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    Hi,
    Lately I've become a little addicted to naked pictures of women (and sometimes men, unexpectedly). I haven't really ever watched porn but I'm now entering my twenties and getting a lot of thoughts and urges, so I look at a lot of pictures of naked or flirty celebrities, models and athletes for example. I feel very ashamed and guilty for it though, especially if I masturbate to them. Part of it's to do with doing it more than my old hobbies and becoming addicted, but more of it's to do with degrading the people I'm looking at. I'm not sure whether this is normal or healthy?
    If it helps, I come from a Christian family but I'm currently agnostic, so my value system's still being shaped. I've also been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder for a few years. I'm really not very experienced!

    Thanks for any advice you can give
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    I used to feel guilty when I would look at pictures of that nature, then I wondered why I was feeling that way, and I had no answer. Both guilt and the drive for sex are very natural, and it is common to feel shame when pursuing that drive, I used to until I realized that I had no reason. I do not see the people that I look at as any less of a person, IMHO the most important thing is coming to terms with the fact that you have these drives, you are human. However, things are seen as problems when they interfere with your life. These pictures can be extremely addicting, and once you start looking it is near impossible to stop. However, the easiest part is to not start. There is no need for shame, but moderation is key. Take that drive and put it to another road, so to speak. Such as exercise or one of your old hobbies. What you are doing is normal and it is good that you realize and act on the fact that you feel there is a problem. My advice? If you do not feel you can stop, don't start, but if you do start, do not feel shame, it is perfectly normal, and there is nothing wrong with it. If it helps, I am agnostic as well I hope this helped you!
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    (Original post by Lila Rae)
    I used to feel guilty when I would look at pictures of that nature, then I wondered why I was feeling that way, and I had no answer. Both guilt and the drive for sex are very natural, and it is common to feel shame when pursuing that drive, I used to until I realized that I had no reason. I do not see the people that I look at as any less of a person, IMHO the most important thing is coming to terms with the fact that you have these drives, you are human. However, things are seen as problems when they interfere with your life. These pictures can be extremely addicting, and once you start looking it is near impossible to stop. However, the easiest part is to not start. There is no need for shame, but moderation is key. Take that drive and put it to another road, so to speak. Such as exercise or one of your old hobbies. What you are doing is normal and it is good that you realize and act on the fact that you feel there is a problem. My advice? If you do not feel you can stop, don't start, but if you do start, do not feel shame, it is perfectly normal, and there is nothing wrong with it. If it helps, I am agnostic as well I hope this helped you!
    Thanks for the reply. I'm trying to come to terms with the idea this is natural and still respectful to the other person especially compared to some things out there. Learning moderation might take some time but I'm hoping I can balance things eventually. x
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    Put it this way - the person was paid for those pictures. By looking at them, you're not doing anything wrong. The only way it would be wrong is if they were naked photos of someone who didn't consent to them.

    It's perfectly normal to look at stuff like that - even the ones of guys. Women sometimes look at pictures of other women, and I'm sure it occassionally happens to men, even if they won't admit it!

    Please don't worry about this, there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. If I'm honest, I'd feel very odd about dating a guy who never looked at any type of porn!
 
 
 
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