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    I think this is a problem for a lot, if not most guys. Definitely for me at least.

    Whenever i get the courage to approach, i always come off as needy and sometimes if i get attached to that person i get a little desperate as well. This obviously isn't attractive. I'm guessing girls like guys who can just naturally act normal, genuine, witty and friendly. I haven't had a relationship in quite a few years but i've had the occasional sex/fling with randoms. My conversation skills arnt as good as they used to be so if i do plan a conversation, it never actually comes out the way i want it. Also, how are we able to know if you have a boyfriend? Do we just ask?

    There's a girl at work i've got my eye on right now. I've teased her a little and bantered about but when it comes to a serious conversation with her i die inside. We call each other babe/hun so there's obviously some comfort there but i'm not sure how to make the attraction flow?
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    (Original post by SupAJ1M)
    I think this is a problem for a lot, if not most guys. Definitely for me at least.

    Whenever i get the courage to approach, i always come off as needy and sometimes if i get attached to that person i get a little desperate as well. This obviously isn't attractive. I'm guessing girls like guys who can just naturally act normal, genuine, witty and friendly. I haven't had a relationship in quite a few years but i've had the occasional sex/fling with randoms. My conversation skills arnt as good as they used to be so if i do plan a conversation, it never actually comes out the way i want it. Also, how are we able to know if you have a boyfriend? Do we just ask?

    There's a girl at work i've got my eye on right now. I've teased her a little and bantered about but when it comes to a serious conversation with her i die inside. We call each other babe/hun so there's obviously some comfort there but i'm not sure how to make the attraction flow?

    What do you want to have a serious conversation about exactly?

    If you're flirting and having "banter" and she is reciprocating, then ask her if she fancies a drink after work.

    If you need help in how to make small talk then just watch how other people do it. Its normally a dialogue composed of a series of observations, questions, jokes and anecdotes.

    Don't be needy, just be confident and friendly.
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    Pretend she's already your friend
 
 
 
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