. Good luck, and I'm sure everything will be fine.
I do get homesick quite a bit, but I think the trick is to throw yourself into uni life as much as possible. I probably could have done a lot more, but if you are busy then you don't have time to sit in your room and mope. Also having good friends around you helps a lot too, one of my flatmates has been an absolute star, she feeds me chocolate when I am feeling down
If you make a really good new life for yourself in Nottingham then you won't miss your old life quite so much. Plus Germany isn't *that* far away, your mum could always come and see you for a long weekend sometimes.
And remember that everyone feels homesick at some point, whether their parents live 100 miles away or 1000 miles away. Its perfectly natural to feel a little scared when taking a big step like moving away to uni. Good luck, and I'm sure everything will be fine.
I go home every 2-3 weeks simply because it is boring as **** up in Keele at the weekends! Because it is so small, alot of people are local and they all go home meaning no one to talk to, so being a Jolly Southerner/Southern Fairy i go home as well, despite the 400 mile round trip! lol!
Plus i miss the dogs...
Graham
Plus i miss the dogs...
Graham
I only go home during the holidays, but ive always been a very independant person so it doesnt bother me. You will make friends when you go to uni who will want to make you stay, the best times happen at the weekends.
I have a sort of friend who goes home most weeknends and is on the phone to her mum everyday, it annoys me no end. The whole point of uni is to cut yourself off from your family to a degree and gain your independance. If you cant manage to do that then you will be the type of person who lives near their parents all their lives.
I have a sort of friend who goes home most weeknends and is on the phone to her mum everyday, it annoys me no end. The whole point of uni is to cut yourself off from your family to a degree and gain your independance. If you cant manage to do that then you will be the type of person who lives near their parents all their lives.
I was pretty worried about heading off to uni... and once I got there I spent over a week struggling to adjust, homesick and basically just wanting to go home.
It's just a matter of getting used to it, really... you'll struggle in the first couple of weeks - most people do.
But if you're anything like me (and most students I know) you'll meet loads of new people and fall in love with the new lifestyle. Now I don't miss home at all and only head home where absolutely necessary (ie. when the Halls of Residence kick me out for the holidays). Once you get into Uni life you'll be too busy and having too much fun (and too drunk?) to miss home
Not a lot you can do about homesickness apart from getting stuck into your new life and going out and having fun... personally, I found speaking to my family just made it worse but I can't speak for everyone
It's just a matter of getting used to it, really... you'll struggle in the first couple of weeks - most people do.
But if you're anything like me (and most students I know) you'll meet loads of new people and fall in love with the new lifestyle. Now I don't miss home at all and only head home where absolutely necessary (ie. when the Halls of Residence kick me out for the holidays). Once you get into Uni life you'll be too busy and having too much fun (and too drunk?) to miss home
Not a lot you can do about homesickness apart from getting stuck into your new life and going out and having fun... personally, I found speaking to my family just made it worse but I can't speak for everyone
I had a bit of an OMG moment the other day....when I suddenly thought..."I could have been going to uni in September" (I'm not cos I'm having a gap year)....it kinda dawned on me that this is really happening and its REALLY scary....
Don't worry you'll be fine. I was incredibly panicky before I went to university and when I got there it was all fine. Everyone feels exactly the same so everyones desperate to make friends and is really nice and open so you'll find it easy to settle in quickly.
I had a couple of times where I got a bit homesick and upset after about the first two weeks when you kind of realise this is a long term thing and not just a holiday. But you'll find that everyone has that and then after that everything will settle down and you'll have the best time of your life
I had a couple of times where I got a bit homesick and upset after about the first two weeks when you kind of realise this is a long term thing and not just a holiday. But you'll find that everyone has that and then after that everything will settle down and you'll have the best time of your life
Oh gosh I was so worried about home sickness before uni and I was really panicky. I did get homesick at first and still have my moments now but the best thing to do if that happens is call your family so you can hear their voices then just have a big cry about it and once its out of your stystem concentrate on other stuff. Uni life is really quite busy most of the time so it can easily distract you from thoughts of home.
I was also lucky in the sense that two other girls in my flat were homesick and we could talk about it. Talking about it to other people definately helps. There'll always be someone about you can talk to because most people will miss home to some extent
I was also lucky in the sense that two other girls in my flat were homesick and we could talk about it. Talking about it to other people definately helps. There'll always be someone about you can talk to because most people will miss home to some extent
Anne*UK*06
As of today, I am not really worried about it, but usually, I make all these plans and then, when it gets close, I totally panic and freak out and am so scared I'll feel really sick and like I've made the wrong choice... So I just wanted to start a thread to see how often you go and see your family? Only during holidays? Do you get homesick? When you do, what do you do about it? I mean, I know there's no rule as to what to do other than to go out and try to keep busy, but still... Just looking for reassurance, I guess...
Basically, I'll be starting at Nottingham uni in September and I'm from Germany, so I really won't have the possibility to go home on weekends or stuff. I think I'll go home during every break, at least for two weeks or so, so that means I will never be away for more than about 3 months at once, which comforts me a bit But I'm just worried that I'll get really homesick at some point and totally freak out...
During high school, I went on an exchange to the US for a couple of months and I had always wanted to do that, but right before I left, I was having actual panic attacks and thought I'd be sick at the airport from hyperventilating and worrying etc... And when I was there, it was fine. I did get homesick at times and I REALLY missed my dog more than anything and then I got really ill for like two weeks, but somehow, I was able to cope and enjoy the whole experience, so that makes me think that I will be fine now, especially since I'm older and more on my own and ESPECIALLY especially because I am taking my dog and that's a major plus for me
There are only two people I will really miss anyway and they are my mom and my best friend. I have a lot of friends who live hours away from me now, so it won't be different with them. But I'm really worried I might miss my mom ... It sounds like such a ridiculous thing to say, because I'm 21 and I've lived on my own for 3 years, but I really am worried. I see her every weekend, I don't have any siblings and my parents are divorced, so my mom really is my family. I mean, I do actually think that I will be fine, but I'm just worried I might fall into this hole of homesickness and that I might just turn into this 5-year-old who wants to be home ...
Is that really weird? Does anyone else have worries like that? Has anyone been really homesick during uni and yet been able to cope?
Thanks for advice or reassurance That's what I need x
(And sorry this turned out so long )
Basically, I'll be starting at Nottingham uni in September and I'm from Germany, so I really won't have the possibility to go home on weekends or stuff. I think I'll go home during every break, at least for two weeks or so, so that means I will never be away for more than about 3 months at once, which comforts me a bit
But I'm just worried that I'll get really homesick at some point and totally freak out...During high school, I went on an exchange to the US for a couple of months and I had always wanted to do that, but right before I left, I was having actual panic attacks and thought I'd be sick at the airport from hyperventilating and worrying etc... And when I was there, it was fine. I did get homesick at times and I REALLY missed my dog more than anything and then I got really ill for like two weeks, but somehow, I was able to cope and enjoy the whole experience, so that makes me think that I will be fine now, especially since I'm older and more on my own and ESPECIALLY especially because I am taking my dog and that's a major plus for me
There are only two people I will really miss anyway and they are my mom and my best friend. I have a lot of friends who live hours away from me now, so it won't be different with them. But I'm really worried I might miss my mom ... It sounds like such a ridiculous thing to say, because I'm 21 and I've lived on my own for 3 years, but I really am worried. I see her every weekend, I don't have any siblings and my parents are divorced, so my mom really is my family. I mean, I do actually think that I will be fine, but I'm just worried I might fall into this hole of homesickness and that I might just turn into this 5-year-old who wants to be home ...
Is that really weird? Does anyone else have worries like that? Has anyone been really homesick during uni and yet been able to cope?
Thanks for advice or reassurance
That's what I need x(And sorry this turned out so long
)I live in England and goto uni here, so going home on weekends is easy. But I don't. I only go back home to the familia during the actual holidays.
I don't think going back home every weekend is right. Alot of my friends go back home every other weekend and I personally think its pathetic.
It defeats the whole purpose of university - growing up, getting out on your own, being independant and learning to cope on your own.
I choose not to go back home... sometimes it sucks cause I have those moments where I just NEED family around, but I'd rather fight it out on my own rather than be mollycuddled until I'm 21.
I don't have a high opinion of people who choose to go home every weekend.
One of my flatmates goes home every weekend because she misses the cotton-wool cuddles of her mummy and daddy. I find this pathetic. She still hasn't learnt any basics of living on her own, like doing her own groceries and such.
One of my other flatmates is an abroad student like you will be, and she can only go home in the holidays. She has learnt soooo much by being on her own, especially in a completely different country and she's totally independant and I admire her for it. I think you'll be fine... you're going to miss home like crazy but at least you're learning some life lessons at the same time I suppose. Plus, Nottinghams not too bad, so many of my friends are up there and they have a great time
lady_ribena
I only go home during the holidays, but ive always been a very independant person so it doesnt bother me. You will make friends when you go to uni who will want to make you stay, the best times happen at the weekends.
I have a sort of friend who goes home most weeknends and is on the phone to her mum everyday, it annoys me no end. The whole point of uni is to cut yourself off from your family to a degree and gain your independance. If you cant manage to do that then you will be the type of person who lives near their parents all their lives.
I have a sort of friend who goes home most weeknends and is on the phone to her mum everyday, it annoys me no end. The whole point of uni is to cut yourself off from your family to a degree and gain your independance. If you cant manage to do that then you will be the type of person who lives near their parents all their lives.
i totally agree
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