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Public School People
Is it harder to "fit in" if you're from a state school?
Are there a lot of really arrogant nobs with wealthy parents who are snobbish towards others...(as proven by, for example, Steveee's comment in the thread entitled "Formal Gowns.")
I'm a little worried about the kind of people I'm gonna be mixing with, to be honest. Any advice appreciated, cheers. xx
Are there a lot of really arrogant nobs with wealthy parents who are snobbish towards others...(as proven by, for example, Steveee's comment in the thread entitled "Formal Gowns.")
I'm a little worried about the kind of people I'm gonna be mixing with, to be honest. Any advice appreciated, cheers. xx
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munchkin88
Is it harder to "fit in" if you're from a state school?
Are there a lot of really arrogant nobs with wealthy parents who are snobbish towards others...(as proven by, for example, Steveee's comment in the thread entitled "Formal Gowns.")
I'm a little worried about the kind of people I'm gonna be mixing with, to be honest. Any advice appreciated, cheers. xx
Are there a lot of really arrogant nobs with wealthy parents who are snobbish towards others...(as proven by, for example, Steveee's comment in the thread entitled "Formal Gowns.")
I'm a little worried about the kind of people I'm gonna be mixing with, to be honest. Any advice appreciated, cheers. xx
Lmao, SO agreeing with you! I've been to state school my whole life and am worried about ending up living with a load of pashmina-wearing side-pony-tailed public school girls.
I just figure that you will always meet at least someone that you get on with- and loads of state school people do go to Bristol- you just have to hunt them out! Also, a lot of people from public school can be really nice and easy to get on with. There will always be annoying, snobby and bitchy public school people at any university- you just have to learn to turn their voices into background noise, hehe.
Don't worry! State school people (like me!) will be there! We can start a minorities society, lol.
I've been state educated all my life and haven't had any problems at all. Yes, you do get a fair number of people with very posh accents who have been to very prestigious schools and have a lot of money. But most people are mature enough to realise pretty early on that it doesn't make any difference what kind of background someone is from. I haven't met anybody unpleasant, or anybody who has a superiority complex or comes across as particularly arrogant because of it. Some public school people tend to stick to their own, which means that on day one, they meet up with all the people they already know, or people who went to the same kind of school and like the same kind of things, and they make friends straight away and stay together. They don't bother anybody and nobody bothers them. Then again, some public school people make friends with anyone and everyone, live in the cheapest halls and are really down to earth. It depends on their personality, not their upbringing.
If it really bothers you, go for a self-catered hall. Based on my own observations, I'd say that posh people tend to like having their food cooked for them, and that you get almost disproportionate numbers of people from state schools in the self-catered halls. But bear in mind that if you choose a hall based on whether or not you think most of the people there will have come from a similar background to you, you're displaying just the same snobbish attitudes that you're worrying about at the moment. Being prejudiced against someone because they've come from a posh school is just as bad as being prejudiced against someone because they've come from an inner city comprehensive.
Maybe the relatively high proportion of public schoolers doesn't bother me because I'm in a self-catered hall where most people (as far as I know) are from state schools. Then again, I do English, which is typically full of rahs, and everyone I've met on my course has been lovely. Next year I'm living with a girl who went to Cheltenham Ladies College. It doesn't define who she is, any more than my comprehensive school education defines me.
Finally, be very wary of stereotypes. You can't tell what kind of school someone went to just from looking at them. (Unless they're wearing one of those school leaver's sweatshirts in their house colour, of course.) Some of the poshest people I've met turned out to be from state schools, whereas a girl I thought was a bit of a chav had come from a very classy school and had had elocution lessons because her mother didn't want her to speak with that "nasty" local (Somerset) accent.
Please. Do yourself a favour and don't let it bother you. Come to Bristol with a completely open mind. You might end up best friends with someone who went to Eton. It's not beyond the realms of possibility.
If it really bothers you, go for a self-catered hall. Based on my own observations, I'd say that posh people tend to like having their food cooked for them, and that you get almost disproportionate numbers of people from state schools in the self-catered halls. But bear in mind that if you choose a hall based on whether or not you think most of the people there will have come from a similar background to you, you're displaying just the same snobbish attitudes that you're worrying about at the moment. Being prejudiced against someone because they've come from a posh school is just as bad as being prejudiced against someone because they've come from an inner city comprehensive.
Maybe the relatively high proportion of public schoolers doesn't bother me because I'm in a self-catered hall where most people (as far as I know) are from state schools. Then again, I do English, which is typically full of rahs, and everyone I've met on my course has been lovely. Next year I'm living with a girl who went to Cheltenham Ladies College. It doesn't define who she is, any more than my comprehensive school education defines me.
Finally, be very wary of stereotypes. You can't tell what kind of school someone went to just from looking at them. (Unless they're wearing one of those school leaver's sweatshirts in their house colour, of course.) Some of the poshest people I've met turned out to be from state schools, whereas a girl I thought was a bit of a chav had come from a very classy school and had had elocution lessons because her mother didn't want her to speak with that "nasty" local (Somerset) accent.
Please. Do yourself a favour and don't let it bother you. Come to Bristol with a completely open mind. You might end up best friends with someone who went to Eton. It's not beyond the realms of possibility.
rosieposy87
Don't worry! State school people (like me!) will be there! We can start a minorities society, lol.
Don't worry! State school people (like me!) will be there! We can start a minorities society, lol.
Lol.....public schoolers ARE the minority...
Not necessarily; however the process of acclimatising oneself will undoubtedly bear complication if you are knee-jerk and devoid a sense of humour, for instance as demonstrated by 'rosieposy87's' comment in the thread entitled "Formal Gowns".
Edit: And, yes; the persistent inverse-snobbery does tend to grate somewhat.
Edit: And, yes; the persistent inverse-snobbery does tend to grate somewhat.
Profesh
Not necessarily; however the process of acclimatising oneself will undoubtedly bear complication if you are devoid a sense of humour, for instance as demonstrated by 'rosieposy87's' comment in the thread entitled "Formal Gowns".
You are obviously devoid of an understanding of sarcasm, my friend.
*gets popcorn*
rosieposy87
You are obviously devoid of an understanding of sarcasm, my friend.
Not funny if you genuinely don't have money, ever thought about that possibility? Oh you haven't? What a surprise.
Sorry; did you just develop a sense of humour? Well, curse me into oblivion.
Lmao, SO agreeing with you! I've been to state school my whole life and am worried about ending up living with a load of pashmina-wearing side-pony-tailed public school girls.
I just figure that you will always meet at least someone that you get on with- and loads of state school people do go to Bristol- you just have to hunt them out! Also, a lot of people from public school can be really nice and easy to get on with. There will always be annoying, snobby and bitchy public school people at any university- you just have to learn to turn their voices into background noise, hehe.
Don't worry! State school people (like me!) will be there! We can start a minorities society, lol.
I just figure that you will always meet at least someone that you get on with- and loads of state school people do go to Bristol- you just have to hunt them out! Also, a lot of people from public school can be really nice and easy to get on with. There will always be annoying, snobby and bitchy public school people at any university- you just have to learn to turn their voices into background noise, hehe.
Don't worry! State school people (like me!) will be there! We can start a minorities society, lol.
It may surprise you to learn that 'sarcasm' and hyperbole are two distinct rhetorical devices; albeit, subject to context, not always distinguishable. Don't blame me for your own lack of satirical acumen, assuming you even intended such: the entirety of that post bespeaks misconceptions which persist, unresolved, to its very conclusion; it is, in the circumstances, altogether too plausible to be construed for mere 'irony'.
munchkin88
I'm a little worried about the kind of people I'm gonna be mixing with, to be honest. Any advice appreciated, cheers. xx
I'm a little worried about the kind of people I'm gonna be mixing with, to be honest. Any advice appreciated, cheers. xx
If you're really that worried, I'd stay at home where you shouldn't meet anybody who might be at all different.
Surprisingly enough those with inferiority complexes about what school they went too outnumber those with superiority complexes 10/1.
I think it shows alot that people from state schools say say how scared they are of meeting people that are "posh". But these posh people don't say they are going to try and avoid "rough" state school people.
IT REALLY DOES NOT MATTER! those that worry about it are only displaying their own insecurities and prejudices.
I consider myself fairly impartial because i've been to both state and private school in equal measure and have met great people in both.
I think it shows alot that people from state schools say say how scared they are of meeting people that are "posh". But these posh people don't say they are going to try and avoid "rough" state school people.
IT REALLY DOES NOT MATTER! those that worry about it are only displaying their own insecurities and prejudices.
I consider myself fairly impartial because i've been to both state and private school in equal measure and have met great people in both.
I'll say one thing about private schools. The small class sizes and constant attention from people who actually care what grades you get promote high self esteem. This is why people from private schools are often a lot more confident and self-assured than people from state schools. They don't worry about meeting people from state schools. This is often mistaken for having a superiority complex, when actually, as Zakatu says, it is usually the other person who has an inferiority complex.
munchkin88
Is it harder to "fit in" if you're from a state school?
Are there a lot of really arrogant nobs with wealthy parents who are snobbish towards others...(as proven by, for example, Steveee's comment in the thread entitled "Formal Gowns.")
I'm a little worried about the kind of people I'm gonna be mixing with, to be honest. Any advice appreciated, cheers. xx
Are there a lot of really arrogant nobs with wealthy parents who are snobbish towards others...(as proven by, for example, Steveee's comment in the thread entitled "Formal Gowns.")
I'm a little worried about the kind of people I'm gonna be mixing with, to be honest. Any advice appreciated, cheers. xx
Not at all. For elaboration see countless other threads on the matter.
The only thing that gets me (not the right word, but hey) is the accent thing. My sister lives down South, and whenever I go down there I tend to find bartenders and such seem to have a problem with understanding what I'm ordering. Obviously it's not a major problem, but it can be kinda annoying having to get someone else to translate your order. One of the teachers at college is a Southerner as well, and he also has problems. He highlighted a couple of things the other day. Saying the word "fairy". Apparently we (Tykes) say fairy in exactly the same way as "furry", and "coke" as "curk", which caused his (in my opinion overblown) confusion, and much laughing at us.
Like I say, it's not a problem, but it should make meeting you guys a little more interesting
Like I say, it's not a problem, but it should make meeting you guys a little more interesting
The Mudman
The only thing that gets me (not the right word, but hey) is the accent thing. My sister lives down South, and whenever I go down there I tend to find bartenders and such seem to have a problem with understanding what I'm ordering. Obviously it's not a major problem, but it can be kinda annoying having to get someone else to translate your order. One of the teachers at college is a Southerner as well, and he also has problems. He highlighted a couple of things the other day. Saying the word "fairy". Apparently we (Tykes) say fairy in exactly the same way as "furry", and "coke" as "curk", which caused his (in my opinion overblown) confusion, and much laughing at us.
Like I say, it's not a problem, but it should make meeting you guys a little more interesting
Like I say, it's not a problem, but it should make meeting you guys a little more interesting
There aren't enough northerners at Bristol, that's true. But I just say that because I find northern accents hopelessly sexy.
Lol yeah on my Open Day I was one of approximately two northerners.
I'm anouther Northerner, didn't think I had much of an accent till the open day when someone thought I was from Sheffield :|
I go to public school, and whilst theres a lot of idiots here who think its below them to use public transport, generally those are the ones who don't actually have much money.
I've no issues with meeting anyone, theres ***** in both types of school, and they're the people I'm avoiding....
I go to public school, and whilst theres a lot of idiots here who think its below them to use public transport, generally those are the ones who don't actually have much money.
I've no issues with meeting anyone, theres ***** in both types of school, and they're the people I'm avoiding....
I guess it's not so surprising that this issue has been raised a lot... I was privately educated before I came to Bristol, and everyone I met during freshers week/departmental induction thingies seemed overly concerned about the private/state divide in Bristol. After a few days of it I actually thought about lying to people because everyone I met seemed to have gone to state schools and had pre formed opinions of what 'people like me' would really be like, and for many people it was the first question they asked me. To be completely honest, I really didn't expect things would be like that, but it really does work both ways: everyone from all walks of life will probably be prejudiced in some way, and you may or may not deal with it when you arrive at University. Advice to those of you who really are worried about being surrounded by rahs because they'll be too 'up themselves' in their jack wills outfits to even notice you? Don't choose to live in Churchill or Wills because there are disproportionate numbers there than anywhere else. Either that, or grow up!
I think, to be honest, there will only be a divide if you perceive that we are totally different. IF you are expecting to see a "load of pashmina-wearing side-pony-tailed public school girls", you will see them. Obviously, there will be some snobs (public schooled), and some inverted-snobs (state schooled), and you should probably avoid them all!! The main point is that there will be hardly any difference between public-schooled and state-schooled, unless you emphasize the stereotypes which you hope to find in people.
Apricot Fairy
But bear in mind that if you choose a hall based on whether or not you think most of the people there will have come from a similar background to you, you're displaying just the same snobbish attitudes that you're worrying about at the moment. Being prejudiced against someone because they've come from a posh school is just as bad as being prejudiced against someone because they've come from an inner city comprehensive.
But bear in mind that if you choose a hall based on whether or not you think most of the people there will have come from a similar background to you, you're displaying just the same snobbish attitudes that you're worrying about at the moment. Being prejudiced against someone because they've come from a posh school is just as bad as being prejudiced against someone because they've come from an inner city comprehensive.
I think that's probably the best thing I've read on TSR.
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