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    Well basically my parents are disappointed that I spent most of Uni life at my rented accomodation instead of going out to socialise when not at lectures/seminars/the library. I only know like 2 guys at Uni & one isn't even around my age but I'm thinking of asking them if they'd like to hang out sometime (no homo). The guy my age is similar to me as in we both don't drink alcohol/go to pubs/bars/clubs etc although for him it's more his choice rather than having religious parents. He's quite posh as in his whole demeanour & how he speaks but me & the other guy aren't so much. Suggestions? :curious:

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    Rileys.
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    i would go ice skating or bowling maybe?
    seems appropriate enough!
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    You don't drink only because of your parents or do you share their religious views?
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      (Original post by joanna1996)
      You don't drink only because of your parents or do you share their religious views?
      Well I wouldn't say I share their religious views but if they knew that then they would get really angry, my closest friend wasn't brought up in a muslim family & doesn't drink himself, he said he doesn't like the taste/wants to be in control of himself, I agree with the latter, it's just a preference really.
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      Hanging out with men if it's not at the pub or a bar?

      Seems quite weird to me.

      Isn't that what girlfriends are for?

      I don't mean to sound mean, but you get to a certain age and everything feels 'homo' if you're doing it around other lads.

      You can't even go shopping with your mate over the age of 16 because you know (or should know) that it will make you look like a gay couple.

      Alternatively, you cannot go shopping alone, because you will look like a loner with no mates.

      So, as you can see, there is more reasons to have a girlfriend than just sex.

      Start acting your age. Men are for having banter with in a bar (or wherever). You want any cuddles, then go back to your girlfriend for it. Leave the lads alone.
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      A fair few of my friends don't drink and they still go to clubs/bars, just don't purchase any alcohol. I know quite a few people that do that. It's a good place to meet people - drunk or not!

      Also have a look for any uni events going on, sometimes there are some good ones. As above has said; bowling, ice-skating, maybe going out for a meal, cinema, gigs... There's a fair few things you can do. As for daytime: museums or theme parks? What do you guys have in common, you can always find something to do that doesn't revolve around getting bladdered.

      EDIT: I don't think two guys going somewhere together would make people think you're a gay couple at all. Two girls can go out together without being labelled a lesbian couple, can't they? Just don't have a candlelit dinner the two of you and you'll be fine!
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      (Original post by Multitalented me)
      I only know like 2 guys at Uni & one isn't even around my age but I'm thinking of asking them if they'd like to hang out sometime (no homo)
      Wonder if one day we'll have to disclaim everything we do.

      "I had a job interview the other day, I think I did enough to get the job (no homo)"

      "I went to Tesco this morning, the cashier was a man (no homo)"

      "I want Ed Miliband to win the next election (no homo)"

      Now though, it'd be borderline trolling if I said that your insecurities set you back...
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      (Original post by Isambard Kingdom Brunel)
      Alternatively, you cannot go shopping alone, because you will look like a loner with no mates.
      I don't agree about this part. I don't think people will judge a guy going to shop all alone. It's very usual!
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      (Original post by Leighcakes)
      A fair few of my friends don't drink and they still go to clubs/bars, just don't purchase any alcohol. I know quite a few people that do that. It's a good place to meet people - drunk or not!

      Also have a look for any uni events going on, sometimes there are some good ones. As above has said; bowling, ice-skating, maybe going out for a meal, cinema, gigs... There's a fair few things you can do. As for daytime: museums or theme parks? What do you guys have in common, you can always find something to do that doesn't revolve around getting bladdered.
      I don't think my parents would like me going somewhere where bars/clubs tbh do to their religious beliefs even though my dad works at a restaurant that sells alcohol :rolleyes: bars/clubs also get pretty rowdy & I don't really like that kind of atmosphere around drunk people from what I've experience when walking past pubs. Museums/Cinema/bowling/Meal/Theme Parks all seem ok though but I dunno if it's weird for guys over 20 to do these sorts of activities with each other
      Thanks for your input though
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      Play on the swings down the local park..... Just me?
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      (Original post by Multitalented me)
      I don't think my parents would like me going somewhere where bars/clubs tbh do to their religious beliefs even though my dad works at a restaurant that sells alcohol :rolleyes: bars/clubs also get pretty rowdy & I don't really like that kind of atmosphere around drunk people from what I've experience when walking past pubs. Museums/Cinema/bowling/Meal/Theme Parks all seem ok though but I dunno if it's weird for guys over 20 to do these sorts of activities with each other
      Thanks for your input though
      Unfortunately that's what our modern lives are like now - there's not a lot to do without it revolving around drinking and socialising with music being blasted in your ears, especially in the evenings. You should let your parents know that times have changed - sure, there may have been a lot more to do when they were younger, but nowadays it's what we have to grin and bare if we want to socialise and leave the house. I hate most of the music clubs play but I go out to get out of the house, see my friends and meet new people. It's just how things are right now.

      But I wouldn't see it as weird for guys over 20 to do those things. Theme parks are awesome, anyway! Museums are interesting, bowling can be fun and going out for meals allows you to chat and try some new food. Nothing weird about that!
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      (Original post by ninuzu)
      Play on the swings down the local park..... Just me?
      I'm sure Jimmy saville did that all the time ...
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        (Original post by Multitalented me)
        (no homo)
        And the video in your signature is titled 'How to stop caring what people think'.

        smh
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        If I'm not at a club, or a bar/pub with my mates, I'm either generally driving with them, playing FIFA/games with them, or playing and composing music with them, or playing sports. Any of those are acceptable.
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        You're far too afraid of your parents. Grow up!
        To be fair in my own household I can drink, but if my parents had any clue of how wasted I have been at times, I would probably be banned from drinking haha
        You have to realise that you are an adult and should look after yourself. Of course don't tell them that you drink or anything like that, just keep it away from the family and accept they won't come round to it. I normally don't encourage people to drink (ok I'm lying) but it seems the only reason you don't wanna go on a night out is because you're scared of what your parents will think. The truth is one day your parents aren't gonna be around so you will have the freedom to do what you want.

        Since you said yourself you aren't too religous, I encourage you to drink. I think the best way to learn is through testing your limits, as opposed to abstinence. You're not a child. While I don't encourage you to drink in front of your parents, you should at least give it a go. I smoke but if my parents knew, they would definitely kill me. Hence I only do it at uni. They don't know and they don't have to or need to know. Drinking is nowhere near as bad as smoking, so I definitely encourage you to at least try some.
       
       
       
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