What should I do?

Well there's this girl that I really like and we are close friends, and I figured that I should tell her how I feel and I know she doesn't have the same amount of feelings towards me, but I really really like her and don't know what to do and she said we should talk about it sometime but I don't know how to bring it up. Thanks

Reply 1

username47781

put it this way if your not straight with her she won't know how you feel, anyway how do you know she don't feel the same, you don't know till you try.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Well I have told her and I guess I don't know for sure but she didn't exactly go "OMG I can't believe that I feel exactly the same let's get hitched and move to somewhere rural" and I dunno I'm still just thinking about the fact that there is always a small amount of hope becuase I mean what is a world without hope. Went a bit overboard with the hitching thing sorry.

Reply 3

Phantom Phoenix

I think you should definitely talk to her. She might be wondering how to bring it up too, you never know! Seeing as you're close friends, maybe you could spend an evening together and try to bring it up then? At least that way you could sort of lead up to it. How did she respond when you told her?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

She basically said that she kinda thought so and that she saw it coming and said if I ever wanted to talk about it we could. But I just wouldn't know how to obring it up.

Reply 5

Phantom Phoenix

I sympathise, really :smile:

I'm rubbish at this sort of thing too! Is she involved with anyone?

Reply 6

PatchTheCatch

Well she isn't anymore she used to be in a really wierd relationship with this guy who did drugs and stuff and I really didn't like it but she made him happy so I dunno I mean if she's happy with him I guess that's what I really want although I would prefer it if she could be happy and with me instead.

Reply 7

PatchTheCatch

By the way realised I didn't have to be in annonymous becuase she doesn't use TSR she uses a different forum only realised that sorry.

Reply 8

Phantom Phoenix

If she's available I think you have to just bite the bullet and tell her - the worst that can happen is that things'll be a bit uncomfortable for a while, but on the other hand she might be feeling the same way (it's possible her ?unenthusiastic response was just because she was caught off-guard and didn't expect you ever to talk about it). And it's always a good sign if a girl doesn't run for the hills after you say you like her! In fact it sounds like she's left the ball in your court and might even be waiting for you to make a move :smile:

Reply 9

PatchTheCatch

Lol that has to be one of the most positive views on it most of my mates have just made it seem like "NO sorry just no" and I'm like "why" and they're just like "NOOOOOO" But yeah I dunno I guess I could try and talk to her about it but the thing is bringing it up I'm really bad with stuff like that

Reply 10

Phantom Phoenix

I've been on the girl's side of this before and believe me, just because she didn't jump into your arms and declare her undying love and her wish to "get hitched and move somewhere rural" :wink:

doesn't mean she's not interested - I pretty much just stared at the guy for five minutes thinking "errrr....." and I liked him back! Seriously, do talk to her or you'll kick yourself forever!

Reply 11

PatchTheCatch

I know I should and I really will try but I don't get how to bring it up and she's usually always with people and I have a massive self-confidence thing and couldn't do it infront of other people.

Reply 12

Phantom Phoenix

How close friends are you? Like, could you go round hers/have her come to yours for the evening and have a night in? I don't know about you, but I'd never do it in front of other people, so first step would be getting her alone.

Reply 13

PatchTheCatch

Well I have been meaning to show her this film and she might be coming round for that one weekend.

Reply 14

Phantom Phoenix

Perfect, go for it then :smile:

Reply 15

PatchTheCatch

Ok well I've arranged the film outing (kinda) but her mate who I'm also friends with keeps saying that I shouldn't talk to her about it because I'll just get hurt, and I dunno if she's just saying that becuase she thinks it could work and she might lose her friend or what. So yeah I don't really get where she is coming from.