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Helping out a male platonic mate

Hey I'm this person (girl :p:

) who has a mate (platonic), and like he's having a bit of trouble with his love life...

I'm a bit of a tomboy (well I grew up one) so don't really know how to help him hehe.

Basically he is 23 and there are two chicks in life, one older woman with great uni qualifications *apparently* (25) and one his age, probably slightly younger.

He thinks the older one is more keen but is playing games with his head. I think so too. The younger one also acts a bit immature and makes excuses to study a lot, so perhaps she doesn't like him :redface:

Anyway he rang me up wanting to talk about this I guess I didn't know what to say. I lack a bit in the social dept :redface:

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

Anyone?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Ok I do realise my thread here is prolly *slightly* less interesting than the rest up here :rolleyes:

But he is a good mate and I wanna be a cool friend and help him in this area :cool:

Reply 3

Marie05

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its really kind of you to seek advice for a friend..

but why would it matter if the older woman has "great qualifications", or if the younger one wants to study a lot...i am sorry but they seeem really daft to me. He should pick the girl that he cannot imagine himself without. He should pick a girl who he sees a future with and truly loves her, not because she has great uni qualifications!

Reply 4

Ron Stoppable

14

"25"? I believe Rebecca Loos is that age. She has a first in Beckhamology, now offered by the University of Surrey.

Avoid the 25-year-old. :wink:

Reply 5

supernova2

11

I think you should get together with him as you obviously care so much about him. Ahh how sweet :smile:

Reply 6

MagicNMedicine

20

She won't get together with him because he obviously doesn't meet her 'standards', so she's expecting other girls to accept less than she would.

Reply 7

randdom

20

From what you have said it doesn't seem like either of these women are particually good news. If both of them are going to mess him around then really he shouldn't go for either.

Reply 8

high priestess fnord

9

we cant tell because we dont know the people but it does sound like he isnt really into either of them. he should probly move on and find someone he really does like.

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

Ron Stoppable

"25"? I believe Rebecca Loos is that age. She has a first in Beckhamology, now offered by the University of Surrey.

Avoid the 25-year-old. :wink:

I'm angry at you! :mad:

Because I'm 23 so 25 isn't far off to me, and that IMO is an attractive age to be :cool:

Also to the other posters, yea it was kinda my influence saying that he should hook up with the better educated chick, b/c in my world I'd like that :biggrin:

Bit of wishful thinking on my part.

Anyway tbh it's her personality I don't like, so I don't think he should get involved with her simply for the reason that I think she is messing with his head a bit. Giving my friend mixed signals when she should know better.

Not sure about the girl our age, I'm gonna get in contact with my friend to find out more about her.

Oh and there's another one OS in the US he was telling me about, just doing an exhange! :smile:

He emails her from time to time but *I think* she's seeing someone :wink:

I dunno, lol.

I got exams to think about mostly which is kinda why I'm asking you for help here too!

Reply 10

allymcb2

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Marie05

its really kind of you to seek advice for a friend..

but why would it matter if the older woman has "great qualifications", or if the younger one wants to study a lot...i am sorry but they seeem really daft to me. He should pick the girl that he cannot imagine himself without. He should pick a girl who he sees a future with and truly loves her, not because she has great uni qualifications!

I agree with the sentiment, but I couldnt fall in love with someone who didnt have great uni qualifications. Sorry.

Reply 11

Marie05

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allymcb2

I agree with the sentiment, but I couldnt fall in love with someone who didnt have great uni qualifications. Sorry.

hey, you know what, me too!

i always seem to fall for university guys, so im led to believe that uni qualifications is a requirement! but i think what this really means is that im attracted to 'successful' guys. And you do meet successful guys that havent gone to uni. So i never rule them out! :wink:

So i still think its daft for someone to 'pick' a partner, not sure if they are in love with them but nevertheless one reason for choosing them would be because they have great uni qualifications!

Reply 12

Ron Stoppable

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Anonymous

I'm angry at you! :mad:

Because I'm 23 so 25 isn't far off to me, and that IMO is an attractive age to be :cool:

25 is a wonderful age.

Every single woman in my LTR history is/was 23-27. It's that age where women are so aligned with your own ambitions and responsibilities and boundaries, that when they find fantastic freedom and passion that matches their own, they embrace it.

Only before lots of subconscious testing - the Lover's Dance, I call it - where you play out a series of tests and counter-tests to really see if the man/woman you're interested in is for real, because you haven't the time to date for ages and ages before a kiss, before knowing. And then you test and test until the relationship ends - there's the beauty of it, that sensual tension, that dynamic equilibrium of your relationship.

Reply 13

allymcb2

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Marie05

hey, you know what, me too!

i always seem to fall for university guys, so im led to believe that uni qualifications is a requirement! but i think what this really means is that im attracted to 'successful' guys. And you do meet successful guys that havent gone to uni. So i never rule them out! :wink:

So i still think its daft for someone to 'pick' a partner, not sure if they are in love with them but nevertheless one reason for choosing them would be because they have great uni qualifications!

I'm attracted to academically successful guys. You dont get that outside uni in the 21st century.

Reply 14

MagicNMedicine

20

so what if somebody gets AAAA in their A levels, then goes on to a thriving and successful career without going to university - do you not class them as academically successful?

Reply 15

allymcb2

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MagicNMedicine

so what if somebody gets AAAA in their A levels, then goes on to a thriving and successful career without going to university - do you not class them as academically successful?

No. Admittedly not failures either, but I wouldnt be attracted to them

Reply 16

allymcb2

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allymcb2

No. Admittedly not failures either, but I wouldnt be attracted to them

It doesnt mean anything to get grades like that. I did and I don't consider myself academically successful. A-levels just arent hard enough to measure anything.

Reply 17

strawberry

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supernova2

I think you should get together with him as you obviously care so much about him. Ahh how sweet :smile:

people say that to girls with platonic best boy mates all the time. LOL people keep telling me to go out with my platonic mate but it's just sooo out of the question. I mean, we did SORT OF go out with each other but it didn't work out. she will definitely NOT go out with her mate :smile:

and about the thing...uni qualifications aren't nothing, seriously. It's like age. :smile:

I guess it's all gut feeling......instincts you know?

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