Optimum leave them hanging time...

OK ladies,

It's not big or clever ...but it's what the majority of women appear to want at the start of dating.

How long should the guy leave it before 1st texting a girl after getting her number?

Note: I'm not asking for confirmation that it would be good if they texted straight away, etc. But what has most effect on you? I'm having an arguement with a mate and he thinks 7 days, which I think may be a bit too long.

Any thoughts?

Mr J

3-4 days

Yeah, at least 3

Unless she's easy, and you want some.

Reply 3

viciouscircle

1

if a guy waits more than 3/4 days it shows me he's not really that interested. I went out with a guy the other sat and he waited untill the next friday to ask me out again - I liked him before but that put me off (just seems rude) so I won't be going out with him again :rolleyes:

2 is def optimum - shows he's interested but not desperate

Reply 4

the_fridge

Mr J

,But what has most effect on you? I'm having an arguement with a mate and he thinks 7 days, which I think may be a bit too long.

7 days is definitely too long.. after one week I might even forget what the guy's name was or that we even went on a date :p:

I think that the most effective move is to send a message the next day around luch time :biggrin:

Reply 5

MagicNMedicine

20

What is teh point of the days you've waited?

If a girl has gone to the trouble of making an effort with me and given me her number then I would always text the next day to see if she wanted to meet up again. Feels like common courtesy if you like someone to keep in contact rather than play games with them to 'show your not desperate'.

Reply 6

hugatree

11

Why does it matter? :confused:

Text her whenever you feel like seeing her again/telling her sth random. That's what she gave you her number for, cos she's interested. Duh.

Reply 7

puppy

I just think anyone who thinks like that is a jerk. If you like someone txt them. If someone didn't txt me within the next two days or so I'd have txt them by then anyway so their little mind game would be rendered useless.

Reply 8

Oddity

1

Mr J

OK ladies,

It's not big or clever ...but it's what the majority of women appear to want at the start of dating.

How long should the guy leave it before 1st texting a girl after getting her number?

Note: I'm not asking for confirmation that it would be good if they texted straight away, etc. But what has most effect on you? I'm having an arguement with a mate and he thinks 7 days, which I think may be a bit too long.

Any thoughts?

Mr J

2 - 3 days is perfect, i think. not too sticky or too indifferent.
Is this the girl you weren't sure of? The one from the other thread?

Reply 9

Mr J

OP

no - not her, some1 new

Reply 10

Tim Street

It doesnt ****ing matter if you get the txt after a day or 4 days or 1 minute, if you like someone you want them to txt you. Would you rather be kept waiting or have a txt? id rather have a txt.

Reply 11

55909

1

Id have thought he weren't worth it if it was left more than 2days, besides id have worried myself senseless like "oh my god what if i had spoke too much/ not enuf/ what if i spoke ****/ probably didnt like me/ whats not to like about me/ B***ard/ who does he think he is playing women...and eventually id end up thinking that you obviously werent interested because i didnt put out on a first date etc.." so 2days tops, if u like her u like her, why deny yourself isnt that like self torture for you guys?

Reply 12

minicoopa

1

i never think about how long to wait... although im a girl. if i have someones number i thank them when i get home for a nice evening, if i want to see them again, and then say hope they got home safe.

just think its polite. when a guy txts me the next day i think- o im on his mind, which is nice. so long as its not constant txting. thats a bit....too much.

overall i dont think u should wait, if u want to txt her then do.

Reply 13

Debussy

1

2-3 days. unless you've just been out, in which case either later that night or the next day text her to say you had a good time or whatever.

Optimum leave them hanging time...

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