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    Um.. You're sexually attracted to other people and the idea of sex turns you on. You're not asexual, no.
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    (Original post by GoodDay)
    Okay, I know sexual orientation can be pretty confusing but I have no idea what I am. I'll explain my thoughts and feelings and it would be good to hear what you guys think.

    I do have a fairy average sex drive (although I've never done anything sexual, just masturbating). Watching porn does give me an erection (gay or straight) but I think thats just because I've w*nked to enough porn that seeing it triggers an association. Being the late bloomer I am I started masturbating before I really had a sex drive so I don't know how I originally felt. If I just watch normal sex I can get off to it but it can take me a ridiculously long time and generally I rely on pretty extreme things and I have to do a lot of thinking and try and put context on to what I'm seeing to finish in good time. This leads me to believe that it's not really the sex itself its more the seeing something shocking and something generally considered 'wrong' (I think, psychologically, thats a part of sexual feelings for anyone, maybe just more for me). I would only really find a girl sexy (possibly due to earlier mentioned association) but only the idea of getting with a guy seems natural.

    arghh its all soo confusing... Am I just over thinking this? and I keep saying its just down to association, but surely that means I still find them attractive?? doesn't it?? any ideas??
    Perhaps don't attach yourself to a specific stereotype of being asexual before you've actually had some sexual experiences. It's easy enough to say "yeah I'm asexual" but until you've been in the heat of the moment don't be too quick to label yourself, as you never know what you'll feel.
 
 
 
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