In love or just infatuation?

Obviously there's a major difference between these two things; however, I think it's really easy to mistake one for the other.

To all those guys who have been in love...how can you tell when you're just infatuated? I'm not talking about love versus lust - because there's a real connection between me and the guy I'm talking about, and it's definitely more than just physical. But I want to know how you can tell when it's love, and not just two people who have this "connection."

Reply 1

Love_Hearts

love means different things to different people. i knew i was in love with my boyfriend when -i would spend all day with him every day for 3 months and didnt get bored with his company, and even things about him that would have usually bugged me didnt matter anymore. being away from him at christmas holidays was really hard, when he would text me at 2am in the morning just to say he had got in from work/ night out. things on the radio etc would remind me of him. and when my best friend was taken into hospital for life saving treatment he drove 3 hours during the night to come and see me.....theres so many more things as well but i dont want to make people feel sick hehe. at the end of the day i think the difference between love and lust is when ur happy to be in the other persons company withought the urge to tear there clothes off etc

Reply 2

MagicNMedicine

I reckon people should stop stressing about whether something is love or not. Your feelings for another person are individual, no two peoples are the same, and whether they are categorised as love, infatuation or whatever is just your own interpretation.

Just enjoy the feelings for what they are, don't get overly hung up on whether you or other people would categorise it as love or not.

Reply 3

Redefined

I don't think you can make an informed judgement until you have explored your feelings fully i.e. spent time with the person on an intellectual, emotional and physical level. Only then can you truly realise if what you have is love or what was simply an infatuation.

:smile:

Reply 4

SamTheMan

Anonymous

Obviously there's a major difference between these two things;

Personally, I don't think there is. You fall in love because you meet someone incredible but you also fall in love because you're in that state of mind to fall in love. People have been hurt many times will not necessarily fall in love as easily as some romantic daydreamer.

There's a different kind of love that develops over time, which is an attachment to that other person: it's no longer about how that person makes you feel or what they can bring to you, but just about that person. Self-interest is gone.
However, as this is often mixed with dependency, is being dependent on someone any more romantic than falling madly in love with someone you met a few weeks earlier?

Anonymous

because there's a real connection between me and the guy I'm talking about, and it's definitely more than just physical.

Infatuation rarely is just about physical aspects and more about how that person makes you feel and what they could bring to you, if you went out with them.

Reply 5

shyr_15

"love is never having to say you're sorry" its from the movie love story

love is when you have accepted the other person for who he/she is. accepting the good things that he/she is and loving him/her for the wonderful things that he/she is not.