Do i mean anything to him??

Basically i am soo confused at the moment, ANY help would be appreciated. For about two months now ive been seeing someone ( not in a relationship though, just fun really). I went to his bday party the other night, and he was being nice etc, and when i was alone with his friend who ive known for ages he told me that he knew about me and him so i said oooo whats he said? He said he asked his mate did he like any1 at the mo and he said yeh me, and that we were sleeping with each other. I asked his mate did he think he was purely using me for sex, he was adamant that hes not. Soo basically, the morning after this party i asked him had he slept with anyone else since he had been with me, he said yeh one other girl. I was shocked ( didnt really expect to him have, but glad he was honest) he said yeh well were not going out with each other though and he wouldnt mind if i did, i responded saying well im not a slag so im not gonna do that. So basically what does he want from me? Not a relationship ( feelings mutual- well for the time being) but then if he told his friend he really liked me yet hes sleeping with other people? Basically what do you think i should do? Im just so confused, how do i act now without being some whinger etc, and what do you think i should do ? help me
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Reply 1

sweetface.

Try to move on, he does not seem like a nice guy. You need a better guy than that, someone who will care about you and they will tell you they do.

Reply 2

pink_lucie

14

sorry but if it was me i wouldnt care if he's sleeping with other people. you're not together so its not really any of your business.
a guy who im really interested in and hes interested in me, if he went and had sex with someone i wouldnt care cos we're not together. what he does when you are together is another thing

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

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Reply 4

Toy Soldier

3

gossip_girl

sorry but if it was me i wouldnt care if he's sleeping with other people. you're not together so its not really any of your business.
a guy who im really interested in and hes interested in me, if he went and had sex with someone i wouldnt care cos we're not together. what he does when you are together is another thing

Exactly. For a lot of men (not all... probably...) sex and emotions aren't really linked AT ALL. What stops the good ones from sleeping with other girls whilst in a relationship is not the fact that they don't want to, it's that they don't want to betray the person they're with. Even if he does like you - you're not in a relationship, so there's no reason that he should think of sleeping with another girl as a betrayal.

Reply 5

L i b

19

You can't have it both ways.

You're either in a relationship where no one gets off with anyone else, or you're not - in which case it's open.

That's what they're for!

Reply 6

envious

LibertineNorth

You can't have it both ways.

You're either in a relationship where no one gets off with anyone else, or you're not - in which case it's open.

That's what they're for!

Yep, I agree completly :smile:

It sounds to me as if you do want a relationsip with this guy and the monogamy etc that goes with it. I'm not saying that you want this to be a serious thing nor does it have to be serious but as Libertine North said, you really can't have it both ways.

I think this iso ften true with a lot of girls who start of believeing they are having sex with no strings attached. From my girlfriends who have tried this, I know that it is so common for other feelings to develop :rolleyes:

. If you really didn't wasnt a relationship with him, why would you care that he had slept with someone or else or if he fancied you :confused:

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Basically, I think that to help yourself, you should confront your true feelings about this guy and stop kidding yourself that you don't want any sort of relationship with him. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but only after taking this difficult will you truly be able to realistically assess your situation and where to go from here :smile:

Reply 7

Caribou

1

LibertineNorth

You can't have it both ways.

You're either in a relationship where no one gets off with anyone else, or you're not - in which case it's open.

That's what they're for!

agreed.

Reply 8

MNBStyle

9

Lyndzxx

Try to move on, he does not seem like a nice guy. You need a better guy than that, someone who will care about you and they will tell you they do.

Agreed, i mean he says to this guy he likes you but it seems all that means is "I like her because i can shag her whenever i want".
Any genuine guy wouldn't shag around with you before wanting to be in a relationship

Reply 9

WaW™

3

ur young n full of cum! loads o guys out there! n jus coz a gal does it doesnt make her a slag

Do i mean anything to him??

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