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    Who, like myself, is embarking on this great and challenging journey? :proud:

    I began on 01/01/2013 00:00.

    If you too began then, then all the better for a full 2013! However, if you still want to take part, by all means begin now! Be a man! (Sorry, no women allowed EDIT: Actually, females may join, if you can convince me that you'll actually be able to procure benefits from abstaining, much like males do)!

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    - No touching whatsoever (except for clear and non-sexual reasons/purposes - e.g. shower etc).

    - No stroking whatsoever.

    - No auto-fellatio whatsoever (who in the hell can do that anyway? :lolwut: )

    - No porn whatsoever (however, this is a bonus rule - but it makes sense to abstain from this also).

    - No ejaculation (unless with another person, then this challenge clearly wouldn't matter to you, unless of course, you wanted to abstain from solo sexual activities in order to be more potent and virile for mutual sexual encounters :ahee: ).

    - Notify the thread/OP if you fail, stating the date of failure.- The rule about restarting is.....
    {I'm currently waiting on input from participants about this one. So far, I'm thinking that there should only be one restarting attempt allowed in the whole year and it must be within a 15 day window from the point of failure. However, as many are beginners, this may be too harsh? Interested in any contributions...}


    Just enjoy your horniness lads and let that productivity, motivation and confidence rocket up and see your positive social interaction and confidence with girls exponentially increase!

    So, who's in?
    I'll gladly put your name down and we can post here, as we're all in this together (not in the "Call me dave" manner). Also, if you fail (or, indeed, are in danger of failing), post here to notify (where you will be named and shamed )/for some support. Also, (even though I've now mentioned it too late), state the date on which you began.

    Why do this? Here's a good explanation, courtesy of our respected user "RichyFrench" :congrats: :

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    Right, this is for those of you who don't understand why many of us are on this journey, and also some motivation for those who are joining in. I'd like to point out that both men and women are welcome.

    Anyway, fapping or schlicking (the female term) is something we've probably all discovered when we were much younger. It makes you feel good, you can do it alone, and it's free.

    There are many reasons people fap, and since doctors have said masturbation can be healthy, there doesn't seem to be a downside. Or at least, not one that many people have realised. We've all heard that you can have 'too much of a good thing' and masturbation is no exception. When we fap, dopamine (the feel-good hormone) is released and we feel good. The problem is, nerve cells lose their sensitivity to dopamine the more they are exposed to high levels of it. Therefore you need to fap more to get the same good feeling. Obviously this can become a cycle and with dopamine being such a powerful chemical, it can become very easy to develop an addiction.Like any addiction this has negative effects. Having to go without can lead to feelings of anxiety, irritability, restlessness and general poor mood or even depression. Not only this, but fapping can consume a lot of your time if it's a frequent thing.

    Another big downside is that our sex drive is the motivation to get out of the house, and meet people, to find a partner. If we fap, there's no desire left to go out and try and meet people to have sex with. Fapping is the lazy alternative to get your rocks off. If you don't give yourself an alternative way of satisfying your sex drive, you'll get out in the world and meet real people to have sex with.

    Here's the part that might actually get your attention. Fapping can overstimulate your genitals and desensitize them. For guys, this means you're used to grabbing your junk with a tight "death-grip" and jacking away. When having sex with a woman you're not experiencing that extremely tight grip, with the repetitive motions exactly how you're used to it and it can be hard to stay aroused. That's right, I'm talking about erectile dysfunction. For girls a similar thing can happen, if you overstimulate your clitoris it can be hard for a guy to get you off without knowing exactly the pressure and speed that you're used to in order to orgasm.

    Now, there's not a lot of empirical evidence on the benefits of not fapping, but there's a community of over 40,000 "Fapstronauts" on Reddit who have a fair amount of anecdotal evidence. Here are some of the things you may achieve from "Fapstinence":

    • Increased energy levels
    • Increased motivation
    • Increased confidence
    • Increased enjoyment of real sex
    • Increased willpower
    • Increased focus
    • Clearer state of mind
    • Decreased social anxiety

    I don't expect everyone to change their opinions on masturbation. You may not believe in the benefits until there's strong empirical proof for the benefits of NoFap.

    If you're unwilling to sacrifice just 1 or 2 weeks to try it yourself, that's absolutely fine. One thing I ask however, is that you refrain from trying to discourage anyone who does want to try this challenge. It's not for everyone, it takes a LOT of willpower, and the simplest of distractions (images, GIFs) can lead people off course.

    Thank you for reading.


    :congrats: **Current participants**: :congrats:

    [If you asked me to add you and you don't see your name there yet, don't worry. I'm probably just dealing with the backlog of new participants and I'll have you added as soon as possible!]

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    Alix23(06/01/2013 - 07/01/2013) [FAILED!]
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    Also, here is the group to compliment this thread:
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/group.php?groupid=2217

    Note: :congrats: Especial thanks goes to "Bluffroom", Vice Chancellor of this Thread and Deputy Group Leader of the No Fap Society and "RichyFrench", Deputy Group Leader of the society. :congrats:

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    (P.S. This isn't just pure abstinence; it's a complete redirection of energies. This means - be a bit more daring, heroic, do more sports, go out more, socialise more and more with females or males and increase confidence and dominance.)

    (P.P.S. Personally, I am trying to do several willpower challenges. Apart from no fapping [also, trying no ejaculating], I'm also doing no fast foods/direct sugary foods for the year. It's always nice to try new things and experience alternative modes of living and depriving yourself in pleasures - it's a different way of experiencing existence.)

    Some Tips from Sovr'gnChancellor£:

    (To be added to regularly and frequently)

    -If you feel like you're going crazy and can't think of anything else or divert your attention to study or a task at hand, do something crazy/spontaneous. Dance spontaneously to some expressive and exciting music. Go out for a quick run. Just release some of that pent-up energy so that you can focus on tasks at hand or whatever.


    - Also, for those of you who started on 1st Jan, tomorrow will be really difficult. On the 7th day of no fapping, your testosterone can spike by up to 145% so you may REALLY have the urge to fap. On day 8 though it starts to drop back down again to near normal levels, so it's a case of gritting your teeth for a bit and just riding out the storm. (Credit goes to "RichyFrench")

    Here is another piece of useful advice for our participants, this time from a fellow esteemed participant ("0906079" :congrats: ):

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    (Original post by 0906079)

    I just want to remind everyone of this; DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO JUSTIFY FAPPING NOW. Don't say, oh it's been a week maybe I should start properly from Monday. Don't put yourself in that mindset where you feel like it'd be a good idea to fap right now and start this over again later. That's a loop that can never be broken. Remember that cravings only last for 180 seconds so if you feel like you're about to relapse, go outside quickly and take a 5 minute walk. Call your friend for 5 minutes. Do anything to keep yourself busy for the next 5 minutes until it isn't the strongest thought in your mind anymore and you can think rationally again.

    Remember all the regret and shame that follows after you masturbate? Make sure you never feel like that again.
    This applies to every milestone or "special" time; a week, a month, your birthday, a particularly bad day, a "celebration" moment, like after you finish your exam one day. If you fap and justify it by saying I'll start all over again, you will NEVER get out of this cycle. You might as well just give up and fap everyday if that's the mindset you have because you won't succeed.And most importantly, do NOT get complacent. You might think you've gone a while without fapping/porn now and watching a little bit, or stroking your **** for a while won't lead to anything but trust me these are triggers that will eventually lead you to watch that "just a bit more" and stroke it "just a bit faster" until you break nofap.


    PERSONAL EXPERIENCES WITH NO TUGGING/PORN/NO RELEASE:

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    I'll add more later, but I'd also just like to say this first: basically, a good way that I can convey how amazing it was to you is by telling you of this -

    OK, have you watched that film "Limitless" with Bradley Cooper? Well, basically, I became like the main character minus the guns, drugs, gangsters and negatives! Boy, was it a great time! Didn't even need alcohol much when at parties (bearing in mind I was under 18, so we're talking house parties here )!


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    (Original post by HFerguson)

    Call me a ****ing retard, but I genuinely think this no-fap is black magic.

    Today I was just having effortless anxiety-free conversations with people. I don't have social anxiety (ok, maybe the normal amount everyone else has), but my background anxiety just wasn't there today. For example, had a conversation with a girl this morning (totally platonic), who I've only ever spoken to once. Usually I'd be too nervous to speak to her cos she's shy and I hardly know her, and the last time I spoke to her I was super awkward, but today I just had an effortless conversation with her. Then I thought to myself, “something was missing... I wasn't anxious". It was really... odd.


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    There are two modes to this challenge, with one being 'harder' than the other -
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    - On the one hand, we have the 'EASY' mode, whereby, you must completely refrain from any solo pleasure whatsoever for the rest of the year but you are able to engage in mutual sexual relations with another.


    - On the other hand, we have the 'HARD' mode (which is more challenging than the former), whereby you not only completely refrain from any solo pleasure, but you also completely abstain from any sexual release whatsoever for the rest of the year.


    In any case, most participants will be in the 'EASY' mode, as the challenge itself may be a means to court for partners amongst other things.


    Some interesting posts from Reddit:

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    Courtesy of Reddit user "
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    I relapsed after 37 days. Once you relapse it’s so hard to get on a long streak again, your brain will rationalize
    ”one more time, then we’ll start over again – hey, what does it matter, you only got 3 days…”Had to reset again yesterday. Read something in this book I’m reading about neurology that changed everything. I suddenly realized NoFap is serious, dead serious. Check this out.

    A scientist mapped the brain of a Silver Spring monkey. He did this by opening the brain up and stimulated the monkey’s thumb, then analyzed where in the brain neurons fired for the thumb. He did this for the pointer, middle finger and so on. His findings were remarkable at the time: he found that the neurons that fired when the thumb was stroked was right next to the neurons that fired for the index, which was next to the ones that fired for the middle finger and so on. They were aligned.

    Next they sewed the index and middle finger together on the monkey (quite cruel actually) and waited for two months. Then they opened the brain up again. They stroked the thumb and saw the neurons fire at the same place as before. Now they stroked the index finger, which had been connected to the middle finger for two months, and they were amazed to find that the brain had reorganized itself, so that there where there used to be two separate neuron maps for the index- and middle-finger, there were now just one big map.

    Neurons that fire together wire together! Some professional guitarists also experience this when they get something called focal dystonia when they can’t move two fingers separately, only as one unit. When neurons fire together they also wire together.

    This means that if you watch porn, which more often than not have dominating, humiliating, degrading and violent themes - you not only experience sex and violence together – you rewire your brain and change the neuron structure each time so sex and violence wire together in your brain. No wonder a lot of NoFappers here testifies that they experience ED (which to be blunt is euphemism for impotence).

    When we watch porn we not only experience it, we rewire our brain. Each time we watch porn we strengthen this connection. Each time we ejaculate dopamine is flushed into these connections, further wiring them together, acting as “glue” since pleasant experiences get wired more easily.

    Getting hard when in a normal relationship with a girl will be just as impossible as for the monkey to use his fingers individually. If after two months the monkeys fingers had merged into one neuron map, what do you think years and decades of porn will do to your brain? Without the pornographic themes you won’t get hard. Fortunately you can unlearn these behaviors and change the neuron maps back, this is what NoFap does – we all have to realize this is dead serious.

    The day before yesterday was the last time I ever watched porn.
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    Why not just work on counteracting the negative thoughts you have that surround beating off? Beating off isn't the problem, a life of brainwashing into thinking it is somehow wrong is.
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    how long is this?
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    Count me in. Do we have to post here if we fail, to let you know?
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    yeah thats not happening.
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    (Original post by Elipsis)
    Why not just work on counteracting the negative thoughts you have that surround beating off? Beating off isn't the problem, a life of brainwashing into thinking it is somehow wrong is.
    Who said I think it's wrong? I never said it was wrong. Rather, the positive gains that result from abstaining, are excellent and desirable and regardless, it serves as an excellent challenge for self-control. It's much like eating sugary stuff isn't "wrong" per se; and yet, I am also abstaining from that too, as it serves as a challenge for self-control.
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    (Original post by kish667)
    how long is this?
    Up until 00:00 01/01/2014, i.e. the ultimate end of 2013!
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    I'll take that bet
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    (Original post by Dagnabbit)
    Count me in. Do we have to post here if we fail, to let you know?
    Good to have a real man on board! Did you begin on 01/01/13 or when?

    And yes, you have to post if you fail, so we know who are the last men/who is the last man standing
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    how long is this?
    I think it's a year bro
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    just make sure you wear diapers as a precaution for wet dreams
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    This is also my new years resolution! good luck to you

    (Original post by Elipsis)
    Why not just work on counteracting the negative thoughts you have that surround beating off? Beating off isn't the problem, a life of brainwashing into thinking it is somehow wrong is.
    No, but it often leads to bad things
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    (Original post by teen1234)
    yeah thats not happening.
    You are no man! You are but a boy! :pierre:
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    (Original post by RadioHawk)
    I'll take that bed
    Eh?
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    (Original post by Sovr'gnChancellor£)
    Who said I think it's wrong? I never said it was wrong. Rather, the positive gains that result from abstaining, are excellent and desirable and regardless, it serves as an excellent challenge for self-control. It's much like eating sugary stuff isn't "wrong" per se; and yet, I am also abstaining from that too, as it serves as a challenge for self-control.
    I would go as far as to say that not masturbating is actually detrimental. If you don't use your libido it will just get weaker and weaker. You have plenty of time to not **** when you're past middle age and it drops dramatically any way.
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    (Original post by AndrewD95)
    This is also my new years resolution! good luck to you



    No, but it often leads to bad things
    Good stuff - I've added you in anyway!
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    (Original post by Sovr'gnChancellor£)
    Good to have a real man on board! Did you begin on 01/01/13 or when?

    And yes, you have to post if you fail, so we know who are the last men/who is the last man standing
    I have one problem. Someone posted a link on TSR which led to porn but they disguised it as something innocent, so I clicked on it by accident. My eyes did not linger and I did not have a tug. Am I still allowed in?

    Otherwise, I am clean.
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    (Original post by AndrewD95)
    No, but it often leads to bad things
    Such as?
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    Count me in. My rod shall no longer suffer from any more 'master bait'.


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    (Original post by Elipsis)
    I would go as far as to say that not masturbating is actually detrimental. If you don't use your libido it will just get weaker and weaker. You have plenty of time to not **** when you're past middle age and it drops dramatically any way.
    Well, it isn't so much abstaining, as it is a redirection of energy. So, in such a case of redirection, it will be healthy and beneficial. However, if it's just pure and oppressive abstinence (maybe, in a religious sense), then it may become detrimental.
 
 
 
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