25 living at home-should i be ashamed?Watch
But if you're studying and planning your career and what-not, you're probably in a better position than someone like her, working 50 hours a week and paying it all on rent and stuff just to live in London? Imagine the amount she could save if she lived with her parents working those hours.
If you get on with your parents and you're happy, who cares what anyone thinks? At the end of the day there are two types of people in life, those who are sensible, have a plan, follow it and hang everyone else and those who want to follow the crowd like a deaf, dumb and blind sheep!
Stick to your guns, stay home and live with your parents for as long as you're happy to do so. If you want to live there until you're 65, it's no-one's business but yours.
As previous posters have said, would you rather be in debt, struggling and your parents struggling. This way everyone is benefiting from this situation and you will be able to afford a nice place with a sizeable deposit
At the risk of sounding like an old fogey, I wish all young people were so sensible and had a clear plan how best to live in order to achieve things, rather than just going with the flow and being "independent" to the point of stupidity!
If you get on well with your parents, make yourself useful at home so you aren't living totally rent/chore free and are using it as a stepping stone for maybe saving for a house/paying off debt etc, I don't see what it wrong with it.
One of my friends is 26 and her brother is 29 - both of them still live at home, but under totally different circumstances and I would look at them differently for living at home. My friend moved away from home and then changed jobs and ended up in a job near home, so moved back there to save up money so she can buy a house. Her mum is having chemo at the moment, so she is also glad to be at home and help her mum out - she does virtually all the cooking/cleaning/food shopping etc and has enough saved now that once her mum is a bit more stable she is planning on buying a house. Her brother on the other hand, has never moved away from home (not even for uni), he expects dinner ready when he gets in from work, occasionally mows the lawn. He doesn't pay rent, but barely contributes in any other way, he spends all his earnings on cars and has no intention of moving out in the near future! I would look at them totally different, my friend has well thought out, good reasons for being at home and not just doing it for the easy life. Her brother just seems to be lazy and take advantage of it!
So in your circumstances I would say similar, you seem to have reasons for still living at home and aren't just living them because you can't be bothered to do anything else!
When my parents were graduating from university in the 1970's, it was a guaranteed well paid job and access to a cheap housing market. But fast forward to today and things have changed. People can't afford it, wages are too low and housing prices are too high.
There is a second aspect to this. Life is short, and my family mean the world to me. I've just started university but, I would not be ashamed to go and live at home afterwards and beyond. My Mum has had cancer, so spending quality time with her means a lot to me. I think there is a culture of young people in this country who simply can't wait to get out of the door, at 18 or even 16 in some cases, and it's sad. Whether this is "because it's the done thing" or whether it's because they don't get on with their parents I'm not sure, but either way it's a shame. You never get those years back.
Your friend sounds like she was being a bit of a ***** on the phone to you, to be honest, ignore her, who cares what she thinks.
There's a big difference between being at home and sponging off your parents indefinitely with no plans just because you can, and being at home but actually pulling your weight and trying to do something with your life.
I moved out when I was 18, and I ended up moving back in with my parents shortly before my 24th birthday. My business went bust, I had a big break up, nowhere to live, etc. so I swallowed my pride, and moved back in with my parents. I went to college, did my A-levels, now I'm at university. If I hadn't have done that I wouldn't have had the opportunity to get back on my feet and start making a better life for myself.
Thanks for the replies, i feel alot better now rather than feeling like a loser! I didnt feel any problem with it until i spoke to my friend. Thinking about it, my friend hasnt really progressed in life by moving to london as shes doing the same job in riverisland as she would had living at home, apart from shes working an extra 30 hours a week to keep up with rent and bills. I should had ignored her comments. Thanks again
Your friend has realised she's playing a mug's game and is trying to bring you down to her level there methinks!
Living in London and working in retail? Mental. Utterly mental.
Mikeyd- i did ask her wether it was worth moving down and she insists it was as she having fun, but thinking about your comment, am not too convinced she is! X
Live your life as you want.
I moved back home 9 months ago after travelling and living with friends. I pay 200 board which is nothing but it is what my mum only asks for. My father is not very well so i try help my mum out and it makes me feel better being here. Ive managed to save 10k in the time ive been in home but ive just got off the phone to a friend and she was asking if am not embarassed to be still living at home at 25 and i wondered if i should be?? She sounded like she pitied me. She moved out of home from manchester to london a year ago because she wanted to become more independent and got a transfer working as a sales assistant in river island, she told me she works 50 hours a week to keep up with her rent and bills and is still paying off her overdraft, but thinks its sad to be still living at home. am confused to what the big deal is living at home and wanted your views. I dont see any point me renting living with strangers when am happy at home and saving money. Thanks
I'm 23 and living in university accommodation i do prefer 'independence' and so may even stay in Leeds City Center over the summer however if i do not have a job straight out of university i shall happily move back into the parents.
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