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    This is definitely one of my new years resolutions haha. Although a bit edited, to actually like somebody - I know you have no control over it but i'm still making it my resolution! I feel awful as there's a guy who really does love me but I don't like him in that way at all, even though he's basically that guy that 'ticks all the boxes' so to speak - there just isn't that.. attraction for me.
    God I hate being a girl!
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    Don't focus on getting a boyfriend. Go out more, try a new hobby, learn more about yourself, maye improve your fitness or try out a new look. Focus on yourself, on your happiness, and a relationship may follow.
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    (Original post by whitesky)
    This is definitely one of my new years resolutions haha. Although a bit edited, to actually like somebody - I know you have no control over it but i'm still making it my resolution! I feel awful as there's a guy who really does love me but I don't like him in that way at all, even though he's basically that guy that 'ticks all the boxes' so to speak - there just isn't that.. attraction for me.
    God I hate being a girl!

    I'm sorta like this, there was this guy who really liked me but at the time I just couldn't like him as I really liked this other guy, and I mean really really liked him, he liked me too, went out a bit then he said he didn't feel ready for anything more which crushed me. The guy who liked me but I couldn't like him is now with my best mate haha

    There's now this other guy who likes me, but again I just can't like him... Ah I wish the other guy was ready for more


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    I thought about this myself OP,but I've decided that improving myself(both on the outside and inside) this year and trying new things could lead this to happen more so than having that as a single aim,incorporate it into several aims.If that makes sense.For example,last year,I took up volunteering to improve my confidence and try something new,met this great guy, didn't think he liked me,even though he was lovely,and bought me things etc..and I ended up putting him off by being too 'aloof' and he didn't like it ad backed off,it turned out he did like me,and due to my low confidence i didn't believe him and I acted really standoffish with him while I was trying to get over my feelings for him as I felt they wouldn't work out. I've learnt I therefore need to work on my self esteem this year,and not basically not be a ***** when I get in an unfamiliar situation.I could have had a relationships last year if I figured that out sooner.

    Hope that helps OP.
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    I'm 20 and still single. I am happy being single as I love my work and the situation I am in at the moment. Find something that you really enjoy doing, be that work or friends and focus yourself on that. It is not imperative that one gets a partner before a certain age. Partners just seem to happen.
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    Don't act desperate or anything because it really puts guys off.

    My boyfriend came along when I was least expecting it. In fact the same day I was let down again by a guy who had been messing me around for almost three years, I decided it was time to give up on guys. I even remember messaging my friends saying it's time to be single and be happy with myself - then my boyfriend came along!

    I think the main thing is being happy with yourself - if you're not happy with yourself you won't be any happier with anyone else. Make yourself the best person you can be.

    If you're not doing so already go out socialising with friends regularly because that's a good way of meeting new people. Join a gym you might meet someone there? I am not really any good at pulling, my boyfriend approached me so it was easy for me but I think what attracted him to me is that I was a happy person, happy with my life etc. Nobody wants to meet someone who turns out to be unhappy and unsatisfied with their lives.
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    Be confident and fake it til you make it!!
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    ahhh i knew there was a link in another thread I read a while back! http://www.facebook.com/groups/348069705209285/?fref=ts

    TSR singles on fb!!

    (for those suggesting there should be a dating section!)
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    (Original post by BabyGirl92)
    Don't act desperate or anything because it really puts guys off.

    My boyfriend came along when I was least expecting it. In fact the same day I was let down again by a guy who had been messing me around for almost three years, I decided it was time to give up on guys. I even remember messaging my friends saying it's time to be single and be happy with myself - then my boyfriend came along!

    I think the main thing is being happy with yourself - if you're not happy with yourself you won't be any happier with anyone else. Make yourself the best person you can be.

    If you're not doing so already go out socialising with friends regularly because that's a good way of meeting new people. Join a gym you might meet someone there? I am not really any good at pulling, my boyfriend approached me so it was easy for me but I think what attracted him to me is that I was a happy person, happy with my life etc. Nobody wants to meet someone who turns out to be unhappy and unsatisfied with their lives.
    Glad for you but tired of the "youll find someone when you least expect it" cliche.
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    (Original post by jamespierce0987)
    I think it's pretty sad to go looking for a relationship. Love should come to you rather than you chasing it. Love should be natural.
    (Original post by BabyGirl92)
    My boyfriend came along when I was least expecting it.
    I also think it's not a great idea to have 'get a new bf' as a new year's resolution. It just sounds like you're getting in a relationship for all the wrong reasons. Imagine it flipped round and a guy was like 'yeah I just wanted a girlfriend as my new year's resolution so I started going out with you'.

    Like others have said, do things that make you happy, keep you busy, and meeting people. Don't actively seek for a boyfriend, or it is generally less likely to happen, in my opinion anyway. That's how it has always been for me!
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    online dating maybe?
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    New Years resolution 2013 - Getting a boyfriend.
    New Years resolution 2014 - Stop sleeping around.
 
 
 
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