The joys of flatmates

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I live with 5 other girls, 3 of whom are very friendly. Today I went into the kitchen and one of their food cupboards was open, with a note saying something along the lines of "Stop stealing our food we know who you are" and I thought good on them because someone had been pinching my food for some time to the point where I keep most of it in my room now. I confess I opened the other cupboard to see who the other people in the "we" are, and there were another two who had similar notes in their cupboards. That means there's 3 who have the note and 3 who don't. Now for the complicated bit - of the 3 who have it, 2 are from the group that are v friendly. That leaves one out of their group who doesn't have the note and I'm guessing they don't think it's her who is stealing the food. Process of elimination means that if the notes aren't aimed at that 3rd friend, they're meant for my other flatmate or me. My other flatmate is a vegan so I don't think anyone would think she was stealing their stuff....so that just leaves me doesn't it?

I don't know who left the cupboard open so don't want to say I've seen it in case they start thinking I was rifling through their stuff and found the note while I was doing it. At the same time I'm miffed because we're grown ups and if there's a problem we should talk about it. I mentioned it when my stuff was going missing but no-one would say anything about who was doing it so I just stopped leaving stuff out. Actually the girl I'm 90% sure was taking my stuff is one of the three with the note in her cupboard now.

We were never bosom buddies anyway but I am annoyed they think it's me when it isn't. Should I say something or keep quiet and count the days til the end of term?

Reply 1

Champagne-Dahling

10

My god, that is like some mathematical/logical puzzle!!

Reply 2

Tarts_n_Vicars

OP

13

lol I know - I'm sorry! 3 out of my 5 flatmates have left notes warning the other 3 of us about nicking their food and I think the notes are aimed at me (because the other 2 are either vegan or bessie mates with the ones who left the notes).

Complicated :eek:

Reply 3

Pinball Wizzle!

Have a house meeting, sort it out, then get licked and bezzer up.

Reply 4

la fille danse

17

Maybe the three girls who left notes have been stealing food from each other. Perfectly possible.

Reply 5

justbrowsing

4

Are you in halls? If so, are you living with these people next year?

Reply 6

Feefifofum

16

Leave a note yourself.

Reply 7

Tarts_n_Vicars

OP

13

Yeah I'm in halls and no I'm not living with any of them next year. There's only one who I'll probably stay in touch with and she's not one of the mysterious note leavers! :eek:

That's why I'm kind of like "who gives a sh*t" but at the same time it's kinda annoying.

Reply 8

Angelil

19

Just leave it.
If it comes up again and you're certain who's left the note, confront that person individually so that you can sort it face to face.
Flatmates/housemates can be really annoying - we've only been back at uni a week and the one girl in my house that I get on with least has already had her boyfriend over loads and cooked loads of things that involve loads of trays/bowls etc. when it isn't her day to do the washing up (on a rota which I never agreed to in the first place and that she was (not surprisingly) supportive of!)! Grrrrr.
Hope it doesn't happen again. If it does, tackle it head-on, and just count the days until the end of term.

Reply 9

Apricot Fairy

16

Ahh, people who leave notes in the kitchen are pathetic with a capital "P". I have a flatmate who does it because she seems to consider herself above actually speaking to me. (But not above bitching about me to other people.) I say just ignore it. Leaving a note yourself is tempting, but it would be sinking to their level.

Reply 10

white_haired_wizard

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Apricot Fairy

Ahh, people who leave notes in the kitchen are pathetic with a capital "P". I have a flatmate who does it because she seems to consider herself above actually speaking to me. (But not above bitching about me to other people.) I say just ignore it. Leaving a note yourself is tempting, but it would be sinking to their level.

Sometimes notes are the only way for things to sort themselves out, i.e, 3 months ago, it was a civilised letter war, between myself and two others, them two were in the wrong IMO, and they inevitably stuck together because they have a close friendship, whereas i'm a peripheral figure, which doesn't bother me that they are closer but fact that that rules them out of admitting any errors because of a flawed, "we're the majority, so....we have/must be in the right" - not particularly true as they're coming from the same angle/perspective/house politics etc...

A note war, it wasn't 'low' or pathetic, i argued against their points, defended myself and attacked them, and they had the same opportunity too, to the point whereby they pretty much conceded...i.e: went off on a tangent, couldn't respond to my arguments/reasoning, and started to come up with some other nonsensical crap about other domestic issues they allegedly carried out and i didn't....

Notes can work - as sometimes, some people are too arrogant and dismiss me when i'm literally voicing arguments, but read instead as i think i come across as a strong character, so basically they knew they'd be owned and they'd have face to face humiliation when that occured. I'm not full-on and aggressive, rather the opposite and so, they don't seem to know what to do with me.

Sometimes, it's a lost cause, but at least you know they are aware of your displeasure at accusations etc...you know also, in some shape of form, they have acknowledged you, your points...even if it doesn't seem so. :smile:

Reply 11

Apricot Fairy

16

Well, I take your point. But my flatmate leaves notes because she won't talk to me, not because she can't. We had to have a meeting with the warden because he thought the note she'd left was very childish, and I said I don't see why people who live in the same flat together can't just knock on each other's doors, and she said, "I've tried time and time again to talk to you, but you just tell me to get lost!" in a really prissy voice. I think what she means by that is every so often she'll say something to someone else in a loud voice so she knows I can hear, because I can't remember the last time she did actually talk to me about anything at all. Probably the time she told me she hates me. :biggrin:

Reply 12

Juno

20

Ignore it, as long as you know you're not stealing food! My flatmates accused me of stealing theirs, even though I'm a coeliac (gluten allergy) and it was things like bread and pasta that was going missing! Someone stole a lot of my food as well, and I wasn't impressed as gluten free stuff is more expensive.

Reply 13

michelle9876

We had an issue of food stealing. Also, of "saucepan borrowing". Notes were left by just one person saying "If you want to borrow anything, just ask me first". But then in someones cupboard who we all suspected was the theif, there was more notes saying "My food, leave it alone" basically. Notes in kitchens annoy me. The one who got their saucepans borrowed (and not washed up.. shocking..) also left a massive note for all to see about borrowing their cutlery. Accusing us all of being too lazy to wash up and so using his.

Flat meetings also are a waste of time. Noones ever going to admit to it,and unless they get caught, there's absolutly no way of proving it, so you can't be 100% sure of who did it! (Despite my other flatmates starting a vendetta on someone because it obviously "must" have been them, because they had such little food!)

Notes are bad, and a bit antisocial. People shouldn't do it!

Reply 14

white_haired_wizard

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Apricot Fairy

Well, I take your point. But my flatmate leaves notes because she won't talk to me, not because she can't. We had to have a meeting with the warden because he thought the note she'd left was very childish, and I said I don't see why people who live in the same flat together can't just knock on each other's doors, and she said, "I've tried time and time again to talk to you, but you just tell me to get lost!" in a really prissy voice. I think what she means by that is every so often she'll say something to someone else in a loud voice so she knows I can hear, because I can't remember the last time she did actually talk to me about anything at all. Probably the time she told me she hates me. :biggrin:

the raising of voice volume trick :biggrin:

I've had that...and i mentioned that in one of my letters, on the basis of how immature, pathetic it was. Now, employing such measures is sooo low.

Reply 15

Laika

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****ing notes. They just shows total lack of etiquette.

Reply 16

Future_Subby

My friend and his flatmates were having orange juice "stolen" from the fridge. He put laxitive into the orange juice, soon found out the culprit! lol

Reply 17

white_haired_wizard

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Future_Subby

My friend and his flatmates were having orange juice "stolen" from the fridge. He put laxitive into the orange juice, soon found out the culprit! lol

Laxative - 'the future for all problem-solving'

It does exactly what it says on the tin :biggrin:

Reply 18

Hana_1987

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Future_Subby

My friend and his flatmates were having orange juice "stolen" from the fridge. He put laxitive into the orange juice, soon found out the culprit! lol

genius!

Reply 19

whistlinduck

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Future_Subby

My friend and his flatmates were having orange juice "stolen" from the fridge. He put laxitive into the orange juice, soon found out the culprit! lol

GOOD WORK!!!!

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