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Bored, depressed and very lonely
I'm bored. Mind-numbingly bored. I've had a boring day, I'm having a boring night, and tomorrow promises to be the same.
The reasons for this? Mostly because exams are looming and revision is needed. Some of my mates are away, others are here but I don't wanna go out with them because...I dunno, we've drifted apart and don't really get on anymore. I feel realy self-conscious about how I look, and my hair never goes right. I really want to go to uni and make a fresh start, but at the same time I'm worried I'm going to hate it. I'm scared I won't get the grades because I just don't feel motivated to work.
I don't have a boyfriend, and I really want one. I go out and pull a lot, but I want something with meaning, and compatibility
I'm so depressed.
The reasons for this? Mostly because exams are looming and revision is needed. Some of my mates are away, others are here but I don't wanna go out with them because...I dunno, we've drifted apart and don't really get on anymore. I feel realy self-conscious about how I look, and my hair never goes right. I really want to go to uni and make a fresh start, but at the same time I'm worried I'm going to hate it. I'm scared I won't get the grades because I just don't feel motivated to work.
I don't have a boyfriend, and I really want one. I go out and pull a lot, but I want something with meaning, and compatibility
I'm so depressed.
Sometimes tele is not the best option, don't know if you like reading, with some music on? Drawing, make things up, if you have the time you could write or draw. If you have got work to do, then do it in managable parts, set yourself goals maybe. I can't remember the last time I was bored, there are occasions where I don't enjoy what I'm doing that much, you can always do something to make it less boring.
I can relate to how you feel, especially as I want more from life than the same ordinary routine. I also want a partner, although you do one better than me at even "pulling", I couldn't even do that, although I wouldn't care to. I would suggest doing something active rather than passive, such as playing a musical instrument/singing, whatever interests you, to provide some "motivation" in your life. However difficult it is, it is still important to keep focus on the exams, at least until they are over. Drifting apart from friends is difficult, but you certainly will make a fresh start at university. The best remedy is to take action and be active - being passive will mean you will continue to be bored, depressed and lonely. Sometimes it's natural to feel this way, but I hope you can improve your well-being. Good luck!
hey, I'm really sorry to hear you 're feeling like that, but I know how you are feeling in relation to some of your problems but like you said uni will probably be the fresh start you needed, and you have to just concetrate on that and look forward to it. unforunately revision leaves us all housebound for like 2 months!! its so pants! but try and think of it like this.. not to sound morbid or melodramatic.. but although it is so easy to get caught up in what seem like huge problems I always try and bare in mind that in comparison to other people my problems are not that huge, and also no one knows how much longer they are going to be around for *really not trying to be morbid* so it's better to try and really make the most of what you have , and look to the brighter future *starting to sound cheesy i know .. sorry hehe * but basically every cloud has it's silver lining and although it's bad when all problems seem to come at once.. they will slowly soon disappear as they don't last forever.. chin up 
it will get better xx
it will get better xxI know the feeling.
I've been there before and know exactly how you feel (the two and a half month summer holiday after GCSEs was the worst!).
Obviously it would be wrong of me to say to you just cheer up; look on the bright side, do something that's interesting, as I know myself that this does not help.
You mention you've had a boring day, and I can relate to this.
However something to remember is that life is a rollercoaster - sometimes you're happy, other times you're not.
The thing about rollercoasters is that they go down a lot but they also go up just as much.
If it helps, try thinking that surely it would not be logical that you're going to be bored and depressed forever because you won't.
Another thing to remember is that exams come and then go. They will soon be over and then maybe you could try to get a part-time job (if you don't have one already). This will mean that you have something to occupy your time.
Indeed it may sound boring stacking shelves or whatever but you will physically be out of the house doing something and meeting people.
Also, you could try joining a club, doing voluntary work etc.
As to the issue with boyfriends, Im not really the right person to comment, but what you have to remember is that you will meet a lot of men in your time and the right one will come along - just stay open and receptive and don't dismiss any but give them a chance - you never know.
As to what you say about being self-conscious, this is probably mostly a product of your current depression - however its not for me to judge.
Maybe try speaking to someone you trust about how you feel.
Also another thing to remember is that it may not seem it but a hell of a lot of people are probably feeling exactly the same as you for the same reasons.
Message me if you want to.
Take care
I've been there before and know exactly how you feel (the two and a half month summer holiday after GCSEs was the worst!).
Obviously it would be wrong of me to say to you just cheer up; look on the bright side, do something that's interesting, as I know myself that this does not help.
You mention you've had a boring day, and I can relate to this.
However something to remember is that life is a rollercoaster - sometimes you're happy, other times you're not.
The thing about rollercoasters is that they go down a lot but they also go up just as much.
If it helps, try thinking that surely it would not be logical that you're going to be bored and depressed forever because you won't.
Another thing to remember is that exams come and then go. They will soon be over and then maybe you could try to get a part-time job (if you don't have one already). This will mean that you have something to occupy your time.
Indeed it may sound boring stacking shelves or whatever but you will physically be out of the house doing something and meeting people.
Also, you could try joining a club, doing voluntary work etc.
As to the issue with boyfriends, Im not really the right person to comment, but what you have to remember is that you will meet a lot of men in your time and the right one will come along - just stay open and receptive and don't dismiss any but give them a chance - you never know.
As to what you say about being self-conscious, this is probably mostly a product of your current depression - however its not for me to judge.
Maybe try speaking to someone you trust about how you feel.
Also another thing to remember is that it may not seem it but a hell of a lot of people are probably feeling exactly the same as you for the same reasons.
Message me if you want to.
Take care
I know exactly how you feel too. the worst thing is i have had family problems in the past and now that everything is fine i get really angry at myself for not being happy. But sometimes when little things compound they can really get you down.
I recommend throw yourself into your study, going to uni sounds like it would be a great way to break the monotany and it'l help in the long run to get good grades. But at the same time try and look at ways of being happy with yourself as you are because if things dont all get cleared up by going to uni you need to be able to be happy with your life as it is, im trying to do this at the moment, i just try to remember 'happy people attract happy people' or something like that. i hope it works - for both of us
I recommend throw yourself into your study, going to uni sounds like it would be a great way to break the monotany and it'l help in the long run to get good grades. But at the same time try and look at ways of being happy with yourself as you are because if things dont all get cleared up by going to uni you need to be able to be happy with your life as it is, im trying to do this at the moment, i just try to remember 'happy people attract happy people' or something like that. i hope it works - for both of us
Lol probably the best part of my last couple years was the time where a girl and me where really into each other but none of us had the guts to take it further etc. It was all really awkward and strange and just small things seemed really big. But were going out now and it seemed I dunno just like so much more exciting back then when we were both always worrying about each other and scared etc. If you pull guys all the time, why not try to find one thats nice and build something up first?
ProfessorFitBoy
I know the feeling.
I've been there before and know exactly how you feel (the two and a half month summer holiday after GCSEs was the worst!).
Obviously it would be wrong of me to say to you just cheer up; look on the bright side, do something that's interesting, as I know myself that this does not help.
You mention you've had a boring day, and I can relate to this.
However something to remember is that life is a rollercoaster - sometimes you're happy, other times you're not.
The thing about rollercoasters is that they go down a lot but they also go up just as much.
If it helps, try thinking that surely it would not be logical that you're going to be bored and depressed forever because you won't.
Another thing to remember is that exams come and then go. They will soon be over and then maybe you could try to get a part-time job (if you don't have one already). This will mean that you have something to occupy your time.
Indeed it may sound boring stacking shelves or whatever but you will physically be out of the house doing something and meeting people.
Also, you could try joining a club, doing voluntary work etc.
As to the issue with boyfriends, Im not really the right person to comment, but what you have to remember is that you will meet a lot of men in your time and the right one will come along - just stay open and receptive and don't dismiss any but give them a chance - you never know.
As to what you say about being self-conscious, this is probably mostly a product of your current depression - however its not for me to judge.
Maybe try speaking to someone you trust about how you feel.
Also another thing to remember is that it may not seem it but a hell of a lot of people are probably feeling exactly the same as you for the same reasons.
Message me if you want to.
Take care
I've been there before and know exactly how you feel (the two and a half month summer holiday after GCSEs was the worst!).
Obviously it would be wrong of me to say to you just cheer up; look on the bright side, do something that's interesting, as I know myself that this does not help.
You mention you've had a boring day, and I can relate to this.
However something to remember is that life is a rollercoaster - sometimes you're happy, other times you're not.
The thing about rollercoasters is that they go down a lot but they also go up just as much.
If it helps, try thinking that surely it would not be logical that you're going to be bored and depressed forever because you won't.
Another thing to remember is that exams come and then go. They will soon be over and then maybe you could try to get a part-time job (if you don't have one already). This will mean that you have something to occupy your time.
Indeed it may sound boring stacking shelves or whatever but you will physically be out of the house doing something and meeting people.
Also, you could try joining a club, doing voluntary work etc.
As to the issue with boyfriends, Im not really the right person to comment, but what you have to remember is that you will meet a lot of men in your time and the right one will come along - just stay open and receptive and don't dismiss any but give them a chance - you never know.
As to what you say about being self-conscious, this is probably mostly a product of your current depression - however its not for me to judge.
Maybe try speaking to someone you trust about how you feel.
Also another thing to remember is that it may not seem it but a hell of a lot of people are probably feeling exactly the same as you for the same reasons.
Message me if you want to.
Take care
I certainly agree with having a part-time job - while the job itself isn't fantastic, it provides some sense of motivation and a task to work towards to - infinitely being better than being cooped in by yourself all day. Having a lack of fulfillment in your life can lead to feelings of deep depression and unfulfillment - and it feels awful, but move out into the world around you, and it can make a world of difference - trust me, the feeling of depression is not as all-encompassing and inescapable as it seems. At the very least, try to speak or go out with friends you do know. It can seem idealistic and difficult to try, but to some extent, it will benefit you to be active and try something new at whatever opportunity you can. I can certain relate to your feelings of loneliness, and this is one thing you cannot always actively change, but if you can try to establish some kind of closer relationship between friends/family, it will in some way substitute for your unfulfilled desire for affection.
I was also very self-conscious about my nose, since it is large, and I would often see people staring at me or making fun of it, and it would look much too large for my face when I looked in the mirror. However, over time I realised that it was one mere imperfection which had little consequence, and that those who found it unattractive were those whose opinions who had no real significance. I'm sure to most people you do not look ugly or worse-looking than anybody else - in fact, I doubt you'd be much happier being a super-hot babe who attracts superficial men every day of the week, being told how beautiful she looks with no regard to who she is.
I feel the best way to gain confidence with other people is simply to talk to others, particularly those who you can gain a good rapport with - you will know who these people are naturally when you talk with them, you feel you can portray your true personality with little inhibition. It may be hard to make the first step to socialise with new people, but it is infinitely rewarding for your confidence, and of course, one easy way for this is to have a part time job.
Also, it's normal to feel stressed and trapped by the requirement for exams - unfortunately, it's just a difficult time to endure, with the ultimate reward when you finish!.
I think breaking your routine will help. It's so easy to get stuck in a rut of doing the same old thing day in day out, and then you get really down because everything's always the same old same old. So like other's have suggested - a part time job (after exams) will help you meet new people (maybe even a b/f ) and just get you out, and you earn money - which is never a bad thing.
As for getting motivated to work, I wish I could help. Because then i'd have the answer for myself. I think generally just keep in your mind how much you want to go to uni and start afresh and hopefully that will provide the incentive to work. I wouldn't worry about hating uni, if you go with an open mind and don't convince yourself going to hate it - you'll be fine.
The hair situation, I hate my hair too lol it never seems to go right either. But I think most girls are like that. Go to the hairdressers get it cut/styled and that should make you feel a bit better and boost your confidence.
) and just get you out, and you earn money - which is never a bad thing.As for getting motivated to work, I wish I could help. Because then i'd have the answer for myself. I think generally just keep in your mind how much you want to go to uni and start afresh and hopefully that will provide the incentive to work. I wouldn't worry about hating uni, if you go with an open mind and don't convince yourself going to hate it - you'll be fine.
The hair situation, I hate my hair too lol it never seems to go right either. But I think most girls are like that. Go to the hairdressers get it cut/styled and that should make you feel a bit better and boost your confidence.
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