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    So my sister has a boyfriend who is around ALL THE TIME. Literally every weekend he is at our house and follows her round like a lost puppy. The trouble is that me and my sister are into the same rockabilly scene and used to go to gigs and stuff together all the time. The trouble is now he's around he tags along too, and people now see us not as me and her as sisters, but them two as a couple and me who just tags along with them.

    Its getting to the point now where i dont want to go to anymore gigs or dances because im just pushed out and left on my own. There is a new years eve gig on tonight but i really dont fancy going and being the third wheel again. I cant take any of my close friends as I know they wouldn enjoy it and i do know people who go but not enough to hang around with them, i'd feel too awkward. Plus people just seem to ignore me and talk to them
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    (Original post by Lexi99)
    So my sister has a boyfriend who is around ALL THE TIME. Literally every weekend he is at our house and follows her round like a lost puppy. The trouble is that me and my sister are into the same rockabilly scene and used to go to gigs and stuff together all the time. The trouble is now he's around he tags along too, and people now see us not as me and her as sisters, but them two as a couple and me who just tags along with them.

    Its getting to the point now where i dont want to go to anymore gigs or dances because im just pushed out and left on my own. There is a new years eve gig on tonight but i really dont fancy going and being the third wheel again. I cant take any of my close friends as I know they wouldn enjoy it and i do know people who go but not enough to hang around with them, i'd feel too awkward. Plus people just seem to ignore me and talk to them
    Aw, you should maybe speak to your sister on a one to one basis and explain to her how its making you feel, explain that you should be able to hang out with each other without her boyfriend coming along all the time -that you miss it when it was just the two of you's
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    I have done and they both know how i feel as we had it out a couple of months ago. Nothings changed though, he's still here all the time and i feel like i cant go to the things i want to anymore
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    (Original post by Lexi99)
    I have done and they both know how i feel as we had it out a couple of months ago. Nothings changed though, he's still here all the time and i feel like i cant go to the things i want to anymore
    Hmm... You should maybe write a letter to either your sister or boyfriend and go on extensively how its upsetting you and ask them how would they feel if they were in your position and hope that they will finally understand the point that you are coming from
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    Maybe talk to her and say "hes over everyweekend, could you maybe see him in the week every so often because I miss seeing you alone". You could maybe discuss a rotation like say every other weekend could it just be you and her.
 
 
 
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