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I'm in love, how do I get over him?

I know that I have fallen in love with this guy.

We have kissed and had sexual contact before and he would still regard me as a good friend, but for various reasons that I don't want to go into, nothing can ever come of it again.

I'm desperately in love with him though, and I can't get him out of my head. I can't eat or sleep and he's always the first thing on my mind when I wake up.

I can't go on like this because nothing can happen, it's making me miserable and I need to move on. How do I get over it?

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u need to honestly admit to urself that nothing will happen with him.. if u secretly hope u will ul never get over him.
keep urself busy, get a job, focus on ur studies, spend more time with family and friends.. go out more.
find someone else, you can meet them at work, or through friends.. or even on nights out.
it will be really hard in the beginning, but take it one day at a time. U may struggle the first few days.. but one u get the hang of it U'l be okay. Fpr example.. ul feel **** for four days.. then for the next week you'l be fine, and then feel like **** for one day. and then be okay for another week, then be crappy for one more day.. then ul go for two more weeks.. until after a few weeks ul think about him and it wont bother u as much anymore.
to every action.. there is an equal and opposite reaction... if u make progress in ur life.. other good things will happen. if u do nothing.. nothing will happen.

Anonymous

I know that I have fallen in love with this guy.

We have kissed and had sexual contact before and he would still regard me as a good friend, but for various reasons that I don't want to go into, nothing can ever come of it again.

I'm desperately in love with him though, and I can't get him out of my head. I can't eat or sleep and he's always the first thing on my mind when I wake up.

I can't go on like this because nothing can happen, it's making me miserable and I need to move on. How do I get over it?

same situation ere! so i kinda started an arguement and told him i was cuttin him outta my life :rolleyes:

:rolleyes:

didnt think i wud miss him as much as i do lol so tempted to jus txt him to see if hes ok but im not goin too lol dont let any guy run ur life tell him its all or nothing!!!!

That's so sad. :frown:

:frown:

I hope you're sure about HAVING to let go.

hugatree

That's so sad. :frown:

:frown:

I hope you're sure about HAVING to let go.

Well he's moving to Canada.

So yeah, basically.

Well unfortunately, there's only one cure. Time. And for ages and ages, it's going to suck, but I do advise this. Tell him how you feel. At least get it off your chest and you'll feel a lot stronger about forgetting him when you've had the conversation, and it's clear that whatever you had going on is over.

Original Poster

I'm in love, how do I get over him?

Put your hands on his shoulders and jump!

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Do what I do - meet new people all the time. Just do it starting today and soon, within two years if you're good, you'll fall for someone you can have a beautifully fulfilling relationship with.

OP

But NOBODY compares to him. I mean nobody. I honestly think he's the one for me.

Anonymous

But NOBODY compares to him. I mean nobody. I honestly think he's the one for me.

If he was the one for you than surely he would feel the same way about you. Love is a funny thing; it has has to work both ways. Perhaps what you feel is just infatutation. I have a guy friend who's liked me for the past two years. It's really led to nothing and just makes him moody and upset all the time. He clings on to hope even though I've made it clear thousands of times that there's none. Also it comes to the point where it really annoys me. I suggest what the previous have suggested, give it some time and try to direct your attention to other things, like friends and hobbies. I'm sure you'll be fine :wink:

:wink:

how often do you see him??

the best thing would be if you could avoid him, but i have no idea if you have to see him everyday.....

OP

How do I tell him I love him without looking like a total desperate stalker?

I have to tell him before he goes. Otherwise I'll always be wondering, "What if."

Shag his best mate, that oughta do it

^ I would "tell" a woman with a passionate stolen kiss. Vice versa may well have the same effect.

What do you want to do, OP?

OP

I want to be with him, that's what I want. Even if I can't have any physical contact with him, I would kill just to get five minutes of his company.

Anonymous

I want to be with him, that's what I want. Even if I can't have any physical contact with him, I would kill just to get five minutes of his company.

Obsessing won't get you anywhere. I know it's easier said than done but you have to get over it. Either that or face him, tell him you have feelings for him and if that yields into a beautifully happy relationship than, really, great, but if not than you'll still have to get over it. There are far more important things in life than having a bf or being madly inlove. Don't be dependant on the want to be with someone.

Anonymous

I know that I have fallen in love with this guy.

We have kissed and had sexual contact before and he would still regard me as a good friend, but for various reasons that I don't want to go into, nothing can ever come of it again.

I'm desperately in love with him though, and I can't get him out of my head. I can't eat or sleep and he's always the first thing on my mind when I wake up.

I can't go on like this because nothing can happen, it's making me miserable and I need to move on. How do I get over it?

Good luck : )

It'll take lots of time... and the less contact the better.

munchkin88

Well he's moving to Canada.

So yeah, basically.

For good?
He might come back in a year or two..? Or you could move there? Long-distance relationships can work. You obv. seem to love him enough to make it work. I think you should talk to him asap and see what he thinks.

If he told you he's moving to Canada surely this conv. should have already taken place... Good luck.

have a random one night stand
it might sound slutty but trust me they are great for clearing out your head

How old are you?

I'm in some what of a similar situation! Love this guy to bits, were good mates etc. I like him, don't know if he feels the same way, but by the looks of it I doubt it, so I just stopped calling him, it's been two weeks, and he hasn't bothered calling me, which makes me think he doesn't care, so why should I!! Even though I get so tempted to call, I don't!
It works, just try to avoid calling him etc. unless ofcourse you see him if he goes to your coll/uni or something.

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