sex, dating is embarrasing?

Im very inexperienced with guys etc but I keep worrying about something. It might sound childish but If I dated a guy or even slept with him and then it ended Id be really embarrased to know that he knows what I look like naked. It would just be embarrasing seeing him in the street and him knowing everything not just looks wise but what I liked sexually etc. Ive never experienced this as im a virgin but is this true for anyone else?

Reply 1

insparato

15

I guess you have to trust your Bf, im sure hes not going to blurt all your sexual desires and what you look like naked to anyone sex is an intimate experience between two people who love each other and i think he should respect that what happens in the bedroom is between the two people involved well thats how i see it i dont think id talk about things like that to my friends. Dont know about girls lol.

Reply 2

Kernel

1

Im sure you look great naked, don't worry.

Reply 3

Helenia

20

It's a feeling I've heard expressed by other people, but not something I've experienced myself. If I didn't trust them not to blab everything to their friends, I might be more embarassed, but as it is, I don't have a problem. It's not like I have a fantastic body or look great naked or am amazing in bed, I'm just not shy about that sort of thing.

Reply 4

alexdg

8

im sure u look gr8 anyway. but in truth i think very very few guys wld eva disclose anythin like what u look like etc even to their m8s. nothing to feel embarassed about tho, but if thats the way u feel then mayb ur jus nt readi? howeva if you find a guy you reali like then go for it, everyones gota start sumwhere!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

hm well I am 20 lol but I suppose Im just aukward and the really self conscious type in general its nothing to do with age and I don't think I look bad or anything. Its not the actual blabbing to others that bothers me most (though i am bothered by that) its the fact that someone else knows what I fully look like and think about in sex. Say if I had a one night stand with a guy and saw him in the street 2 days later Id be really embarrased. Its more the fact the the guy would know everything more than anything.

Reply 6

Helenia

20

Anonymous

hm well I am 20 lol but I suppose Im just aukward and the really self conscious type in general its nothing to do with age and I don't think I look bad or anything. Its not the actual blabbing to others that bothers me most (though i am bothered by that) its the fact that someone else knows what I fully look like and think about in sex. Say if I had a one night stand with a guy and saw him in the street 2 days later Id be really embarrased. Its more the fact the the guy would know everything more than anything.

In which case, don't have a one-night stand. Have sex with someone when you're in a relationship and care about them. It will worry you far less then. If you don't want people to know what you look like/do in sex, then you'll never actually have sex!

Reply 7

Apricot Fairy

16

Before I got together with my ex I used to feel exactly the same way. But I think you'll find that once you meet someone and have a relationship and decide you're ready to have sex, it won't bother you. You won't be able to keep your clothes on for love nor money!

Reply 8

demonbuttercup

1

Anyway, if ever he did blab then you could just spread a rumour about how small his willy was. Who'd be laughing then!? Mwahaha.

Reply 9

CrispyDuck

1

Apricot Fairy

Before I got together with my ex I used to feel exactly the same way. But I think you'll find that once you meet someone and have a relationship and decide you're ready to have sex, it won't bother you. You won't be able to keep your clothes on for love nor money!

I agree. I mean, I guess what you're saying, could happen with a one night stand, but in a proper relationship when you're ready to have sex, you'll be (hopefully) with someone you trust and care deeply about and they care about you too. If so, you have nothing to worry about, i'm sure they'd love nothing more than to see you naked. If not, then you probably shouldn't be having sex with them. I think this is one of those things that you're going to worry about until it happens, and then it will never bother you again! :smile:

xxx

Reply 10

CrispyDuck

1

demonbuttercup

Anyway, if ever he did blab then you could just spread a rumour about how small his willy was. Who'd be laughing then!? Mwahaha.

lol

then again there's always this option! hehe
xxx

Reply 11

username47781

20

Yeha u gotta have some trust in the guy your with to be able to do things like that i mean best way is in a relationship because you are not judged so much on looks and performance whereas a one night stand is all about performance and looks, always take things at one step at a time as well.

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