My Bloody Mother

God, she gets on my nerves.

We bought £100 worth of business cards for work, bearing in mind this was something like 2000 business cards, and she went and threw them away.

She thought i was just keeping them for myself and that i wouldnt need them. FFS.

How the hell can i stop her going through my room and throwing stuff away..... for most normal people it would be pretty obvious that 2000 business cards are there for a reason. Anyone get any ideas bar putting a lock on my bedroom door? This relationship is going downhill...

Reply 1

jpowell

Move out and get your own place. Are you paying any rent for living at home? If not then you don't really have any rights.

Reply 2

thefin

mothers can be a bit dippy sometimes. it happens, try not to get annoyed.

Reply 3

Oddity

Arg! When my mother walks into my room and starts touching my stuff looking for something incriminatory I could go insane. You have my comprehension. It drives me crazy. I dont really know how old you are...I would leave though, If you can. I love my parents very very much but I love them very very very much when I'm far away. you know what I mean?
Otherwise just act in a 'grown up way'. Sit down with her and, with most patience, explain that its your personal space....respect your privacy...bla bla bla. she might listen to you.
good luck.

Reply 4

eh_crimbo

my mum used to throw my stuff away all the time without asking me - admittedly my room is full of sh*t - though its not exactly a fine line between crap and my friggin clothes!!!...i was tempted to bulldoze her room & do the same, nowadays we rarely make eye contact let alone speak, if she dares to even touch anything of mine there is serious blood....though before this became the case i'd told her that EVERYTHING was needed for art work/inspiration, etc...and i couldnt possibly work if she threw anything of mine away..

yes move far far away at the first opportunity...i plan to escape & do the same too...though if not can you possibly lock your room??

Reply 5

mangomaz

I dont agree when people say you're not paying rent so you dont have any rights. Its your home where you live with your family; of course you dont have to pay rent and of course you're entitled to rights of privacy.

With this issue though, you're probably best speaking to her and asking her not to throw things out without asking you first in future. Did you personally have to buy the business cards? £100 is a lot of money and she should at least offer to help you out to buy them again. Does she realise that you're really annoyed about this, and if she does then how did she react?

Reply 6

shyr_15

i think the best way to settle this would e to talk to your mom. explain to her that you want your privacy and doesn't want her going through your stuff and throwing them out...

everyone of us gets through this situation...have more patience with her. luckily my mom does not enter my room and touch my stuffs anymore. we had a long talk about this and im glad she understood that i want privacy as much as she does

if nothing works. move out.