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Original post by cole-slaw
Is that what people said to you when you went to uni? Mate I am so sorry you've had such a hard life.
Nope, people don't say that to me, because I'm not a dick like you are. People know not to do that kind of stuff to me cause I'm safe like that
EDIT: Either way, thanks bud, turns out an argument's what I needed tonight (and that's not sarcasm).
(edited 9 years ago)
Original post by mine turtle
Nope, people don't say that to me, because I'm not a dick like you are. People know not to do that kind of stuff to me cause I'm safe like that
EDIT: Either way, thanks bud, turns out an argument's what I needed tonight (and that's not sarcasm).
EDIT: Either way, thanks bud, turns out an argument's what I needed tonight (and that's not sarcasm).
I'm sorry mate, I must have got you confused with the loser who said
mine turtle
This is like reading my life story 
after a long story about going through the entire 3 years on uni without making a single friend.
Clearly, this could not have been you, because, as you claim, you are "not a dick", and so would easily have made hundreds of friends.
I haven't got no friends and i don't know what to do, I feel like no one likes me! I broke up with my group of friends and i don't have no one! I've got exams coming up and i don't know what to do! 
Original post by Jayne04h
I'm two months into university and my self esteem and confidence is rock bottom. I've met a few people and made a few friends, but we meet in societies and lectures etc and we don't hang out outside of it.
Today one of the girls in my society turned me down for renting a flat with them because she said the rest of the girls didn't want a 6th person as they think they have enough. I've just realised that i have no one to call a real friend here and i feel completely alone. I skype and texts my friends at home every day and i'm going to see them in the holidays, but i just feel empty and sad and i need to know that it will get better.
I don't like the societies that i'm in. One of them no one talks, we just sit and listen to a man talking for an hour. The other, because i'm shy, is hard to talk as it's mostly group conversations, so i'll just listen rather than speak myself.
I would start more societies but with exams in January i really need to start revising for them.
Does anyone have any advice, or hopefully stories where you feel the same? My dad said people he's talked to say that the 2nd term is better, but i feel like i should have made friends by now.
Today one of the girls in my society turned me down for renting a flat with them because she said the rest of the girls didn't want a 6th person as they think they have enough. I've just realised that i have no one to call a real friend here and i feel completely alone. I skype and texts my friends at home every day and i'm going to see them in the holidays, but i just feel empty and sad and i need to know that it will get better.
I don't like the societies that i'm in. One of them no one talks, we just sit and listen to a man talking for an hour. The other, because i'm shy, is hard to talk as it's mostly group conversations, so i'll just listen rather than speak myself.
I would start more societies but with exams in January i really need to start revising for them.
Does anyone have any advice, or hopefully stories where you feel the same? My dad said people he's talked to say that the 2nd term is better, but i feel like i should have made friends by now.
Jayne, sign up and download the Meetup app. It's great for meeting people who have similar interests.
For example I joined various K-Pop music fan groups and a few dinner evening groups and met loads of great people.
There are groups for all sorts, I'm sure you will find one that is focused on something you are interested in.
Edit: Cole-slaw don't be a melt mate.
(edited 9 years ago)
Original post by chezsu
Jayne, sign up and download the Meetup app. It's great for meeting people who have similar interests.
For example I joined various K-Pop music fan groups and a few dinner evening groups and met loads of great people.
There are groups for all sorts, I'm sure you will find one that is focused on something you are interested in.
Edit: Cole-slaw don't be a melt mate.
For example I joined various K-Pop music fan groups and a few dinner evening groups and met loads of great people.
There are groups for all sorts, I'm sure you will find one that is focused on something you are interested in.
Edit: Cole-slaw don't be a melt mate.
I'm sorry that my question is totally irrelevant to this thread but are you a kpop fan?
Original post by pagorai
I'm sorry that my question is totally irrelevant to this thread but are you a kpop fan?
No need to apologise.
Yeah I'm into K-Pop. Hyuna, 4 minute, Wonder Girls (RIP) T-ara , Kara, BOA.... I love loads of it.
Original post by chezsu
No need to apologise.
Yeah I'm into K-Pop. Hyuna, 4 minute, Wonder Girls (RIP) T-ara , Kara, BOA.... I love loads of it.
Yeah I'm into K-Pop. Hyuna, 4 minute, Wonder Girls (RIP) T-ara , Kara, BOA.... I love loads of it.
Oh thats great, i am into K-pop as well!
Original post by pagorai
Oh thats great, i am into K-pop as well!
Cool! What idols do you like?
Original post by Rock-Sophie
I haven't got no friends and i don't know what to do, I feel like no one likes me! I broke up with my group of friends and i don't have no one! I've got exams coming up and i don't know what to do!
focus on your exams for now, if you need help there's always TSR (and your teachers)
Original post by chezsu
Cool! What idols do you like?
I am a YG stan, Block B, Bts, Exo, sistar
I've just finished my last year at uni and I was in the same boat, and it was utter rubbish. I used to have people I would talk to occasionally on my course (a handful) and then my flatmates (who were all on a separate course to me), but that was it. I lived with different people every year in halls so that I had more chance of finding friends and sticking with them, but although my flatmates are lovely and I get on with them really well, I cant really say I've had anyone that I've 'stuck' with the entire time.
It sucks and there has been many times where I've sat and thought "is it me that's the problem" even though I do like going on nights out like other people did. However for some reason none of the people I knew seemed that bothered about being close friends with me and I only found that they bothered with me when I used to contact them, I never found that they would contact me out of the blue every now and again, I was always doing the running and doing that for 3 years gets a bit boring.
It's a very lonely time if you don't make the effort but for the whole 3 years I have done nothing but make the effort and I cant understand it because I am a normal person who likes doing things, going out, having a laugh and just general things. But for some reason, it just didn't work out.
If I could advise you on something, try to move in with different people you don't know every year, so that there's a new chance of meeting friends.
My first year flatmates were so nice and I was too much of a bookworm to ever go out with them and I definitely missed my opportunity to have an amazing friendship if I had made the effort with them. My second year flatmates were not nice because they all lived with each other the year before and they definitely didn't want anyone coming into their 'friendship circle'. My third year flatmates are lovely but by this time, we are all on different courses and they are on placement so never at home (and they have their own friends in and out of uni), so this year our friendships have been more casual with each other. I don't regret meeting my third year flatmates because they are lovely but I wish I had made more of an effort with my first year flat and maybe things would be different.
To be honest, if I wasn't the type of person to get on with my studies, I would have had a breakdown by now because if I wasn't doing work I would just be alone. I'm just thankful that I can move out now because the whole 'uni social experience' has been very disappointing.
It sucks and there has been many times where I've sat and thought "is it me that's the problem" even though I do like going on nights out like other people did. However for some reason none of the people I knew seemed that bothered about being close friends with me and I only found that they bothered with me when I used to contact them, I never found that they would contact me out of the blue every now and again, I was always doing the running and doing that for 3 years gets a bit boring.
It's a very lonely time if you don't make the effort but for the whole 3 years I have done nothing but make the effort and I cant understand it because I am a normal person who likes doing things, going out, having a laugh and just general things. But for some reason, it just didn't work out.
If I could advise you on something, try to move in with different people you don't know every year, so that there's a new chance of meeting friends.
My first year flatmates were so nice and I was too much of a bookworm to ever go out with them and I definitely missed my opportunity to have an amazing friendship if I had made the effort with them. My second year flatmates were not nice because they all lived with each other the year before and they definitely didn't want anyone coming into their 'friendship circle'. My third year flatmates are lovely but by this time, we are all on different courses and they are on placement so never at home (and they have their own friends in and out of uni), so this year our friendships have been more casual with each other. I don't regret meeting my third year flatmates because they are lovely but I wish I had made more of an effort with my first year flat and maybe things would be different.
To be honest, if I wasn't the type of person to get on with my studies, I would have had a breakdown by now because if I wasn't doing work I would just be alone. I'm just thankful that I can move out now because the whole 'uni social experience' has been very disappointing.
Original post by Jayne04h
I'm two months into university and my self esteem and confidence is rock bottom. I've met a few people and made a few friends, but we meet in societies and lectures etc and we don't hang out outside of it.
Today one of the girls in my society turned me down for renting a flat with them because she said the rest of the girls didn't want a 6th person as they think they have enough. I've just realised that i have no one to call a real friend here and i feel completely alone. I skype and texts my friends at home every day and i'm going to see them in the holidays, but i just feel empty and sad and i need to know that it will get better.
I don't like the societies that i'm in. One of them no one talks, we just sit and listen to a man talking for an hour. The other, because i'm shy, is hard to talk as it's mostly group conversations, so i'll just listen rather than speak myself.
I would start more societies but with exams in January i really need to start revising for them.
Does anyone have any advice, or hopefully stories where you feel the same? My dad said people he's talked to say that the 2nd term is better, but i feel like i should have made friends by now.
Today one of the girls in my society turned me down for renting a flat with them because she said the rest of the girls didn't want a 6th person as they think they have enough. I've just realised that i have no one to call a real friend here and i feel completely alone. I skype and texts my friends at home every day and i'm going to see them in the holidays, but i just feel empty and sad and i need to know that it will get better.
I don't like the societies that i'm in. One of them no one talks, we just sit and listen to a man talking for an hour. The other, because i'm shy, is hard to talk as it's mostly group conversations, so i'll just listen rather than speak myself.
I would start more societies but with exams in January i really need to start revising for them.
Does anyone have any advice, or hopefully stories where you feel the same? My dad said people he's talked to say that the 2nd term is better, but i feel like i should have made friends by now.
Honestly your not the only one who feels like this. I'm in my first year at uni living away from home studying nursing an so I've never felt more alone. Ive not clicked with anyone and at this moment in time I really don't wanna be here but I'm hoping if I stick it out the next three year will fly by. Ive joined two societies but haven't really made friends so you are lucky to have found people I suppose as that could be your escape from your flat and feeling of loneliness. Seek help! I have seen student support and I also face time and message my boyfriend and mam all the time I miss them so much but they keep reminding me not to give up. Just realise your not alone. Drop me an inbox anytime because I also feel lonely
sorry for baffling on hope this makes sense(edited 7 years ago)
Original post by Georgiarees98
Honestly your not the only one who feels like this. I'm in my first year at uni living away from home studying nursing an so I've never felt more alone. Ive not clicked with anyone and at this moment in time I really don't wanna be here but I'm hoping to the next three year do fly by if i stick it out. I joined do two societies but haven't really made friends so you are lucky to have found people I suppose that could be your escape from your flat answer loneliness. Seek help I have seen student support and I also face time and message my boyfriend and mam all the time I miss them so much but they keep reminding me not to give up. Just realise your not alone. Drop me an inbox anytime because I also feel lonely sorry for baffling on hope this makes sense
sorry for baffling on hope this makes senseToo bad it's four years since the OP was posted
Original post by shawn_o1
Too bad it's four years since the OP was posted
Nope, my course lasts three years
A great book, if you have time to fit another one in is by Dale Carnegie How to win friends and influence people, it’s a bit of a cheesy title but it was written a while ago. It’s sold millions of copies world wide, it also strikes a gentle cord as to where you might be going wrong in making friends.
I'm in my last month of my first year which is a foundation year. I still live in uni halls but have to travel 10 miles/day to a college. Uni promised me the best experience of my life. A time to cherish, but I now I can't see anything in that. I stay in my room with the free time I have and rarely talk to my flatmates who I used to get on with. They've made a friendship group now which I'm not a part of and i dont really like their new friends. I have one friend who I see everyday at college but apart from that I keep to myself. I stopped going out clubbing after freshers and I just never enjoyed it. I try the swimming club occasionally but little time to train has meant I don't really know any of them even though I've been a member for 7 months. I keep to myself most of the time now and I think I'm starting to lose it. My social skills are rubbish now and I'm an awkward person to be around. I was fine before uni. I miss home and everything to do with it. Its got to the point where Im counting down the days until exams are over. Laying in bed hearing my flatmates laugh and become best friends makes me a little jelous and just reminds me that I couldn't do that...if it makes any of you feel any better haha
This is so insensitive and unhelpful. I know people who can't have another drink in their life because of illness etc so it's ignorant to just assume someone isn't drinking to appear better than everyone else.I for one can't drink because of my anxiety but I will happily go out sober and have a good time. Either say something helpful or pipe down.Everyone has different interests and i'm sure there are plenty of other people who don't want to drink at every social occasion too. Putting yourself out there can be tough, but you shouldn't do anything that you don't want to just to please everyone else and try to fit in. Focus on finding people who share similar interests and try suggesting that people do things with you during the day, rather than the evenings or night so people are less inclined to crack open a beer. Remember that you can go out with people who are drinking and just not drink yourself. Some of the best nights out I have had have been when i'm stone cold sober and all my friends are ruined; it's all about finding the right company. Don't feel as if you are missing out, because even if you're sober you are still out socialising and trying which is much better than missing out and staying in bed all day. Have a mocktail, and most people won't even notice that you aren't taking part. You'll soon feel like you're just as much involved in the group as everyone else.Hope this helps! <3
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