Very worried about friend.

A couple of days ago i got a teary phone call from one of my best friends despite not having seen her in a while.

Her boyfriend of two years broke up with her a while ago, despite them looking the perfect couple. He didnt give her any reason for breaking up (coward), and broke up with her the day he ment his ex. Now my friend hasnt a clue where she stands. Hes being extremely rude to her, and when she asked for a reason for splitting up with her, he claimed she was emotionally blackmailing him! Hes now always hanging around with his ex, and getting wasted anytime he can. After 2 years of going out he forgot her birthday because he was drunk all day.

She is absolutly torn up about this, and has no idea where she stands, but shes also upset because hes ruining his life, and she still cares for him. He was so sweet and lovely before and now hes turnt into such a idiot, she doesnt understand how someone so lovely had all that hate in him.

I dont know what i can do to help her, she said she just walks around all the time thinking about it, so its affected her work, and she said that shes basically stopped eating and whatever she does eat she throws back up anyway. I am so so worried for her but i have no idea what to do to help her, i hate the fact that this prick is making her life so miserable. Surely you cant just forget about someone just like that after seeing them for two years (they were even thinking about marriage, as pathetic as that sounds they were serious, and it wasnt a pathetic teen thing). I really really want to castrate this b-----d :mad:

Why the hell is he doing this to her??

Reply 1

sara_b

I'm sorry for your friend, that situation sounds awful. I don't know what advice I could give you, except to be there for her and listen to her, and let her rant. When I my bf dumped me for someone else, it helped to have people listen to me. Try and get her out of the house and doing something different or new or just something else to keep her mind occupied.

Reply 2

~the_one~

Thanks for that. The thing is im so rubbish at these things, i swear i always say the wrong things.
The thing is i cant get her out and do stuff with her, because i hardly ever see her. We had different groups of friends, different school, live really far from eachother. That makes me even more worried that i cant be there for her, and dont really know if shes ok all the time. Shes so so lovely, the nicest sweetest person i've ever known, she really doesnt deserve this.

ETA: This'll be the OP then. Damn *prays friend doesnt use tsr and realise how clueless i am*

Reply 3

sara_b

maybe you should tell her that. write her a letter telling her all the nice things you just said - and i'm sure there are more - and maybe it'll lift her spirits a little. or raise her self-esteem, which has probably taken a battering after the way he treated her.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

The only thing you can really do besides telling her how great she is, is to tel her that if she continues to let him get in the way of her life then he has won at making her look a fool. I know it sounds really really mean but I've had to use that line before on some of my friends and it actually snapped them out of their funk. I hope everything gets better for her!