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How would you feel in my position?

I know theres another thread like this one... But what would you do if you were in my position?

I went out with a guy for like a month and a half (if you include easter), so really not that long. Im completely infatuated with him and have been since ive started being in one of his classes. At our school prom, with the help of alcohol, i got with him. Anyway, i already knew that he was stil in love with a girl who left last year, so i was so surprised when we started going out...... then during easter, he cheated on me with another girl(the fact that she is absolutely lovely and pretty makes it harder).

I've never been able to talk to him properly...I've been too nervous, or my mind went completely blank. Its not like i dont know what he's like, because ive watched, and he is really nice and funny. And its not like I cant flirt, because i can and i do(unconsiously) which gets me into trouble because i lead people on...But im useless with people i REALLY like(ie him)...and when he called to tell me he'd cheated on me, i couldnt shout at him, because i knew that if either of us were to finish it, it would be him. And he did.

I still have classes with him, and im friends with some of his friends.... and i also have classes with the girl he cheated on me with... so i have to see them everyday, and all i can say to him would be trivial things like "have you the homework for next lesson?

Would you be angry with him/her?
Am I really stupid for being so upset even though we'd only gone out for less than 2 months?

How would you get over him?? i cant get away, its physically impossible...

Reply 1

supernova2

No, I cant believe you take it so lightly. Dont bother with him, hes worthless. I know you may be infatuated or whatever but get over him and move on and choose someone more trustworthy and decent next time.

How can you stand for people being such ***** to you?

BAH!

Reply 2

supernova2

Oh and I forgot to tell you how to get over him, if you want to be rude to him, get with guys infront of him. HAHA!

Reply 3

Biffy Clyro

Would you be angry with him/her?
Am I really stupid for being so upset even though we'd only gone out for less than 2 months?

I'd be very angry and upset if I really liked her... people like that aren't worth the bother.

Just don't give him the satisfaction of you still wanting to be with him even though he cheated.. or he might think he can get away with it do it to someone else in the future.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

I'm in a similar position, I'd been going out with my ex for 6 weeks, but had entered a sexual relationship from pretty much the first week. I became totally infatuated with him, and then he dumped me because he still had feelings for his ex. I know how you feel, because he then flaunted his new gf around (not his ex), which really hurt :'(. He's now split up with her and we've became good friends again. It can work out, but everyone else is saying don't be friends with him, but i cant help it. However, you're situation is slightly worse as he cheated on you. The feelings do subside but after 5 1/2 months i still have strong feelings for him.

Reply 5

Jandarini

Oh, darling, I know exactly how you feel as I more or less just went through the same thing. It's perfectly normal to feel hurt, and rejected - the difference being on my part that my ex is now dating my best friend, which makes it even harder for me to 'escape' him. You're not being stupid at all! The only advice I can give you, really, is to give it a little time. I know it sounds trivial, but seeing as you can't get away from him, there's little more you can do. Hang in there, ok? *hug*