Well they say this crap comes in 3's

Well i'll lay down my problems in 3 easy to read bulletins

1) My parents are getting divorced and its seriously hurting, not to mention my mum says she'd rather be dead than be my mum :frown:

2) I'm failing in practically all my subjects, and its causing major stress and i'm really contemplating dropping out even though theres only 4 more weeks till i finish my a-levels

3) My gf who i love with all my heart, and who when were alone shows me every bit of attention i crave from her, practically ignores me when in public, i.e at school, she says she doesnt do pda, but the thing is she wont even talk to me longer than a minute, i'm beginning to think either she likes someone else, which is quite possible as she hangs around with him alot or simply shes ashamed of me

any help with any of the above would be much appreciated, thanks

Reply 1

high priestess fnord

aww sweetie *hugs*. finnish you a levels. its just another 4 weeks then its all over. revise like mad. it will take your mind off everything and if you dont then you will majorly regret it and you know it.

dont know what to say about the rest except that you rele need to talk to your gf.

hope it all works out

pm me if you just want to let it all out.

Reply 2

Ting-Ting

1) wish i could help here but ive never been in this situation before...do you think your mom hates you or something? You'll just need to talk to her....(sorry can't be much help in this departemtn!)

2) If you really think you are failing your subjects, you should suggest a get together with your coursemates for a study day or talk to your tutors about the course and ask questions. look up past paper questions and work through them. Are you finding the courses hard to understand or is the divorce affecting your concentration?

3) Talk to your girlfriend. I don't do PDA either, i once even pushed my bf away when he tried to kiss me in front of my friends and afterwards he expressed how much that hurt him and then i realised how insensitive it was. Now we dont mind some mild pda. You just need to talk to her about it. fair enough is she doesn't want to kiss you in public but not talking to you in public...that sounds kinda weird and insensitive. how long have you been together though?

aah hope it helped a little....please don't feel like its the end of the world.

Reply 3

fakeplasticsmee

Thats awful that your mum said that, I hope things go better for you soon. Maybe you should tell your girlfriend that you feel a bit neglected, maybe she doesn't even realise.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Well ok i cant really expect help with numero uno, and as for number 2 its not that i find the courcses hard as just before christmas i was scoring a's and b's, i think it is to do with the divorce, but as for number 3, you kind people of tsr suggest talking to her, but i have no idea what to say :confused:

Reply 5

floss

my parents divorced when i was 3 so i've never really known them together. if the reason they're divorcing is due to something your dad has done.. it's understandable that she's got a lot of sh*t going on in her head. when you're upset you tend to hurt the ones you love the most. she may be suffering from depression. you could do with getting her to visit her doctor, it may help.

as for your a-levels.. don't give up. revision will make all the difference. you could always explain what's going on at home to your tutor to see if they could help you. they're meant to be there for you (but i wouldn't go to mine if i was in trouble if you paid me)

and as for your gf.. she obviously can't see how much everything else is screwing you up and so doesn't realise that her input in all this is messing with your head to. talk to her, explain why you feel the way you do, if she doesn't understand then she doesn't deserve you. without her as a distraction you may be able to concentrate on your a-levels more.

Reply 6

blondie_

DONT drop out of your ALEVELS you've come this far you'll only regret it. stick your head down in those books and revise like crazy! this should take your mind of things. ask your gf why she dont show you public affection. good luck xx

Reply 7

Ting-Ting

Just be blunt...."why don't you talk to me in public?"

Is it because shes busy most of the time though? but surely she'll spare you her time too!ignoring you is just rude! :mad:

Reply 8

Tw!stEd

1) My parents are getting divorced and its seriously hurting, not to mention my mum says she'd rather be dead than be my mum

A) Divorced life aint that bad (not much personal expierance since my rents have never lived together)
B) Parents say thing's in anger all the time...

2) I'm failing in practically all my subjects, and its causing major stress and i'm really contemplating dropping out even though theres only 4 more weeks till i finish my a-levels

I'm the same, but ya just gotta pull for it, do some revision, and do ya best...

3) My gf who i love with all my heart, and who when were alone shows me every bit of attention i crave from her, practically ignores me when in public, i.e at school, she says she doesnt do pda, but the thing is she wont even talk to me longer than a minute, i'm beginning to think either she likes someone else, which is quite possible as she hangs around with him alot or simply shes ashamed of me

Maybe she' stressed too, and ya best bet is too talk to her about it...

Hope that helped dude...

Reply 9

Vampyrcorn

Aw cheer up m'dear! :hugs:

I'm sure you're mum can't have meant it. You said that she's going through a divorce... well people often lash out at others when they're stressed out. It's not fair on you, I know, but please try not to feel down. When exams are over you'll feel a whole load better about everything I'm sure.

Meh. Life can be a bit sh*tty sometimes can't it? I'm sure you'll do ok though, be strong and have another hug emoticon: :hugs:

xxx

Reply 10

beach surf babe

For the parents thing...think of the positives: 2 sets of presents at Christmas and birthday plus isn't it better that your parents don't live with each other and don't argue rather than live together and argue?

The exams thing: List all the things that you're struggling with and see your teachers about them pronto. Its really rubbish this last push (I just want it to be over too) but in 8 weeks (or less) it will be finished.... And then you can celebrate!!! :biggrin: