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    spoke to this guy on monday on pof, we swapped numbers and ever since hes turned into some obsessed ''boyfriend''. We had a 3hour convo on tuesday night and then on wednesday i woke up to 8 missed calls and 3-4 messages off him asking why i wasnt answering and then messages on pof telling me to talk to him.Ive said I cant meet until after next week because i have an exam and he wont stop hassling me to meet, he wants to come to my house and 'cuddle'.
    Hes also mentioned moving in together in a few months....

    I know how ridiculously stupid this all sounds but other than those things ~(which i admit do sound really bad) he is also a really cool guy- we get on well, hes not mentioned sex to me really and we just seem to 'click'.

    Any advice what to do here?

    We havent met yet, and my friend is advising me to stay away. Just wondered what other people thought.
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    :lolwut: He sounds like a nutter.
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    Away you should stay.
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    Umm.. Block him! Desperate, needy and nuts = potential serial killer/rapist.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    spoke to this guy on monday on pof, we swapped numbers and ever since hes turned into some obsessed ''boyfriend''. We had a 3hour convo on tuesday night and then on wednesday i woke up to 8 missed calls and 3-4 messages off him asking why i wasnt answering and then messages on pof telling me to talk to him.Ive said I cant meet until after next week because i have an exam and he wont stop hassling me to meet, he wants to come to my house and 'cuddle'.
    Hes also mentioned moving in together in a few months....

    I know how ridiculously stupid this all sounds but other than those things ~(which i admit do sound really bad) he is also a really cool guy- we get on well, hes not mentioned sex to me really and we just seem to 'click'.

    Any advice what to do here?

    We havent met yet, and my friend is advising me to stay away. Just wondered what other people thought.
    Mmm.

    Get rid.
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    Blimey... cut off contact from him NOW he sounds crazy!
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    You get on well online.
    Does not mean you will get on otherwise.

    Are you actually bf&gf?
    Are you wanting to "cuddle" with him?

    If you want to remain friends/have a relationship with him, you need to tell him how he is being too full-on, because he is, there's no doubt about it.
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    what is pof...?:confused:
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    Stay away, definitely
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    Give him some feedback about what he is doing wrong and then cut contact with him.
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    (Original post by printergirl)
    what is pof...?:confused:
    piece of fish


    OP he sounds crazy
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    I would also say you should stay away :sadnod: If he's like that now, imagine how he'd be like in an actual relationship with you?! :indiff: It's also best now to stay away because you haven't developed any deep feelings for him or anything etc, yet, so no chance of you actually getting hurt.
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    He probably thinks you have "good child bearing hips".
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    (Original post by OMG TOOTHBRUSH)
    piece of fish


    OP he sounds crazy
    not sure if serious?
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    I would say to stay away tbh. You don't want to get yourself into an intense relationship if things were to develop :no:
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    So many people are quick to judge here...

    Continue meeting up and talking to him but just say that you're a bit fed up of the constant messages at night.
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    (Original post by -aTOMic-)
    So many people are quick to judge here...

    Continue meeting up and talking to him but just say that you're a bit fed up of the constant messages at night.
    And if he doesn't listen to that, then OP should stay away.

    Personally, I'll stay away now. Plenty more fish in the sea. Pun not intended. :pierre:


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    (Original post by elldeegee)
    You get on well online.
    Does not mean you will get on otherwise.

    Are you actually bf&gf?
    Are you wanting to "cuddle" with him?

    If you want to remain friends/have a relationship with him, you need to tell him how he is being too full-on, because he is, there's no doubt about it.
    well it was over phone for 3 hours. We talked on phone

    no we are most defo not bf/gf
    and i dont want to cuddle with him...

    ive said i dont want t meet at my house but he still keeps asking me (i wont give in here).
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    (Original post by -aTOMic-)
    So many people are quick to judge here...

    Continue meeting up and talking to him but just say that you're a bit fed up of the constant messages at night.
    thanks for your response
    what makes you think everyone is quick to judge?

    do you think the 8 missed calls was acceptable considering we'd only talked the night before?

    im just asking btw cos i want to know the right thing to do
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    (Original post by This Honest)
    Pun not intended. :pierre:


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    Suuuuuuure.
    Who you tryna fool. :hmmm:
    :awesome:
 
 
 
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