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Why do men expect women to be 'perfect'

Im not sure if its just me and due to my low self esteem but i feel under constant pressure to try and be nice looking in the sense i feel as a women its whats expected of me. Im not pretty at all without make up i look like a dog and im vile, when i wear make up it by no means makes me attractive at all im under no illusion that im pretty but makeup covers up some of the imperfections i.e maki9ng me look like i have perfect skin.

However I think ive gone to far with this trying to look perfect my boyfriends seen me with no make up on about 3 times in the morning and I know he doesnt find me attractive without it because he never says anything nice or kisses me or anything like that ive got pale skin little eyelashes wild wavy hair nothing attractive. I feel like with him i have to have a full face of make up and when i go out its worse, hair extentions, fake eyelashes full face of make up, because then i seem to be accepted without i feel people look at me like the ugly bug. I hate how women are expected to be stick thin im a 8/10 but constantly spend my life counting calories.

Im fed up i got so fed up ive chucked out the extentions got rid of the eyelashes and to be honest cant be bothe4red to wear make up i just feel like girls have to or atleast feel they have to to be attractive to the opposite sex and im just wondering why do guys expect us to be beautiful and perfect and all look like cheryl cole or rosie huntington whitley because haredly any of us are like that and the pressure to look like them is horrible. Why cant guys just accept girls with no makeup on maybe the occasional spot and bad hair day why do we always havr to look perfect?

Reply 1

WelshBluebird

They don't!
Infact, it can often be the imperfections that make someone attractive!

Wrong guys.

Got to say, having dated someone who was severely depressed and into self-harm, that no, we don't expect perfection in women.

However, there are people who Imagine they want a perfect woman (the multitude of men who crush on celebrities supports that) but when the actually meet someone who they are compatible with, they get over that.

So, all in all, I'd find perfection rather boring.

Reply 4

JD95

You could ask the same of women, really.

Everyone finds different things about people attractive and unattractive, though. For example, people find my existence unattractive. :colone:

But you will be "perfect" to someone, don't worry cocker.

Reply 5

amyyx_

I hate people who expect people to be 'perfect', usually they're not too 'perfect' themselves.

Reply 6

redferry

All men don't expect that at all. I rarely wear much makeup and don't have any issues attracting guys, in fact I find that when I do go out and get dressed up I just get a lot of unwanted attention and often get sexually harassed...

Much easier not to bother with it.

Although I do continue with body hair removal and that is a total bitch...Seriously. There are many days where I wish I lived in times where hairy women were the norm.

Reply 7

Michaelj

Sound mega insecure to me. Everyone has different tastes, most guys just want someone whose perfect for them.

(edited 10 years ago)

Reply 8

Eboracum

Men do not expect woman to be perfect. Got any evidence for this? What a load of nonsense.

Reply 9

Ice Constricter

Cause ALL men expect it right? :rolleyes:

Reply 10

o Rebecca o

Original post by redferry

I rarely wear much makeup and don't have any issues attracting guys, in fact I find that when I do go out and get dressed up I just get a lot of unwanted attention and often get sexually harassed .

You sound like you're proud of that.

Don't you think that those men are most likely drunk and/or are just looking for a fling, and has nothing to do with your looks at all?

Reply 11

This Excellency

A man will expect you to be perfect for HIM. That includes all you imperfections.
It's no different to how a woman wants you to be perfect for HER.

Reply 12

shorty.loves.angels

They don't expect perfection, but there's nothing attractive about a person who is trying so hard to look like something that doesn't suit them.

Forget what you think is expected; we're not all size 8, with big blue eyes and ideal for the latest fashion trend.

Reply 13

redferry

Original post by o Rebecca o

You sound like you're proud of that.

Don't you think that those men are most likely drunk and/or are just looking for a fling, and has nothing to do with your looks at all?

No it's really horrible. I got a call back from the police today about an incident I reported a few weeks ago and I have to meet with two men when I am back at university to decide whether to press charges.

True, I have been sexually harassed wearing trackies and a tshirt popping to the supermarket by my house, which to be fair the above incident refers to. I find it happens much more regularly when I am wearing a skirt or dress however, compared to say going to the same club wearing trousers and with glasses instead of contacts (ie unplanned night out...)

Reply 14

Dojikko_

I find that VERY hard to believe. The only way for men “to get over” that is IF they are PERFECT PHYSICALLY!! And especially sexually. That’s all men care about. You could be te most despicable person alive but if you sexy that all they will and and care about!!!

Why do men expect women to be 'perfect'

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