For all those having boyfriend or girlfriend troubles

Apologies for the long post in advance

Ok there's been an awful lot of people sayin they are having relationship troubles with partners, especially when they are about to start University, maybe this will help i don't know but here's maybe a few pointers.

First of if your having problems because your partner is going to University say 2 maybe 3 hours away, don't say in June lets break up at the end of september and enjoy the time until then, because its going to be hanging over you. I mean how can you possibly have a good time when you know your gonna break up.

Two, Don't think straight away lets break up, work around it talk about it, couples do surivive being away at University and think when the time you see your partner again it will be extra special, yes some generally can't handle it fair enough but don't dump your partner just because you want to play the field at Uni and sleep with as many people as possible, if you generally love your partner and your partner loves you, it will survive if you both work at it.

Three, splitting up and carrying on having casual sex, this generally does not work, because it just prolongs the agony especially with your partner finds someone else and carries on sleeping with you, your partner is basically having their cake and eating it, do you really want that or to be 2nd best all the time, if necessairly avoid all contact.

Four, Splitting up with your partner just because you like their best mate better, Big No no, this will cause bad tension and all sorts of trouble within that circle of friends, its better to find a complete new partner away from that circle of friends. Usually when you start thinking about your partners best friend rather than your partner something isn't right, find out what, obviously easier said than done because its so hard, but otherwise how is your partner to know something is wrong or rather how is your partner to know he/she is doing something wrong all the time.

Five, Never cheat, least if all above fails and you do like someone else better or you do want to just have casual sex around University for example least dump your partner first. If your partner breaks up but then calls round for sex, don't do that unless you and your partner make a committment to get back together in a relationship. obviously i'm not against casual sex but just don't do it with someone else when you already have a partner especially an ex.

Remember also if you get with a partner and a few days later realise it is not for you it could be simply because you are not ready for the committment yet.

Finally, obviously it is all down to you what you want to do when it comes to breaking up or talking etc no one has to listen to all this but i guess its worth considering all that, but one thing is clear someone said recently everybody cheats, this is so not true not every guy or girl cheats, yes lots of people do but not everyone.
And above all be careful.

Oh and 1 more thing if you cheat but say you love your partner, how can you love them if you cheat, things cannot be right in the relationship if you go and cheat.

Again sorry to go on and it may be all rubbish and done before but i thought this was worth a try.

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Reply 1

zav

I think this is a very relevent thread carl and im sure a lot of people will agree so there is no need to say sorry about it. Personally i think it will help and that your views are second to none and i will rep you for the principle even though i have no rep point to give out with my rep.

Reply 2

Talon

Thank God someone finally made a thread like this. It should be a sticky. Lol. Rep coming your way.

Carl1982

but one thing is clear someone said recently everybody cheats, this is so not true not every guy or girl cheats, yes lots of people do but not everyone..

So true. I for one have never cheated on anyone and I never will.

Reply 3

supernova2

Dont cheat, ****.

sorted

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

What do you do if your girlfriend is still in love with her ex but doesn't know you know this and you can't bear to be without her despite it?

Reply 5

zav

Anonymous

What do you do if your girlfriend is still in love with her ex but doesn't know you know this and you can't bear to be without her despite it?

Confront her about and explain u don't want to break just want to clear up how she feels about her x.
If she does love him and is still interested then i advise you leave her, but if she is just still getting over him and just cares thats natural and just have to put up with it.

Reply 6

CrispyDuck

My boyfriend's been at uni since september, i'm still at home and we're still together, in love and very happy. I'm not saying it's easy because it certainly is not. You may argue more than you ever have before. I mean my boyfriend and i go through some really horrible patches but we love each other whatever happens. If you love each other you can get through it and it's worth it. Just be prepared for the tough times and be prepared to compromise and work through the problems, if you don't think you want to do that then maybe the relationship's not for you. Good luck :smile:

xxx

Reply 7

username47781

Thanks for all the postive response oh and i wanna add one more bit to it, If your in a situation when say for example your a girl in a close friendship with a guy and you want him so bad but he already has another girlfriend, but he's trying to make a move on you, do not let him these type of people want the best of both worlds, now do you want that, best way is make him dump his other girlfriend first before he committs to you, never attempt to start an affair with him while he is still taken because 9 times out of 10 it will all end in tears.

Reply 8

squigaletta

rite...i feel rubbish now!! i did the whole friendship circle dating thing. ended up dating my ex bf's best friend...i guess my only defence is that my ex had cheated on me lots which is why i split with him, then waited for a while!

Reply 9

squigaletta

also i go to uni this year and me n my bf have decided to stay to gether, but his last long term relationship ended when is gf went to uni and he cheated on her...very scared that the same thing is going to happen evn though he assures me things are different this time

Reply 10

zav

maybe he has learn't his lesson and changed? i doubt he would agree to it otherwise unless he is a right wang

Reply 11

Anthonyjm71

Talon

Thank God someone finally made a thread like this. It should be a sticky. Lol. Rep coming your way.

So true. I for one have never cheated on anyone and I never will.

Same here for me. I totally agree.

Reply 12

squigaletta

well i wouldnt describe him as that!! so i'll go for the he's changed option

Reply 13

username47781

squigaletta

well i wouldnt describe him as that!! so i'll go for the he's changed option

I'm afraid it's wishful thinking, if he cheated on you then got another g.f and cheated on her as well i doubt he would have changed.

Reply 14

squigaletta

he hasnt cheated on me, only his ex, so its not like its a permenant character trait

Reply 15

username47781

Ok let me get it straight so you was with your ex he cheated on you loads and now your with his best friend who's last partner cheated on him and your still with your ex boyfriends best mate, am i right?

Reply 16

squigaletta

wow that makes it sound v complicated!! but yes that seems rite...

Reply 17

username47781

Thats because the whole thing is complicated, then again he did cheat on her when he went to uni last time so i would not trust him at all if hes going back to uni.