Relationship stuff

OP

soooooooooo meant to post that anonymous

yes i am gay though

Reply 3

hugatree

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Phonicsdude

I thought you were male.

Edit: Wait, are you gay?

He is.

I don't know man. Give it time. After years of being together the love might get less intense (or so they say). :smile:

Doesn't mean you don't love him anymore.

Reply 4

hitmanuk2k

It's an old cliche but they say if you have to ask, it probably isn't love.

Reply 5

hugatree

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hitmanuk2k

It's an old cliche but they say if you have to ask, it probably isn't love.

I used to say that but that's not necessarily so. A crush turns into love and turns into deep affection.

Reply 6

OP

ive got a better cliche...

maybe sometimes love isnt enough?

Reply 7

hugatree

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TKR

maybe sometimes love isnt enough?

I like to think it is. :redface:

Loneliness beats being heartbroken.

Reply 8

TKR

so ive been with my boyfriend for over a year he cheated on me while i was at uni in november and after quite a huge inward struggle i forgave him and we got back together in january and been pretty much okay since although distance when im at uni has been an issue.

i dont know really - there seems to be a lot against the relationship - i used ot be SO certain I loved him and now I still think I do i dont know if maybe ive just got kind of numb to the feeling.... is it possible to fall out of love?

im not sure what's really keeping me in the relationship.... is it genuinely love or is it just inertia/fear of being single? how do i tell?

wah

I've been in sort of the same situation. My exboyfriend cheated on me, and I stayed with him. We eventually broke up about 3 months after he cheated on me, because I was going to Uni in another country and knew that he wouldn't stay faithful. Though, throughout those last 3 months I already knew that our relationship wasn't going to last... but I still stayed with him because I didn't want to be alone through prom, graduation, my birthday. I wasn't aware of it, but even though I wasn't happy in the relationship I stayed because I was comfortable, and it was safe.

I think that even if you really do love him, it's incredibly hard to stay with someone who has hurt you so much. I forgave my ex, but I never forgot what he did... and that had a very negative effect on our whole relationship. I never had faith in us. (though to be honest, when I think about it now... we were doomed from the beginning)

Reply 9

TKR

ive got a better cliche...

maybe sometimes love isnt enough?

Umm no silly..

All you need is love!

or is it...

Love is a battlefield?...

I'll go with the latter..

Reply 10

Johnny

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TKR

soooooooooo meant to post that anonymous

That sooooooooo made me laugh! *reps

I dunno, I don't think I could actually forgive somebody who cheated on me whilst I was away. LDR's are so hard to keep up, just because it can feel like there's so much time that you've missed out on together when you meet up after a long time apart.

I don't envy your position at all, but maybe you do need to talk to him... easy as it is to say. Hope it all turns out well anyway.

(still laughing at that second post! hehe)

Reply 11

Ron Stoppable

14

jessicarabbit

Umm no silly..

All you need is love!

or is it...

Love is a battlefield?...

I'll go with the latter..

Pat Benetar! Hang on, you know that song? How young are you?! :wink:

Reply 12

feel.the.Sunshine!

Pat Benetar! Hang on, you know that song? How young are you?! :wink:

Jesus Christ I love that song.

I love Pat Benatar.

Who doesn't?!

Reply 13

OP

whoa whoa whoa people

my issues here yes?

Reply 14

TKR

whoa whoa whoa people

my issues here yes?

Oops sorry :redface:

Though I always have a listen to Pat Benatar when I need relationship advice.

Reply 15

Tyler Durden

17

Sometimes in a situation like that, a break can give you the objectivity needed to decide whether the other person means enough to you to continue. To be honest, yes, you can fall out of love and if you're not sure whether you love him or not then maybe you have done so. Often though you'll only realise you love someone when you can't have them anymore (which is a pain... obviously!) Either way it's not easy. If you don't have any contact for a week or something it might give you time to reflect.

Also @ Phonicsdude's first post: Sharp as a tack my friend, sharp as a tack. :p:

Reply 16

Ron Stoppable

14

JR - 13 going on 30 introduced her to me. And Jennifer Garner :smile:

What's your top 5-10 PB songs?

TKR - have an Ibiza-ish break somewhere like Brighton, open your mind and fall for someone truly wonderful.

Reply 17

OP