girl standing in my way

This is probably an exmplanation of being friend-not being friends etc but nevertheless its quite complex to me :wink:

When I was in primary school I had a group of 4 close friends and we had the greatest times together. We went to secondary school and were happy together until the end of my first year. Towards the end of that year, I was being left out, to the extenet that evenutally it all blew up, and I was left with no one. I was a loner throughout secondary school ,i moved tutor groups to move away from the exclusion of my ex-best frinds. Moving forms was the best thing I've ever done, I was a new person.

When I came to college, I was put in the same form as one of them girls. Last year we both did almost the same subjects and it felt like all my tutors were comparing me to her. I hated it, because I want nothing to do with her, but everyone is always tellling me what a great person she is. Not me.

This has carried on into this year. It turns out that this one girl has applied for the same course as me, at the same uni. I was ok with this fact, because I know uni is a big place and I can avoid her if I want!The thing that really upsets me is that even now, my tutor is always making me feel down about myself, by reminding me how great this girl is, how clever she is.

For ages I've been confused over my uni choices so went to talk to my tutor. My tutor's response was that o should go to the same uni as this girl, otherwise I won't have/make any friends. Its not fair, I don't need her, I've proved to everyone I don't, but still my tutor feels the need to tell me how great that girl is. :frown:

I've tried telling her that me and her have a long history, but it makes no difference.

It seems I can't get away from her, no matter how hard I try. What else can I do? She's genuinely two-faced with me, I hear her gossipping about me behind my back and still she has some power over this tutor. :frown:

OMG sorry that was so long but had to get it off my chest!

Reply 1

Reue

20

Who cares? Go to whichever uni you want!

As you rightly said, Uni is a big place, even IF she went to the same uni, chances are you would hardly ever see her.

And uni is probabley the best place for making new friends in your entire life.

Reply 2

The Mudman

10

Forget about the situation as best you can. Maybe she's given this lass has given the tutor a reason for him to like her :wink:

Seriously though, there's no point being concerned with what Mr/Mrs X thinks of her, and how the both of you compare. She obviously lacks in a lot of the things that make you such a wonderful person. Uni is a big place, and I'm sure you'll be able to keep your distance from her. And you won't be alone in seeing her two-faced qualities, which will make her less popular than you possibly imagine her to be. You're a bright girl and a brilliant person in your own rights. Try not to worry about it, and concentrate on making friends, and having a good time at Uni :smile:

Reply 3

phantom

2

this tutor should not under any circumstances be comparing you to another student its just wrong. go to whichever uni you like because that tutor wont be there and yes you can damn well avoid that horrible girl! ignore what the tutor says under all circumstances because she is clearlyso incompetant (sp) at her job she needs sacking. perhaps you could point this out to someone higher up than them in a more diplomatic way. i bet your way better than this girl but the tutor enjoys winding you up so much.

Reply 4

In Love

why is the tutor compating u to other ppl :s-smilie:

go to the uni u want to go to. you won't see the tutor there, and even if that girl is in the same uni, you could easily not see her since as you said uni is a big place - its a differnt life and just wait till u get there and u'll enjoy your time away from them. good luck

Reply 5

matt@internet

12

I don't think theres anything wrong with your tutor comparing you to this girl but if it's bothering you ask her to stop comparing you to her or always telling you how great she is as it's making you feel down. And under no circumstances should your tutor be saying that you won't make any friends at uni. Next time she says that tell her to **** off. I'm nervous about making friends at uni too but as you've said you know you'll make friends as do I.

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