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So i have this friend whos a girl.We always flirt and get on really well in fact were very "couply". On fri night i was out on a date with another girl and my friend sent me a text asking if i was ok.This other girl got the text and told her to leave me alone.My friend went mad and told her to get lost and "how dare she just walk in when she cares for me and is my best friend",she seemed really really angry. I was really drunk and started telling my friend i loved her by text.S
he replied with "tell that to your date!".Then she said awwww just one more week of classes then you will have the whole summer of me"!. The next morning she sent me a text saying "i got your texts saying i love you,is your date still talking to you?". I laughed it off by saying oh i must have said that by mistake because i was so drunk. Problem is i do love my friend,i dont know what to do,is she interested in me or does she just like the attention,i really dont know.l........oh and i forgot to say my friend has a boyfriend who is a complete d***.

Reply 1

the_fridge

texting/making phone calls while being drunk isn't generally a good idea but anyway.. If she's your friend and has a boyfriend (and she is really serious about it) then you should let it go or otherwise you migh spoil your friendship completely (once happeden to a guy I know...)

Reply 2

Vampyrcorn

14

Your friend seems to change genders half way through. Or maybe I just don't understand the story.

Your question is really hard to answer since we don't know the girl but by the way she has a boyfriend it would suggest that she doesn't really feel the same way and is just a really caring and protective friend. Sorry. :frown:

I could easily be wrong though, don't take my word for it.

Reply 3

rocketboy86

5

she seems really protective..your date did kind of overreact though, must say. don't let her continue to rule you if things become serious.
unless you like being dominated that is...

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Well,she tells me shes not going to marry or move in with her bf.When i meet a new girl shes always MEGA interested in her,like she wants to meet her and asks if im serious about her she seens almost overly interested in her.Shes always tells me she cares about me and ive caught her staring at me then when i looked at her she looked away quickly,embarrased.Then again maybe im just reading into things that arent there.

Reply 5

pol_student

8

To be honest with you, it sounds to me like this friend of yours is jealous. That's probably why she is so interested in these other girls. And also why she texts you in the middle of dates.

When you say you love this girl, are we talking as a friend, or potentially something more?

In my humble opinion, I think that you and this girl need to have a serious, proper conversation about the state of your relationship and any potential future that you may or may not have together. If you want to be with her, then how is she going to know unless you tell her?!

Maybe she is too afraid to tell you because she values what you have and doesn't want to damage that in case you don't feel the same way. Is this girl shy? And personally, if this guy that she's with is a di*k then I wouldn't give him a second thought - do what is right for you and your friend. Don't let her waste her time on some guy that she obviously thinks she doesn't have a future with, if she could have you!

Reply 6

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pol_student

To be honest with you, it sounds to me like this friend of yours is jealous. That's probably why she is so interested in these other girls. And also why she texts you in the middle of dates.

When you say you love this girl, are we talking as a friend, or potentially something more?

In my humble opinion, I think that you and this girl need to have a serious, proper conversation about the state of your relationship and any potential future that you may or may not have together. If you want to be with her, then how is she going to know unless you tell her?!

Maybe she is too afraid to tell you because she values what you have and doesn't want to damage that in case you don't feel the same way. Is this girl shy? And personally, if this guy that she's with is a di*k then I wouldn't give him a second thought - do what is right for you and your friend. Don't let her waste her time on some guy that she obviously thinks she doesn't have a future with, if she could have you!

Yeah,i agree with you.The thing is ive texted her so many times when im drunk saying i love her and then the next day said it was the drink talking and i didnt really mean.She always seems gutted when i say i didnt mean it but i dont know what she is thinking.Only last week she was saying id make a great dad and a great "everything else" i thought that meant id be a great boyfriend,but i just laughed it off as i wasnt sure.
I do like her more than a friend but when you really really like someone its very difficult to just come out and say so.There has been loads of hints i think she has tried to give to me but my self esteem always says oh she doesnt like you like that.
Im going to have to get her out drinking then have it out with her!. The guy she is with is a complete waster.She told me he feels threatened by me and he hates me!.

Reply 7

pol_student

8

Anonymous

Yeah,i agree with you.The thing is ive texted her so many times when im drunk saying i love her and then the next day said it was the drink talking and i didnt really mean.She always seems gutted when i say i didnt mean it but i dont know what she is thinking.Only last week she was saying id make a great dad and a great "everything else" i thought that meant id be a great boyfriend,but i just laughed it off as i wasnt sure.
I do like her more than a friend but when you really really like someone its very difficult to just come out and say so.There has been loads of hints i think she has tried to give to me but my self esteem always says oh she doesnt like you like that.
Im going to have to get her out drinking then have it out with her!. The guy she is with is a complete waster.She told me he feels threatened by me and he hates me!.

I don't think drinking is the answer here - she might just say the next morning that it was the drink talking! And if you drink, then given your track record, maybe you'll take back whatever you say.

I think that it really does sound like this girl does like you. I think you just need to be confident in that, and in yourself (because it does sound like you aren't that confident yourself?) and be honest and open with her. Maybe you could have an evening out doing something and then a quite chat somewhere after?

I also think that maybe you should try and tell her that all the times you told her you loved her, and retracted it saying it was the drink talking, you meant it.

Reply 8

MattMatt

1

These long stories buy me. Really want to know what your on about, but can't be arse reading it.

Shame.

Reply 9

latentcorpse

12

i once attended a party where this guy got drunk for the first time and phoned up this girl and began apoligising for causing the indian tsunami - cant quite remember his reasoning i was pretty far out myself but it was one of the funniest things ever

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