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    My ex and I were together nearly 4 years, we lived together etc and both thought it would last forever. The relationship broke down and we have been apart for the last 6 months.

    Ive attempted to break contact off because i think thats important if you are going to get over each other, but we always fall back into email or skype conversations or catch ups and its making it impossible to get over her.

    She wants to be friends, though i know full well shes using me for emotional support and isnt properly over me, its probably the same for me too. She doesnt trust many people, and we were always best friends above anything else.

    How do I cut contact and get on with my life without hurting her feelings or being an ass?
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      You can't. If you cut her off now you will do one or the other, and sometimes both. Either suck it up and cut her off from all contact or continue to be her friend.
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      No, he's right on the money.

      You can't get over someone by being in regular contact with them, especially if you are being emotionally supportive.

      So cut her out completely and explain why or just stay as you are.

      There is no reason you can't be friends in the future, but you need to be over her first.
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      Just be brave and cut the contact. If she's adult enough, with plenty of reflection she'll understand why you did it. But you can explain it to her and then at least it's not as freaky then.
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      My ex and I were together nearly 4 years, we lived together etc and both thought it would last forever. The relationship broke down and we have been apart for the last 6 months.

      Ive attempted to break contact off because i think thats important if you are going to get over each other, but we always fall back into email or skype conversations or catch ups and its making it impossible to get over her.

      She wants to be friends, though i know full well shes using me for emotional support and isnt properly over me, its probably the same for me too. She doesnt trust many people, and we were always best friends above anything else.

      How do I cut contact and get on with my life without hurting her feelings or being an ass?
      The fact that you don't want to hurt her feelings shows that you still care for her even though its no longer in the gf sort of way. Hmm you could always stay friends but that is risky and would prevent both of you from moving on. I think like others above have said the only way is to cut contact completley i.e. no skype/ facebook/ messaging etc and you may even have to delete her contact to prevent you from saying 'oo let me just see how so and so is doing'. I think the only choice you really have is to cut contact completley or to try and be friends but like you say she isn't properly over you so I don't think this would be wise as one day you may speak and she may tell you she still want to be with you which would put you in an awkward position if you want to move on and not hurt her feelings. So if I was you I would just delete all the address that keep the two of you in contact. The two of you will never forget about each other but still the longer you stay apart the more bearable it will become for her (just my opinion)
     
     
     
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