lump

My mum recently discovered she has some kind of lump that has grown very quickly. It is located somewhere in the gynecological region but her doctor is sure it's not fibroids as it grew too quickly. Which basically leaves two possibilities, either some wierd cyst'y thing or a tumour and from what i've heard, the doctor seems to think it's a tumour.
The possibility of my mum getting cancer is terrifying and I have no idea how i'd cope, though I do know it would mess up every single area of my life if the worst should happen. I;m scared more than I can remember being and it's not even confirmed that it's a tumour let alone if it's bonine/melignant.
The ironic thing is that my mum has always been the healthy one whereas my dad smokes, drinks reasonably heavily and eats for good food not for health most of the time. Isn't it wierd how life acts so unexpectedly?

Reply 1

crazy4dancin

Yeah, the world works in a very odd and cruel way. I'm sorry to hear about your mum and I cannot even begin to imagine how scared you are. At the moment it's probably completely natural to be thinking the worst, but you shouldn't as you have not been told anything concrete. Not every lump is cancerous as I'm sure you know and not every person who gets cancer dies from it. You need to think positively and try and stay strong for your mum. Have a chat with her about your concerns but don't get too dramatic as your mum will probably be just as scared as you are. I'm sure your mum doesn't want you to worry and would want you to get on with your life as normally as possible if the worse did happen. Everything will probably be ok, try not to panic until you know what's going onxx

Reply 2

shyr_15

do everything you can, loving her,comforting her, just being there for her means alot. listen to her when she talks about her fears, sometimes no response is necessary. a smile, a brush on the forehead, little signs that show your compassion. I know you feel helpless. just try to be strong.and pray.

Reply 3

Will Grimes1

The same thing happened to my mum and she was also the healthy one but hay thats life. I dont think it screwed up my life that much. Two things made me think positively firstly i believe in karma now that something bad has happened in my life leaves great things to come. That might be over simplistic but it really helped. And secondly I have matured allot more than i would have otherwise and appreciate life more and how fragile we are. I remeber when i was told about my mum and i just didnt know what to think for ages, i still don't really. Touch wood she is fine but still has to go to the hospital regularly.

Reply 4

Juno

Don't worry too much yet. Hopefully it will either not be cancer, or that it will be caught quickly.

Sit down with your mum and have a chat about everything, as it you know what's wrong and what's being done it will feel less scary. Don't try to figure out how you'll cope if the worst happens, as you'll just end up panicky. Try to make realistic plans based on what you know now.