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    Anon please as victim of affections is on here.

    Women: if a man told you he loved you but knew the feelings weren't reciprocated, - and he was quite socially awkward - would you necessarily be averse to having a friendship with him anyway, if he said he would move on from his feelings? Would it be too awkward for you, not just because his stated feelings were unreciprocated but because he was naturally awkward?
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    I've been through this kind of thing, although this guy also went out with one of my friends a few years ago, so I was pretty wary of him. We had been talking non stop for about 8 months when he told me he liked me and he knew that I didn't feel the same way about him. I didn't mind being friends with him, as he made me laugh and only a couple of months ago did I realise that my feelings had grown for him, and I wanted more than just friendship. Luckily he still likes me, and we are now dating.
    So, I think you should tell her, she may still want to be your friend, all the best relationships come out of friendship!

    I have been in this situation.

    It only works if the man actually does get on and move on from his feelings.
    Otherwise, he becomes resentful that the girl does not change her mind (despite having always stated that such a thing would not happen) and does not behave the way he wants her to (ie, as a girlfriend).

    Therefore, as long as you prove that you will be treating her as a friend (and forgetting your feelings for her), and not as more nor less, then it will work.
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    Are you the man or woman in this situation?
    • #4

    I've been in this position. It's awkward, but you can eventually move past it. Unless he brings it up again in which case it goes back to awkward for a bit!
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