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    I hope to study med in the Uk and I was wondering if I would have any problems making friends over there. Being dark skinned, I am worried that I might be subjected to racism by the locals. I am quite social and have a good and large company of friends over here, however i'd like to stay away from clubs as I am non alcoholic. Moreover, I am Muslim so I have a lot of restrictions not to mention a frequent victim of religious racism ( I have never been a victim but other Muslims have ).
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    You shouldn't have too many problems, obviously the culture difference at first will be a weird on both sides, but if you're friendly and polite that'll quickly be overcome. There may be one or two drunken idiots, but on the whole, you shouldn't have any problems making friends.
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    I don't think skin colour would affect your ability to make friends (or at least not with over 90% of the population). However abstinance and a few other muslim things may interfere with what some people here would expect of their friends, and you may expect different behaviour from them. However 1 you won't be the only muslim around, and 2 you could just join in with what they want to do, but just not drink alcohol.

    I'm sure you'll be fine.
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    Everywhere you go you will meet different people- some nice, others not so nice. But just be yourself. I tend to be nice to everyone, especially if their nice to me, regardless of race, religion or any other differentiating factor, and I know their are many others who think the same way. The student poupulation is really diverse so your bound to find people you fit in with at some point.
    Just be yourself, be nice and don't let anyone spoil your experience and you should be fine
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    You will experience very little racism here. The only problem you might experience is if you consistently refuse to socialise on religious grounds, people may think you're unfriendly and uninterested. So if they invite you, just go down the pub with them, you don't have to drink.

    And don't take jokes about your religion any more seriously than you would take a joke about someone believing in fairies or alien invasions etc. If you get pissy about a bit of banter you're not going to be invited out again.
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    (Original post by Ridwan)
    I hope to study med in the Uk and I was wondering if I would have any problems making friends over there. Being dark skinned, I am worried that I might be subjected to racism by the locals. I am quite social and have a good and large company of friends over here, however i'd like to stay away from clubs as I am non alcoholic. Moreover, I am Muslim so I have a lot of restrictions not to mention a frequent victim of religious racism ( I have never been a victim but other Muslims have ).
    Where are you going to study?

    Also like to point out, we are talking about university, hardly racist I would say, all uni's have a range of people from different backgrounds. Bengali's are certainly one of those which does show up a lot.............you'll also have many societies which do not partake in clubbing, etc. You have the Islamic society, there should also be a Bangladeshi society, if not then Indian society, etc if you wanna find something in common.
    I would just suggest finding someone on the first day who is also socialable, and go to these greet and meets which usually occur in the first few weeks of starting uni.
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    If you are sociable and easy going then there's no reason why you wouldn't make friends at university. Very few people are prejudiced. Most will judge people on their actions not skin colour, if at all.
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    (Original post by py0alb)
    You will experience very little racism here. The only problem you might experience is if you consistently refuse to socialise on religious grounds, people may think you're unfriendly and uninterested. So if they invite you, just go down the pub with them, you don't have to drink.

    And don't take jokes about your religion any more seriously than you would take a joke about someone believing in fairies or alien invasions etc. If you get pissy about a bit of banter you're not going to be invited out again.
    I never take jokes seriously so that wont be a problem.
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    (Original post by Iqbal007)
    Where are you going to study?

    Also like to point out, we are talking about university, hardly racist I would say, all uni's have a range of people from different backgrounds. Bengali's are certainly one of those which does show up a lot.............you'll also have many societies which do not partake in clubbing, etc. You have the Islamic society, there should also be a Bangladeshi society, if not then Indian society, etc if you wanna find something in common.
    I would just suggest finding someone on the first day who is also socialable, and go to these greet and meets which usually occur in the first few weeks of starting uni.
    I got an offer for bio med at UCL
    and 2 interviews for medicine at Glasgow and manchester

    If I am accepted I will probably choose manchester
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    (Original post by Donald Duck)
    I don't think skin colour would affect your ability to make friends (or at least not with over 90% of the population). However abstinance and a few other muslim things may interfere with what some people here would expect of their friends, and you may expect different behaviour from them. However 1 you won't be the only muslim around, and 2 you could just join in with what they want to do, but just not drink alcohol.

    I'm sure you'll be fine.
    I have no problem with playing along, I just have to keep myself clean.
    So, then I think I shouldnt be so scared.
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    Thanks for the replies guys. It's just that I was scared by seeing all those "cant make friends" threads on TSR.
    Based on the replies I shouldn't be too scared.

    Thanks again guys
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    (Original post by Ridwan)
    I hope to study med in the Uk and I was wondering if I would have any problems making friends over there. Being dark skinned, I am worried that I might be subjected to racism by the locals. I am quite social and have a good and large company of friends over here, however i'd like to stay away from clubs as I am non alcoholic. Moreover, I am Muslim so I have a lot of restrictions not to mention a frequent victim of religious racism ( I have never been a victim but other Muslims have ).
    You get as good as you give.

    If you are truly friendly, then you will have no problem making friends, no matter what your religion. There is racism everywhere - while I can't say that you will not be subject to it, there is a large Muslim population and most of them are treated with respect. Come with an open mind and with the expectation to enjoy yourself, and you probably will.

    While I'm not a Muslim myself, I was also a foreign student with "dark skin" and found the vast majority of people to be polite and friendly. I also know a number of Muslims, and the ones who made an EFFORT to be friendly were the ones who had the best time. Personally, I think if you choose only to stick with a small amount of people who share a tiny segment of your views, you will be missing out on the real experience. Be upfront WITHOUT being confrontational about your views, and people will respect you.
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    (Original post by Ridwan)
    Thanks for the replies guys. It's just that I was scared by seeing all those "cant make friends" threads on TSR.
    Based on the replies I shouldn't be too scared.

    Thanks again guys
    Think of the proportion they represent of the total amount of people at TSR at university
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    Ridwan...you won't have problems making friends due to religion or race, that's for sure.

    There are plenty of Asians in Manchester, Glasgow, London...everywhere.

    Also, not drinking alcohol isn't an issue...as another poster pointed out. However, not joining them along to the pub/bar once in a while will make them feel you aren't interested in hanging out with them.

    As someone else pointed, you get out of it what you put in. You don't have to always go out and do things you don't want to...but going out sometimes with them (and having orange juice!) will be fine.

    Plus, there's more to it than just going to bars and clubs. You'll be absolutely fine. Come with an open mind, experience things, be open to meeting new people...all will be great
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    (Original post by Ridwan)
    I hope to study med in the Uk and I was wondering if I would have any problems making friends over there. Being dark skinned, I am worried that I might be subjected to racism by the locals. I am quite social and have a good and large company of friends over here, however i'd like to stay away from clubs as I am non alcoholic. Moreover, I am Muslim so I have a lot of restrictions not to mention a frequent victim of religious racism ( I have never been a victim but other Muslims have ).
    There will be racism...in every country you go apart from your own there will be dispite against you from certain individuals. Just take it because it's unavoidable.
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    (Original post by Ridwan)
    I got an offer for bio med at UCL
    and 2 interviews for medicine at Glasgow and manchester

    If I am accepted I will probably choose manchester
    Well they are fine bro, I know Manchester, Glasgow certainly have a diverse community. I know Manchester certainly has a Bangaldeshi community well which is quite large.

    And those uni's are very diverse as well, nothing to worry about
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    (Original post by Spongebob'sPants)
    Ridwan...you won't have problems making friends due to religion or race, that's for sure.

    There are plenty of Asians in Manchester, Glasgow, London...everywhere.

    Also, not drinking alcohol isn't an issue...as another poster pointed out. However, not joining them along to the pub/bar once in a while will make them feel you aren't interested in hanging out with them.

    As someone else pointed, you get out of it what you put in. You don't have to always go out and do things you don't want to...but going out sometimes with them (and having orange juice!) will be fine.

    Plus, there's more to it than just going to bars and clubs. You'll be absolutely fine. Come with an open mind, experience things, be open to meeting new people...all will be great
    Orange juice sounds nice
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    (Original post by Ridwan)
    I hope to study med in the Uk and I was wondering if I would have any problems making friends over there. Being dark skinned, I am worried that I might be subjected to racism by the locals. I am quite social and have a good and large company of friends over here, however i'd like to stay away from clubs as I am non alcoholic. Moreover, I am Muslim so I have a lot of restrictions not to mention a frequent victim of religious racism ( I have never been a victim but other Muslims have ).
    Hey Ridwan, I think you're really over-estimating the amount of racism in the UK. There are parts which are known as 'traditionally' racist but most of these places have changed now. So it really depends on where you're going to live? For example the London borough of Tower Hamlets has the largest population of Bengali Muslims outside of Bangladesh (I would know as I am one :P), there are also loads of muslim bengalis in other cities. I think you should try and leave your comfort zone and make friends with loads of different types of people though. Also you say you're going to study medicine? At university most people are pretty liberal and friendly, hardly any racism at all! I can tell you that I personally haven't been a victim of any direct racism and I've ventured out of London and even to areas where people say there are a lot of racists lol

    The UK is a very culturally diverse place now, racism is hidden in peoples minds and is really only associated with groups like the English Defence League and the British National Party. I think that racism in the UK now is a lot more subtle, I doubt you'll ever get stopped in the street and called a paki or whatever.

    You're right, drinking alcohol is a big thing in the UK, especially at uni but you don't have to go clubbing with friends, you could just go for a meal, I'm sure if you explained to people that you'd rather stay away from alcohol (as I do) people will be very understanding.


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    Hey Ridwan, I think you're really over-estimating the amount of racism in the UK. There are parts which are known as 'traditionally' racist but most of these places have changed now. So it really depends on where you're going to live? For example the London borough of Tower Hamlets has the largest population of Bengali Muslims outside of Bangladesh (I would know as I am one :P), there are also loads of muslim bengalis in other cities. I think you should try and leave your comfort zone and make friends with loads of different types of people though. Also you say you're going to study medicine? At university most people are pretty liberal and friendly, hardly any racism at all! I can tell you that I personally haven't been a victim of any direct racism and I've ventured out of London and even to areas where people say there are a lot of racists lol

    The UK is a very culturally diverse place now, racism is hidden in peoples minds and is really only associated with groups like the English Defence League and the British National Party. I think that racism in the UK now is a lot more subtle, I doubt you'll ever get stopped in the street and called a paki or whatever.

    You're right, drinking alcohol is a big thing in the UK, especially at uni but you don't have to go clubbing with friends, you could just go for a meal, I'm sure if you explained to people that you'd rather stay away from alcohol (as I do) people will be very understanding.


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    Very nicely & well put


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    (Original post by Megm217)
    Very nicely & well put


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    Why thankyou! Bit of an essay though right? Lol


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