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    In Britain today, is it still common for the woman to change her surname to the husbands surname after marriage, or is this practice considered sexist?
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    Still very common from the people I know who've gotten married the past few years.

    Looking at it as sexist is just looking too deep into it. It's not like the male gets a dominant satisfaction from it. But still, it's optional to take a husband's name, keep your name, have a joint name or have a new name altogether.
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    No but you can have it changed to anything, tbh when I get married I wouldn't mind taking my wifes name or changing it all together.
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    Yes but i wouldn't say it is a sexist thing but tradition that has been adopted through out the ages. Some people (like my sister) will get their second name for professional reasons.
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    I have a few friends who when their wife married them, their wife kept their maiden name.
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    it's still very common, but it's also pretty common for a woman to keep her name. In my experience it's more common to change it than to not.
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    I wouldn't mind too much tbh as long as he wasn't like 'muhaha you're mine now'
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    still common, I would like my future wife to take my name but no biggy if she doesnt.

    I would just really like to call her "mrs. (my name)" . I thinks its optional to change it professionly so at work she could be "miss (her name)" and "mrs (my name)" in social situations.
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    I've never really thought of it as a sexist practice, and the married people I know agree with me. My mum chose to keep her married name even after she got divorced from my dad.

    But if the girl I married had a problem with it, I'd be okay with changing my name to hers or going double-barreled.
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    It's a traditional thing. My mum kept her maiden name when my parents got married, but I'll change my name.
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    When i get married i only want to change my surname to my husband's because my one sounds so atrocious....
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    I'd like to take my husbands name when i get married
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    (Original post by 0range)
    Princess Consuela Banana-Hammock

    No but you can have it changed to anything, tbh when I get married I wouldn't mind taking my wifes name or changing it all together.
    Firstly, BE A MAN.

    Second, every time I see someone with a double barrel surname I want to shoot them. So unnecessary, and they only do it because they have this misguided idea it makes them "more special" in some way :facepalm2:

    Ultimately, I would say I'd be alright with my wife keeping her name, but our kids would have to have my name. Only my name, no double barrel bulll****.
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    (Original post by CasualSoul)
    I wouldn't mind too much tbh as long as he wasn't like 'muhaha you're mine now'
    is it weird that i would find that such a turn on if my future husband said it to me :eek:
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    (Original post by nemogirl)
    is it weird that i would find that such a turn on if my future husband said it to me :eek:
    no just funy :rofl:
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    I changed my name when I got married.
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    (Original post by CasualSoul)
    no just funy :rofl:
    :o: i'm so weird lol
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    Yep, as said its looking too deep into it to call it sexist.

    We live in a society that just about anything can be seen as sexist if you look hard enough, or racist or whatever.

    I see it that if my wife wants to take it, its easier to think of ourselves as a family rather than worry about what the kids are called.
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    I don't think I would mind whatever my future wife does. After all regardless of her name, we'd still be married.
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    (Original post by nemogirl)
    :o: i'm so weird lol
    aw lol
 
 
 
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