I'm too shy :(

OK here goes, i'm at college, and theres this girl that i really *really* like. Can't stop dreaming, and daydreaming about her. Thing is, i'm too shy to tell her how i feel or to drop big hints to it. I talk to her a bit but not all that much cos i've never been much of a talker. But sometimes she seems really friendly and others hardly wants to have anything to do with me (it seems).

Towards the end of the last academic year i heard that she and her family were going to move to australia after her final year of college so i decided to try and get over my feelings for her, a few weeks ago we were talking in the library cos we were feeling too lazy to do the work and she said she was going to try get a managerial job at the place she works now, which confused me as i thought she was leaving. I asked her about it and she said that because of it being her birthday soon some sort of rules mean that she has to get her own points (?) to move abroad so they've scrapped the idea.

Thing is now i've only got 2 or 3 more weeks with her at college before it ends and i start preparing to go to university.

Just looking for some advice of what to do, whether to tell her and see what becomes of these few weeks, or abandon the idea and hope i find someone at university that i like.

Cheers in advance guys(and girls)

Reply 1

bilb

2

Hmm, best advice would be think of a sentence that says what you wanna say to her, memorise it and blurt it out the next time you see her. You'll regret if you don't.

Reply 2

galadriel100

15

Well, seeing that you've talked to her before, next time you see her, ask her if she'd like to go and see a movie with you or something. As you've only got 2 or 3 weeks of uni left, you may not get another chance.

Reply 3

L i b

19

Anonymous

some sort of rules mean that she has to get her own points (?) to move abroad

The Aussies have a system where they only allow immigrants in if they have a certain number of points - usually based on stuff like education, job, essential skills etc.

Anyway, to the proper question at hand. Bite the bullet, go up to her and say something sooner rather than later. That's all we can advise you to do.

Alternatively have a ****, cry, write a song and start your own emo band.

Reply 4

Navajo

14

Anonymous

OK here goes, i'm at college, and theres this girl that i really *really* like. Can't stop dreaming, and daydreaming about her. Thing is, i'm too shy to tell her how i feel or to drop big hints to it. I talk to her a bit but not all that much cos i've never been much of a talker. But sometimes she seems really friendly and others hardly wants to have anything to do with me (it seems).

Towards the end of the last academic year i heard that she and her family were going to move to australia after her final year of college so i decided to try and get over my feelings for her, a few weeks ago we were talking in the library cos we were feeling too lazy to do the work and she said she was going to try get a managerial job at the place she works now, which confused me as i thought she was leaving. I asked her about it and she said that because of it being her birthday soon some sort of rules mean that she has to get her own points (?) to move abroad so they've scrapped the idea.

Thing is now i've only got 2 or 3 more weeks with her at college before it ends and i start preparing to go to university.

Just looking for some advice of what to do, whether to tell her and see what becomes of these few weeks, or abandon the idea and hope i find someone at university that i like.

Cheers in advance guys(and girls)

Honest to god you will regret not saying anything, been there myself. I know it's probably one of the hardest things to do but you just have to say it, if she thinks your an idiot then what have you lost?

Seriously, do it!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

galadriel100

Well, seeing that you've talked to her before, next time you see her, ask her if she'd like to go and see a movie with you or something. As you've only got 2 or 3 weeks of uni left, you may not get another chance.

I wouldn't say we know each other well enough for that to work, what with me keeping to myself and not being able to say much.

LibertineNorth

Alternatively have a ****, cry, write a song and start your own emo band.

Tempting, but i can't really sing :p:

Navajo

Honest to god you will regret not saying anything, been there myself. I know it's probably one of the hardest things to do but you just have to say it,

I know i should do it, i just don't have the confidence to :frown:

if she thinks your an idiot then what have you lost?

Her :'-(

bilb

Hmm, best advice would be think of a sentence that says what you wanna say to her, memorise it and blurt it out the next time you see her. You'll regret if you don't.

Perhaps the best option cos then it doesn't really need me to spend ages with my cheeks on fire trying to talk about it. Just whether i can do it or not :redface:

Reply 6

pol_student

8

Navajo

Honest to god you will regret not saying anything, been there myself. I know it's probably one of the hardest things to do but you just have to say it, if she thinks your an idiot then what have you lost?

Seriously, do it!

SO, SO TRUE!!

Just bite the bullet. You'll regret it if you don't.

Reply 7

Monkey_Maiden

11

Talk to her, just casually start a conversation and if theres an end of year party? Good way to tell her how you feel

But definatly talk to her before its too late! Sounds dramatic I know but when I was in college there was this guy I fancied so much and I kept trying to get the courage to tell him but then it was too late, and I missed my chance, regretted it so much, so even if she doesn't feel the same way you'll feel so much better getting the courage to do it :smile:

Godd luck

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

If there *is* an end of year party, i wont go because i'm not really a party person. Suppose i could then suggest me and her do something a little more private.... naa theres no way i could say that lol

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Oh something i forgot to say (might change your advice quite a bit) she has a boyfriend at the place where she works so thats why i don't know whether she does like me or not and i don't really want to gain the local title of relationship breaker upper

Reply 10

Monkey_Maiden

11

Anonymous

Oh something i forgot to say (might change your advice quite a bit) she has a boyfriend at the place where she works so thats why i don't know whether she does like me or not and i don't really want to gain the local title of relationship breaker upper

Hmm well that does change things a bit :rolleyes:

Umm well you don't wanna be known as the guy who tries to break people up and sorry to sound mean but if she has a bf, I'm sure shes happy with him and doesn't like anyone else. It's up to you whether you want to tall her how you feel though *hugs*

Reply 11

Segat1

16

You're too shy shy, hush hush eye to eye

*Warning: random 80s flashback

Reply 12

Ferrus

19

Yes I'm too shy as well, my advice: live with it.

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

I think I know how you feel. I once told a guy I liked him; this was after he'd told all my friends he liked me, we'd talked non-stop for an entire holiday over phone&MSN and gone on a date. He then told me he now liked someone else :rolleyes:

Ever since I've had a major fear of rejection. Thing is though, I regret telling him less than I regret not telling the person I fell for afterwards. No matter how humiliating it is, it's better to know you did everything you could.

Now I'm in a tricky situation because the guy I like seems to have similar issues to you - I'm almost positive he's in love with me but he can't pluck up the courage to tell me, and I can't tell him either - we just keep dropping colossal hints and having intense conversations with hidden meanings :rolleyes:

I too only have a few weeks left and am getting worried...

Anyway - try starting to tell her - if she helps you along carry on; if she doesn't see you like that she'll probably cotton on fast and try to let you down easy. Good luck!

Reply 14

lifeispeachy

Do you think its more a fear of rejection that you have? From what i can tell, most people have some form of this fear. Some people (like you?) feel more comfortable not doing anything to avoid HURT, as much as it may frustrate you. But everyone finds themself liking someone so much that it would hurt to much to face the truth, if it isn't the outcome they want. When i've had this problem, it always helps me to think logically. What shows the most strength? Taking a risk for somone you clearly think is worth it - just to know you didnt miss out on a possible chance,.. OR wondering for a while if she might've said yes? Much more painful and drawn-out. In the end rejection is not always meant personally. Like you said, she has a boyfriend so she might feel a commitment to him at this time. The point is, who knows unless you find out? If she says no, it will hurt, but then you'll know it wasn't meant to be and you can get over her much more quickly. There WILL be someone else. On the other hand if she responds well, then yayy!! As for the shyness issue, i had the same problem. You're probably a naturally quiet person, doesn't mean you're a naturally shy person though! You can change gradually by making the smallest efforts now and then to 'come out of your shell'. Goodluck, and remember it's all experience which will make you a stronger person! X

Reply 15

sahsum

13

Definately tell her!!!Even if nothing comes of it she'll feel flattered and you'll feel so much better for having it off your chest. If she reacts nastily or anything like that then at least you know she probably isn't the kind of girl for you! Maybe write her a letter or get her a 'good luck in exams' card and write it in that if you think you'll find it hard to say it out loud!

Reply 16

SilverWings

14

Just leave it mate, concentrate on your studies and getting to uni. Get her number or something [tell her you wanna keep in touch with her coz she's a good mate, or something] and then if you find that even at uni with work, making more mates and getting drunk to do you STILL can't stop thinking about her, ring her then.

Seriously, if she says no you look like a dick and if she says yes then it's still gonna be long distance, which will be hard, unless you're going to the same uni.

Meh, I'm probably the only person that has said just leave it..

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

Now I'm in a tricky situation because the guy I like seems to have similar issues to you - I'm almost positive he's in love with me but he can't pluck up the courage to tell me, and I can't tell him either - we just keep dropping colossal hints and having intense conversations with hidden meanings :rolleyes:

I too only have a few weeks left and am getting worried...

Anyway - try starting to tell her - if she helps you along carry on; if she doesn't see you like that she'll probably cotton on fast and try to let you down easy. Good luck!

Never know, might be talking about each other :p:

Reply 18

JitsuCol

1

Saying something would be best. Even if you never meet again, at least she'll know, then you can move on to Uni which is better than anything!

Reply 19

shyr_15

Anonymous

OK here goes, i'm at college, and theres this girl that i really *really* like. Can't stop dreaming, and daydreaming about her. Thing is, i'm too shy to tell her how i feel or to drop big hints to it. I talk to her a bit but not all that much cos i've never been much of a talker. But sometimes she seems really friendly and others hardly wants to have anything to do with me (it seems).

Towards the end of the last academic year i heard that she and her family were going to move to australia after her final year of college so i decided to try and get over my feelings for her, a few weeks ago we were talking in the library cos we were feeling too lazy to do the work and she said she was going to try get a managerial job at the place she works now, which confused me as i thought she was leaving. I asked her about it and she said that because of it being her birthday soon some sort of rules mean that she has to get her own points (?) to move abroad so they've scrapped the idea.

Thing is now i've only got 2 or 3 more weeks with her at college before it ends and i start preparing to go to university.

Just looking for some advice of what to do, whether to tell her and see what becomes of these few weeks, or abandon the idea and hope i find someone at university that i like.

Cheers in advance guys(and girls)

i think you should tell her how much you like her. otherwise you'll regret it and have so many what ifs going through your mind. its high time that you get over your shyness. go for it! good luck! :smile:

I'm too shy :(

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