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Reply 20
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by GQ95Tbh the main thing I would say about this whole thing is the more and more you build it up like this the worse its going to be. Over thinking it really is not going to help. Obviously it's not easy but every has to go through this and after you get it out of the way it'll be plain sailing.
My IQ>140 - I am going to constantly analyse and over think everything. Especially when I am a severe fear of being bad at anything I do.
Reply 21
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by AnonymousI will not be able to get it up for a 2/10......
I don't see why you have a problem with that..
I don't see why you have a problem with that..
First of all, you're being misogynistic and sexist by rating them and discarding those you feel a too lowly rated for you. So, yeah, that's an issue.
Secondly, you're assuming all 'good looking', 19 year old girls aren't virgins anymore...
Reply 22
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by AnonymousHi guys,
I am scared of sleeping with a girl - I am just really worried I will be **** at it and I can't take being bad at anything.
I am really clever, funny, confident (have no approach anxiety whatsoever), good at sport, quite wedge, good looking. But I just can't sleep with a girl..
I am really good at gaming girls in clubs or just in everyday life but whenever I have the opportunity to f-close I panic and leave.
I am scared of sleeping with a girl - I am just really worried I will be **** at it and I can't take being bad at anything.
I am really clever, funny, confident (have no approach anxiety whatsoever), good at sport, quite wedge, good looking. But I just can't sleep with a girl..
I am really good at gaming girls in clubs or just in everyday life but whenever I have the opportunity to f-close I panic and leave.
"gaming girls"
"f-close"
Dear god, you got taken in by the "seduction community", didn't you?
Reply 23
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You can shag me if you want, as a practice.
Reply 24
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by AnonymousMy IQ>140 - I am going to constantly analyse and over think everything. Especially when I am a severe fear of being bad at anything I do.
Well in the kindest possible way, your *****d
Reply 25
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by BethCareyFirst of all, you're being misogynistic and sexist by rating them and discarding those you feel a too lowly rated for you. So, yeah, that's an issue.
Secondly, you're assuming all 'good looking', 19 year old girls aren't virgins anymore...
Secondly, you're assuming all 'good looking', 19 year old girls aren't virgins anymore...
Sorry:
No 1) In no way is rating women misogynistic or sexist
No 2 ) I have had experiences or not being able to get it up for unattractive girls.
No 3) I agree but 99.9999% aren't and those that are are soo socially awkward that it would be hard to develop chemistry.
Reply 26
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by Hypocrism"gaming girls"
"f-close"
Dear god, you got taken in by the "seduction community", didn't you?
"f-close"
Dear god, you got taken in by the "seduction community", didn't you?
Not really - I am just really good friends with people who are really into the PUA community and thus I acquire the terminology.
I am thoroughly against the validation of someone's life based on picking up girls
Reply 27
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by AnonymousSorry:
No 1) In no way is rating women misogynistic or sexist
No 2 ) I have had experiences or not being able to get it up for unattractive girls.
No 3) I agree but 99.9999% aren't and those that are are soo socially awkward that it would be hard to develop chemistry.
No 1) In no way is rating women misogynistic or sexist
No 2 ) I have had experiences or not being able to get it up for unattractive girls.
No 3) I agree but 99.9999% aren't and those that are are soo socially awkward that it would be hard to develop chemistry.
1) Rating women is sexist, it's demoralising. That won't get you anywhere near a vagina.
2) I don't see how in any way this is relevant to what I just said.
3) I assure you there are loads more virgins than you expect and you want to develop chemistry but you're unprepared to work for it? So what if they're socially awkward? You're creating barriers for yourself.
I think your standards are obviously too high, suit yourself, your choice. The only problem is it's stopping you from having sex. Which is something ridiculous to stress about anyway. It'll come when it comes. Excuse the pun.
May just have to be happy with rubbing one out for the rest of your life.
Reply 28
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by AnonymousSorry:
No 1) In no way is rating women misogynistic or sexist
No 2 ) I have had experiences or not being able to get it up for unattractive girls.
No 3) I agree but 99.9999% aren't and those that are are soo socially awkward that it would be hard to develop chemistry.
No 1) In no way is rating women misogynistic or sexist
No 2 ) I have had experiences or not being able to get it up for unattractive girls.
No 3) I agree but 99.9999% aren't and those that are are soo socially awkward that it would be hard to develop chemistry.
1) Rating women is sexist, it's demoralising. That won't get you anywhere near a vagina.
2) I don't see how in any way this is relevant to what I just said.
3) I assure you there are loads more virgins than you expect and you want to develop chemistry but you're unprepared to work for it? So what if they're socially awkward? You're creating barriers for yourself.
I think your standards are obviously too high, suit yourself, your choice. The only problem is it's stopping you from having sex. Which is something ridiculous to stress about anyway. It'll come when it comes. Excuse the pun.
May just have to be happy with rubbing one out for the rest of your life.
Reply 29
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by BethCarey1) Rating women is sexist, it's demoralising. That won't get you anywhere near a vagina.
2) I don't see how in any way this is relevant to what I just said.
3) I assure you there are loads more virgins than you expect and you want to develop chemistry but you're unprepared to work for it? So what if they're socially awkward? You're creating barriers for yourself.
I think your standards are obviously too high, suit yourself, your choice. The only problem is it's stopping you from having sex. Which is something ridiculous to stress about anyway. It'll come when it comes. Excuse the pun.
May just have to be happy with rubbing one out for the rest of your life.
2) I don't see how in any way this is relevant to what I just said.
3) I assure you there are loads more virgins than you expect and you want to develop chemistry but you're unprepared to work for it? So what if they're socially awkward? You're creating barriers for yourself.
I think your standards are obviously too high, suit yourself, your choice. The only problem is it's stopping you from having sex. Which is something ridiculous to stress about anyway. It'll come when it comes. Excuse the pun.
May just have to be happy with rubbing one out for the rest of your life.
3) I don't see how this is the case.... there really aren't that many virgins at age 19... If I can't connect with them because they are weird it obviously means I won't sleep with them.
I don't see how my standards are too high - I can get with and go back with girls within my standards just I run-away at the opportunity to close..
Reply 30
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by AnonymousHi guys,
I am scared of sleeping with a girl - I am just really worried I will be **** at it and I can't take being bad at anything.
I am really clever, funny, confident (have no approach anxiety whatsoever), good at sport, quite wedge, good looking. But I just can't sleep with a girl..
I am really good at gaming girls in clubs or just in everyday life but whenever I have the opportunity to f-close I panic and leave.
I am scared of sleeping with a girl - I am just really worried I will be **** at it and I can't take being bad at anything.
I am really clever, funny, confident (have no approach anxiety whatsoever), good at sport, quite wedge, good looking. But I just can't sleep with a girl..
I am really good at gaming girls in clubs or just in everyday life but whenever I have the opportunity to f-close I panic and leave.
From my own personal experience, and from almost everyone i've spoken to, the first time has been really really bad! It's made out to be all romantic and wonderful, and you're meant to feel brilliant, but it was awkward, painful and uncomfortable, which is why it's vital - with a trillion other reasons - to do it with someone who you completely trust and like! It's only when you start to properly get into it, start to experiment, when your partner learns what turns you on, and you learn what turns your partner on, then it starts to get good
If a girl from a club is willing to come back with you, odds are is that she's going to be experienced, and may have pretty high standards! I mean, i'm not suggesting you NEED to lose it with a girlfriend/boyfriend, I didn't, but we'd been good friends for about 4 years beforehand, always had a thing for each other, and been flirting for absolutely ages, and I trusted him 100% completely, which made it a lot less awkward compared to if I'd lost it with a complete randomer!So basically long story short, don't worry about being bad on your first time, cos you probably will be, which is why it's an awful idea to lose it with someone you've just met or don't trust...
Reply 31
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by Anonymous3) I don't see how this is the case.... there really aren't that many virgins at age 19... If I can't connect with them because they are weird it obviously means I won't sleep with them.
I don't see how my standards are too high - I can get with and go back with girls within my standards just I run-away at the opportunity to close..
I don't see how my standards are too high - I can get with and go back with girls within my standards just I run-away at the opportunity to close..
Well, that's an issue. Clearly you're not ready for sex.
Reply 32
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by Anonymous3) I don't see how this is the case.... there really aren't that many virgins at age 19... If I can't connect with them because they are weird it obviously means I won't sleep with them.
I don't see how my standards are too high - I can get with and go back with girls within my standards just I run-away at the opportunity to close..
I don't see how my standards are too high - I can get with and go back with girls within my standards just I run-away at the opportunity to close..
Well, that's an issue. It seems that clearly you're not ready for sex. You need to sort this out yourself.
And there really are loads of virgins at age 19. Just for some more info socially awkward =/= weird.
Reply 33
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by AnonymousMy IQ>140 - I am going to constantly analyse and over think everything. Especially when I am a severe fear of being bad at anything I do.
Maybe if you stopped being so cocky, girls would want your cock.
Reply 34
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by SmileyGurl13Maybe if you stopped being so cocky, girls would want your cock.
No1) Girls like cocky dicks
No2) Girls want my cock
Reply 35
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by AnonymousNo1) Girls like cocky dicks
No2) Girls want my cock
No2) Girls want my cock
Cocky =/= confident. We want confident, not cocky. Learn the difference.
Reply 36
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by Hypocrism"gaming girls"
"f-close"
Dear god, you got taken in by the "seduction community", didn't you?
"f-close"
Dear god, you got taken in by the "seduction community", didn't you?
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by AnonymousNot really - I am just really good friends with people who are really into the PUA community and thus I acquire the terminology.
I am thoroughly against the validation of someone's life based on picking up girls
I am thoroughly against the validation of someone's life based on picking up girls
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by desdemonataCocky =/= confident. We want confident, not cocky. Learn the difference.
Wait, what is an f-close?
Reply 37
No offence OP but your attitude stinks. I'm amazed you don't have a problem finding potential girls, but all your cockiness is is probably going to increase your anxiety around girls who are looking for a good time, rather than help you. Get some self-respect and show a bit more respect to women. Turning your virginity into a chore is for tools. Be a bit more romantic and save it for a woman who loves you and doesn't mind you being bad at it. Most women would rather have a boyfriend who is bad first time but gets better and listens to what she wants than a guy who is good first time then never improves.
Reply 38
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by AnonymousYes I agree those are the correct three options but being 19 finding someone who is within my standards who is a virgin is extremely hard.
I don't think I could ever fall for someone.
3. is obviously my best option but I was advise on how...
I don't think I could ever fall for someone.
3. is obviously my best option but I was advise on how...
First of all, I'm 21, female and a virgin, and whilst I wouldnt call myself stunning, I'm relatively good looking/normal looking, and a normal weight for my height and I know that some of my friends who are 19-23 are virgins, and there is nothing wrong with that. I doubt most people male or female would admit out right that they're still virgins cause they think they'll get the micky taken out of them... Plus, apparently, according to my non-virgin female friends its kinda lame first time anyway. The trick is to not give up if your finished and they're not
Reply 39
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by AnonymousNo1) Girls like cocky dicks
No2) Girls want my cock
No2) Girls want my cock
HAHAHAHA. you're joking right? If this is the case then why are you still a virgin? You do realize that even if you are good looking ish even the most desperate of girls wouldn't want to sleep with an *******. Hence, you know, why you're still a virgin...
None one likes cocky *******. Confident yes. There is a big difference.
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