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to text or not to text?

i met a really lovely guy at a club on friday night. we spent all night together talking, dancing, kissing etc. he asked if we could swap numbers, and we did, and also acted very generally interested (he wouldn't accept my offer of buying him a drink, opened doors for me, was very polite and sweet). anyway, when we were there he asked if i would text him back if he texted me, and i said i definitely would. it was as if he was nervous about texting me in case i rejected him, or something.

yesterday, i did my usual rubbish thing of giving in and texting him first, because i'm impatient and get fed up waiting! he replied back and told me he was sorry he hadn't texted because he had been at the football all day and he asked me how i'd been. i replied and told him i'd had a nice night, and asked him a couple of questions. i haven't had a reply, and i sent that text about a day ago.

i was wondering if you guys could give me some advice over this! i don't really want to text him twice in a row, but at the same time i feel like i have nothing to lose... if i text him again and he doesn't reply, then i will give up, and move on easily. but i'm not sure if i'd come across as silly to him, or something? i was thinking of sending him a jokey text along the lines of him being a bad boy for not texting.

what do you think?

Reply 1

English and proud

Don't send 2 texts in a row. There is a chance that he's playing mind games, alot of people do that. If he's interested he will text you back. When he does wait a couple of hrs and THEN reply. Don't reply straight away. Play the games sweetheart, play the games that he may be playing. Play it cool.

Reply 2

puppy

Maybe wait a few days then text asking if he'll be at the same club next friday? That way you're being quite 'breezy' in that you're not asking him out anywhere but you're expressing a casual interest in seeing him again if you happened to both be going there again.

Failing that, take the initiative and actually ask him out somewhere. Maybe a phone call would be better so that you're not waiting for a reply.

Totally depends on how you want to play it.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

puppy - that's how i'd normally play is, except i'm not going to be out clubbing in the near future because of a-levels :frown:

so i really won't see him unless he texts me :frown:

god, i hate games, i don't know what to do!

Reply 4

silence

16

if he didn't text back because he's not interested, then you've got nothing to lose really by texting again. if you want to text, then text; then, if he replies, it'll be all gravy.

Reply 5

Clarence

14

Ha ha, i started a thread with exactly the same title a while back....jokes.

Reply 6

pol_student

8

I like the plan of texting him, asking if he's a bad boy for not replying. Though I'd maybe waiting another day or so.

Remember, there could be a logical reason... such as him running out of credit, etc.

Reply 7

the_fridge

Personally I hate these texting/calling games.. I'm usually myself and if I feel like texting I do so..if they don't reply for too long I simply delete their number so I wont be able to text them unless they text me first :wink:

Reply 8

supernova2

11

why cant people just phone each other...instant reply!

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

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the_fridge

Personally I hate these texting/calling games.. I'm usually myself and if I feel like texting I do so..if they don't reply for too long I simply delete their number so I wont be able to text them unless they text me first :wink:

i don't really like games myself, but right now i can't tell if he's playing one or not, so i have to play along as if he is, i guess!

i'm just unsure because it was him who asked for my number, him who kept asking if i would reply if he texted me, etc... confused!!

Reply 10

laurenlauren

1

I know at the time it seems like AGES, but to be honest, a day isn't very long. He's probably concerned that you think he's a bit keen, after all it sounds like he's made most of the moves so far. Your best bet is to leave it for a few days....it sounds like he'll reply to me!

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

laurenlauren

I know at the time it seems like AGES, but to be honest, a day isn't very long. He's probably concerned that you think he's a bit keen, after all it sounds like he's made most of the moves so far. Your best bet is to leave it for a few days....it sounds like he'll reply to me!

awww, i hope you're right. yeah, when i think about it i suppose a day isn't really that long - after all, i have read about people leaving it for a whole week before texting on these forums... confused, confused!

Reply 12

the_fridge

Anonymous

i don't really like games myself, but right now i can't tell if he's playing one or not, so i have to play along as if he is, i guess!

i'm just unsure because it was him who asked for my number, him who kept asking if i would reply if he texted me, etc... confused!!

well then maybe he's just really busy.. as he mention football maybe he has practice and is preoccupied with school (just like you with A-leves) etc.. then all I can do is wish you good luck and a strong will (so you wont double text him) :wink:

Reply 13

*lucy_lou*

English and proud

Don't send 2 texts in a row. There is a chance that he's playing mind games, alot of people do that. If he's interested he will text you back. When he does wait a couple of hrs and THEN reply. Don't reply straight away. Play the games sweetheart, play the games that he may be playing. Play it cool.

i concur

*LOU*

Reply 14

Leigh

15

If you want to talk to him/see him again, text.
If you don't, don't text.
What's the worst that can happen?

I would like to point out that I didn't read the OP, but these things are always the same really.

Reply 15

Kittennffc

15

I swear to God, that exact same thing happened to me! I gave in first and text him, got a reply like 7 hours later saying he'd been watching football! Hmm, i'd maybe leave it a day to see if he texts back or not. If you see this going anywhere, text him tomorrow, if you don't delete his number :smile:

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

King Leigh

If you want to talk to him/see him again, text.
If you don't, don't text.
What's the worst that can happen?

I would like to point out that I didn't read the OP, but these things are always the same really.

i suppose so. my dilemma was just that i don't want to crowd him/freak him out by texting him twice in a row. therefore, i don't feel that i CAN text him right now, even though i would like it, because it is his turn. sort of thing.

Reply 17

JaF

1

When will people learn to use the 48 hour rule!

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

Kittennffc

I swear to God, that exact same thing happened to me! I gave in first and text him, got a reply like 7 hours later saying he'd been watching football! Hmm, i'd maybe leave it a day to see if he texts back or not. If you see this going anywhere, text him tomorrow, if you don't delete his number :smile:

haha, weird, and i also posted the same title as Clarence did, apparently. weird! what happened in the end in your case?

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

JaF

When will people learn to use the 48 hour rule!

i didn't even know there was one!

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