My dilemma

Hello. This is my first time doing this sort of thing so here goes...

I live in Singapore and I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who lives in England. We've been together for 3.5 years. He previously went to same school as me in Singapore which is where we met. Right now I am battling with where i should go for uni. On one hand i have 4 good options in England; Manchester, Bath, Kings and Imperial (Wye). On the other hand there is the option my father is giving me which is go to Israel to the Tel Aviv University to do a one year overseas course. btw I'm half Israeli. This option provides me with a nice flat, a car and more time to really understand what it is I would like to do with my life or, rather, my father's excuse; to get back to my roots. It also allows me to somewhat stay closer to my family as they will be able to visit more often... I still hate the idea of being away from my parents and I'll miss my brothers more than anything. :frown:

My boyfriend lives very near to the Imperial Wye campus. I've been to England on two occasions, both being in the summer time and i really liked it. However, like I said it was summer and so I've never experienced winter in England... I even found the summer 'cold' to be unbearable at times. As you might know, Singapore is a tropical country and so mostly, it's very hot out here.. acclimatizing will be very difficult.

I personally think that your partner should not decide your future for you, however, having him there would be like a bonus to living in a completely foreign country. Plus, the university itself is so appealing to me. I even like the fact that the Wye campus is a small one and I'm pretty happy with the course i have chosen. In my situation I have to bear in mind costs (England far exceeding Israel), the quality of life and i guess, my future. I'm graduating a year younger and so I don't mind looking at going to Israel as taking a gap year but i know that by doing that my relationship with my boyfriend will almost definitely end. That would really suck because I really love him and he just might be the 'one' :redface:

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Both options have their pros and cons and each time I think one option is better than the other, I find reasons as to why they are not or why the other is more worthwhile. I just can't make the decision (though i really shouldn't think about it as my exams start next tuesday). Anyways, any suggestions and guidance will be greatly appreciated! :smile:

P.s. real sorry if this bored you :redface:

Reply 1

Ron Stoppable

14

Most Singaporeans I know at King's have had no long-term problem acclimatising. Even the heaters in their rooms make the same kinda noise as their air-con units back home. :wink:

Reply 2

Iris })l({

OP

Oh, well i was only saying he's the 'one' to emphasize that i really love him... lol none of that complete me, save the world thing. :p:

I'm going to pursue a business management degree wherever I end up and I've heard really good things about Imperial.

We're apart for more then 6 months at a time but we talk on the phone daily and obviously modern inventions such as webcams and e mails make things all the better. I have no real expectations of him and i doubt he has any of me. It seems to work out best that way and this whole long distance thing allows us individually to focus on what we are trying to do with our lives, me my studies and him his music.

Reply 3

xx_ambellina_xx

14

Iris })l({

Oh, well i was only saying he's the 'one' to emphasize that i really love him... lol none of that complete me, save the world thing. :p:

I'm going to pursue a business management degree wherever I end up and I've heard really good things about Imperial.

We're apart for more then 6 months at a time but we talk on the phone daily and obviously modern inventions such as webcams and e mails make things all the better. I have no real expectations of him and i doubt he has any of me. It seems to work out best that way and this whole long distance thing allows us individually to focus on what we are trying to do with our lives, me my studies and him his music.

will you not be able to continue the set-up of seeing each other about 6 months apart when you're in Israel and he's in England? If you really mean that much to each other, then how about saving up some money to visit?

Reply 4

Iris })l({

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xx_ambellina_xx

will you not be able to continue the set-up of seeing each other about 6 months apart when you're in Israel and he's in England? If you really mean that much to each other, then how about saving up some money to visit?

Yeah we probably could but it gets harder with time. He's a guy and he has his need :rolleyes:

I guess I do too but I'm not as affected and also seeing each other every six months and then having to seperate really hurts. On one hand I'm really happy with the current arrangement but on the other it couldn't suck more.

Reply 5

randdom

20

If you think that he might be the one then I would recomend going to the english uni. However from reading your post I got the feeling that you want to go to the university in Isreal (as it is near your family etc). This is a decison that you really have to make on your own you have to really think about which university you would like to go to interms of the course that you are taking and also that lifestyle that you will have. If you went to the English university and then a year into your course broke up with your boyfriend would you still be happy there? these are all things that you should consider. Just make sure that when you choose your uni it is for you and not for either your parents (who seem to prefer Isreal) or your boyfriend.

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