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Relationships without sex

I read an article the other day about 'the rise of the "no sex" couple'; how more and more people are having relationships where they rarely (if ever) have sex, and both partners are fine about it. Some people were saying that a relationship without sex is just a friendship because there's no intimacy, and others believed that sex is just becoming less important in our society, and that's okay.

I thought it was pretty interesting and I'm curious to see what your opinions are on this. So whatcha reckon?! :smile:

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Reply 1

its called marrage :p:

Reply 2

I reckon it's a newspaper/magazine running out of stuff to write, so they get someone to write a "cultural observation" column to fill a page or two. Doubt it meant anything.

Reply 3

I don't think I could do that, my man is too sexy to leave alone! :wink:
What's the point in being with someone you're not attracted to? If you're a couple the biological point is to have sex and have children..so...it does sound like friendship or a marriage in which the partners have become bored/complacent/experienced loss of sex drive.

Reply 4

my man is too sexy to leave alone!


yeh and mine

Reply 5

Ok I'm the freak that really quite appeals to me...

Reply 6

:eek: lol. i seriously couldn't do that. to me it wud be just like an affectionate friendship - its not enough. *LOU*

Reply 7

different?
Ok I'm the freak that really quite appeals to me...



I'm the very same different? don't worry!!!! I hate the idea of sex.....

Reply 8

Oh dear Nooo please no

Reply 9

loser88
I'm the very same different? don't worry!!!! I hate the idea of sex.....

seriously?
*LOU*

Reply 10

*lucy_lou*
seriously?
*LOU*



Yeah- I have no interest in it, I don't want children and I doubt I'll ever find my 'perfect' man. Also it freaks me out a bit. :eek:

Reply 11

how old are you? if u dont mind me askin.
*LOU*

Reply 12

Admittedly after having been with one guy for just over a year now our sex life has somewhat lost the nymphomanic rampancy it initially had, but that's not to say we've lost interest, it's more about intimacy now than anything else, which would be hard to replace if we gave up sex altogether. The only time I willfully abstain from sex is when I'm at uni.

Reply 13

Yeah and you get relationships where one or both of the partners is traditional, and may be into the whole 'sex before marriage' moral/relgious things and thus will abstain. But do you need sex to be intimate? Surely there are things other than sex to achieve this. They could be doing all sorts of sexual things but not sex itself....

Reply 14

*lucy_lou*
how old are you? if u dont mind me askin.
*LOU*


I don't mind at all- I'm 18.

Reply 15

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, i find it quite interseting. there is nothing rong with not bein that interseted in sex, u wont get an unwanted pregnancy n you will be std free - good for you m8. *LOU*

Reply 16

That would suck, unless both partners were not interested in sex, one would always resent the other for denying them. Resentment is hardly a good basis for a relationship, let alone a marraige.

Reply 17

*lucy_lou*
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, i find it quite interseting. there is nothing rong with not bein that interseted in sex, u wont get an unwanted pregnancy n you will be std free - good for you m8. *LOU*



Thank you! You're the first person to support me! Most people just think I'm weird- or as my username suggests, a loser....

Reply 18

i think too many people take sex for granted these days, i mean i dont think that if you love someone it is absolutely necessary to have sex. nowdays, it seems to play an important role in a relationship, which i believe to be quite ridiculous, because that is not what a relationship should be about. it should be something more than that. but that's just my opinion.

Reply 19

loser88
Thank you! You're the first person to support me! Most people just think I'm weird- or as my username suggests, a loser....


well personally i cudn't do it but i respect people who aren't afraid to have their own views on things - its ur life, ur choice :smile: *LOU*