backs-tory: dated for year before uni, then went to uni together (same course same uni), we didn't know how to make things work (first relationship- muddled on for a year, he got new friends and changed a lot, i didn't know how to handle it and things got weird; he started ignoring me, i freaked and became more clingy, everything just broke down. Lack of communication, lack of understanding. He broke up with me, I was devastated, asked if we could work it out, he said no, he wanted to experience other things. We sort of had mini conversations immediately after, but nothing substantial, he refused to talk about the break up and would avoid me for days if i ever asked. Eventually I got a new bf and he then really started to ignore me even when i tried to be friendly. I realized id made a mistake and broke up with the new guy. He has not dated anyone since (although he does seem to TRY and get girls sometimes...)
4 years later, we have not spoken since he broke up with me, although we see one another every day. We both seem to freak out and get nervous when one or the other is around. He seems to lurk and watch me but not dare approach, i feel i sometimes do the same. When i do approach he clears his throat a lot, wont make eye contact and runs asap; breaking off the conversation whenever he can.
not sure how to approach the situation now, its been a looong time; but i definitely still have feelings for him.
want to reconnect with ex Watch
- Thread Starter
- 05-01-2013 09:08
- 05-01-2013 09:34
Doesn't seem very encouraging tbh. Going back, if tempting, is seldom a viable proposition. Either ring him and tell him you would like to try again or find new love and move on...
- 05-01-2013 12:07
So you want to get back together with him?