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    I've never had a girlfriend and struggle socially. Can anyone give me advice on a way in which I can cope with the loneliness that this makes me feel and advise on my ways to try and find more happiness in my life without resorting to desperate attempts to get a girlfriend. If your in a similar situation could you give me some advice for working through my issues with this lack of companionship in my life please.
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    Get some hobbies and leave the house more.
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    I have this issue quite a bit, but it's important to realise you're not going to make any progress by just focussing on getting a girlfriend. Try and find other ways to be happy - whether that be socialising, reading, a new hobby, exercising and so on. If you get a girlfriend in this state you will just focus on how she's everything and, if you break up (particularly possible for being clingy), you'll be in an even worse state.

    So yeah, find something else to do in life! And try to stay happy
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    You don't need a companion, many people with girlfriends are still lonely. You can work on increasing you self esteem and building your strength as a person-which in the long run will deem you very attractive. Pm if you need any specific advice
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    (Original post by starkrush)
    I have this issue quite a bit, but it's important to realise you're not going to make any progress by just focussing on getting a girlfriend. Try and find other ways to be happy - whether that be socialising, reading, a new hobby, exercising and so on. If you get a girlfriend in this state you will just focus on how she's everything and, if you break up (particularly possible for being clingy), you'll be in an even worse state.

    So yeah, find something else to do in life! And try to stay happy

    (Original post by nthepachuco)
    You don't need a companion, many people with girlfriends are still lonely. You can work on increasing you self esteem and building your strength as a person-which in the long run will deem you very attractive. Pm if you need any specific advice
    These two speak sense.
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    what are your interests? are you at school or uni?
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    I have this problem too, so I can so relate. I'm just going travelling as it looks fun and I need a change, and at least it's something I can control unlike when/if I'll ever get into a relationship. That might not be for you though, but like others have said, just find some hobby or work to concentrate on, maybe also try to find some new friends if you need to
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    KIND OF.. in a same situation as you.
    My advice is to do what makes you feel happy as cheesy as it sounds. Apart from uni work, I'm gonna start focusing more on my animations which would make my life more exciting lol.

    So yeah, do what you like doing and you won't worry about gf's, like me, they would come to us... at some point in time.. eventually.. hopefully.
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    You won't find a girlfriend on pornhub.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've never had a girlfriend and struggle socially. Can anyone give me advice on a way in which I can cope with the loneliness that this makes me feel and advise on my ways to try and find more happiness in my life without resorting to desperate attempts to get a girlfriend. If your in a similar situation could you give me some advice for working through my issues with this lack of companionship in my life please.
    if your not at uni yet and thinking of going, DO IT. You gonna have the best three years of your life, and will come out as a different person with many different friends.

    Or maybe go to your local bar/club have few drinks talk to some girls, get to know people.
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    If you are lonely, do what people said above, go out socialising with friends and have a go at some activities. You'll get a girlfriend when the time comes, but before that time try to meet new people!
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    I'm in this same situation. However I have been travelling, I have joined societies at Uni and am actively involved in them. And still nothing ... It's this time of year when being single and lonely really hurts the most. I would love to have someone I could buy presents for at Xmas and then kiss them on midnight on NYE. I'm a guy but it's the physical and emotional intimacy that I want ... sex is important yes but I don't just want a girl for that, I want it to be more.
 
 
 
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