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Would it be a good idea?

I have feelings for a teacher at my school. He doesnt teach me anymore but I see him quite often. Hes noticed I fancy him and hes getting worried/annoyed and I dont know what to do with my feelings.

Do you think telling my form tutor and asking her for advice on what do to will help? will shell be likely to report this to my head of year cos this isnt something one would usually talk about to....but then shes a female and shes quite young she would understand more than if my form tutor was a man...

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Reply 1

fakeplasticsmee

Woah DON'T tell another teacher. What are they gonna tell you anyway, that it can't work, it'll never happen etc.

If you're still at the school it goes against all the 'duty of care' stuff and there's no way it could ever work.

Reply 2

subterfuge

she'll just tell you to ignore the feelings, most likely.

and you'll have to.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

i wasnt going to do anything about my feelings (defo NOT make a move on the teacher!!) i just wanted her advice on what to do with the feelings and how to get over him..

Reply 4

thefish_uk

Anonymous

i wasnt going to do anything about my feelings (defo NOT make a move on the teacher!!) i just wanted her advice on what to do with the feelings and how to get over him..

Truth is, that'd probably get your form tutor a bit stuck and embarrassed! They wouldn't really be able to give you any advice - they're not psychologists, just normal teachers!

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

teacher at my school just got sacked for sleeping with a student...there were pictures :eek:

Reply 6

fakeplasticsmee

^Woah...pictures...that's an interesting story...

And remember, don't tell her, because TEACHERS TALK.

Reply 7

Angelil

Teachers do talk. You'd be putting your form tutor in a really embarrassing position if you talked to her about it, so don't.

Reply 8

Dramatic Star

I agree, there is no point in telling her. She can't say anything that you don't already know yourself. Although your tutor is there for advice, telling her would put you & her in an akward (& embarrasing) situation. Just think.... she probably knows this teacher well.

If you need advice, the best person to talk to is a counceller.

Reply 9

thegreatstupendo

We had a peripatetic music teacher sacked for sleeping with a student. he got caught in bed with her by his housemate, another teacher.

Reply 10

Shihan

ask her in confidence about how to get over a guy that you like (DO NOT MENTION TEACHER!!!!) (pretend he is in your year) but that he dosnt seem interested. IF she is young and female and you are too im sure she'll have been there (in the hypothetical situation that is) and will give you sound advice. REMEMBER DO NOT MENTION TEACHER!!!!

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

she does know this teacher well i think, well ive seen them talking, and they are both form tutors in the yr11 tutor group and their classrooms are VERY close to each others....about a 10 second walk.....
i know teachers talk but if i tell her not to tell another teacher will she tell the teacher and others or will she keep quiet?

Reply 12

sweetface.

I think you should just forget about it, If your in yr 11 your leaving soon so there's no point. I suggest you try to find someone of your own age.

Reply 13

pumpkin7

don't go for the teachers.

and don't tell other teachers about it.

simple.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

but the thing is im going back in september to the same school and i will see this teacher loads...

Reply 15

Eccentric Man

My ex once had a crush on my 50-something-yr-old Catholic form-tutor and actually told him!! Ewww love makes ppl blind indeed, but it made me VERY VERY VERY blind.

Reply 16

sweetface.

Anonymous

but the thing is im going back in september to the same school and i will see this teacher loads...

Just ignore him, just look like you have moved on. Your main goal for your sixth form is to learn am i right? Try to see if you can get talking to anyone your age who you like, maybe you might really like them. Imagine if it were the other way and your teacher fancied you? This is happing to me, and i hate it! I really hate that lesson!