Counsellor

My parent is trying to get me to see a counsellor about all the c*** that's going on in my life right now. Should I go, or will s/he think I'm messed up because I am needing a counsellor? Personally I don't think it's necessary. I just feel down quite a lot, but certainly not enough to need a counsellor.

What do you reckon?

Reply 1

Choad

1

they help loads of poeple in different ways. i cant really see a negative effect of seeing one, as if you decide you dont need it you can stop.

Reply 2

mungukwachupi

I personally could not recommend professional help highly enough when it comes to depression / whatever, but I do think that if you reckon you can cope without it then it may be better just to leave it.

If you're unsure; maybe it would be best to see how you go for a while and then maybe consider it again at a later date

Reply 3

Angelic Sarah

You say you feel down quite a lot.. what harm would it do to see one? Maybe just to see if it helps? Even if you think you dont need it, its always good to talk to a stranger about your problems better than family or friends.. i say give it a chance :smile:

Reply 4

pol_student

8

I don't think that the counsellor would judge you at all. In fact, quite the opposite, as they are there to help.

If you've been feeling down/unhappy then maybe it's worth a go. But if you are really against it don't agree to go, as I can't imagine you getting anything at all out of it if you start of with a negative or un-interested attitude towards the whole thing.

Reply 5

El Scotto

15

Alas12

My parent is trying to get me to see a counsellor about all the c*** that's going on in my life right now. Should I go, or will s/he think I'm messed up because I am needing a counsellor? Personally I don't think it's necessary. I just feel down quite a lot, but certainly not enough to need a counsellor.

What do you reckon?

all depends on how bad the crap is. If its affecting you go see one. theres no shame. Make sure you see the right kind though depending on your type of problems.

they wont think you're messed up, they'll be somewhere where you can chat and get advice.

If you end up seeing a psychiatrist by mistake, dont let them plonk you on anti depressants though as that defeats the point.

Reply 6

No Future

17

Alas12

My parent is trying to get me to see a counsellor about all the c*** that's going on in my life right now. Should I go, or will s/he think I'm messed up because I am needing a counsellor? Personally I don't think it's necessary. I just feel down quite a lot, but certainly not enough to need a counsellor.

What do you reckon?

By he/she do you mean your parent or the counsellor?

If parent: well clearly they already think there's something wrong so seeing a counsellor won't make that any worse

If counsellor: it's their job to help people, they won't (aren't meant) to judge you and have probably dealt with much bigger weirdos anyway. Don't worry, remember there are crazier people out there. :smile:

Seriously, it can't hurt. If you do feel down, why not try and resolve that or at least alleviate it? You have the chance, you have support from your 'rent and you may even find it helpful/learn something. It's not big deal seeing a counsellor, I did read some statistic somewhere that mentioned many people see one yadda ya. (statistics shmatistics...) But anyway, try it and if you don't like it after a few sessions you don't have to carry on.

Reply 7

Niaya

13

Alas12

My parent is trying to get me to see a counsellor about all the c*** that's going on in my life right now. Should I go, or will s/he think I'm messed up because I am needing a counsellor? Personally I don't think it's necessary. I just feel down quite a lot, but certainly not enough to need a counsellor.

What do you reckon?

to be honest it cant hurt if you dont want to try counselling there are other things that i've tried that i really wish i had kept up PM me if you want any more help

Reply 8

Monkey_Maiden

11

If you havn't tried it and arn't totally against it, why not give it a go once. When I was depressed I saw one a few times. It helped a bit but I wasn't really comfortable talking to a complete stranger about all my problems and felt like they were judging me, although they probably wern't was me being paranoid :redface:

It's your choice, don't let other people push you into it

Reply 9

tbm

13

If you were to see a counsellor then Im sure it would help, but it needs to be YOUR choice, not someone elses. And bear in mind that counselling only works if you want it to, theres no point going to see one with a negative attitude about the whole thing as you wont get anything out of it.

Reply 10

frappuccino

6

I think there's no harm in trying. If it turns out the counsellor has nothing to offer you I'm sure he/she would be more than happy to not continue :smile:

Reply 11

Happy1

14

Seeing a counsellor wont work unless youre comfrotable with the idea... you're obviously not sure, so i wouldnt agree to it unless you're sure you'll be comfortable discussing everything with someone. It's too expensive to much about with (IMO).

It may dfinitely help though... these people are trained and have heard it all. They dont judge you, just try to help you work though the problems

Reply 12

girl afraid

I was forced to see a counsellor when I was younger, and it didn't help me. My parents thought it'd change everything overnight, but of course that isn't what happens. I wasn't at the stage where I could talk openly about my problems and the sessions were useless. In the end I told the counsellor I was being made to come, and she said she'd have to report it.

If you don't want to go, you shouldn't have to, after all, counselling actually requires you be to be self-dedicated to gain something from the sessions, which won't happen if you don't even want to be there.

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