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    (Original post by Blob2491)
    5 weeks in!
    Had a look at some old porn favourites and I was disgusted at the thought of fapping to such degrading images. Nofap has seriously changed my outlook in regards to women. Another thing I've realised is my voice resonates a lot better. I'm not saying abstaining has deepened my voice but it feels a lot easier to breathe deeper so my voice is more grounded making me sound more confident.
    I'm still shy but I can approach other strangers a lot more easily now compared to when I used to fap. So far it seems to be clean sailing from here, I just hope to keep this up because I feel a lot better in myself!
    Great to hear man, keep it up. Quite a few people do report a deeper voice, supposedly due to more testosterone when you're not constantly 'releasing' it. If that porn is saved on your hard drive, try deleting it and severing any attachment you may have to porn. It really helps.
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    (Original post by SDavis123)
    teach me master :adore: I ****ed up at the same point that you triumphed
    As soon as you feel the urge to masturbate think of why you even started the challenge and how you feel after you fap. I personally get a low, depressed feeling for days that makes me feel like an inadequate human being...that feeling alone is enough for me to stop myself so try find something similar?

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    Great to hear man, keep it up. Quite a few people do report a deeper voice, supposedly due to more testosterone when you're not constantly 'releasing' it. If that porn is saved on your hard drive, try deleting it and severing any attachment you may have to porn. It really helps.
    Thanks for the advice, deleted it all.
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    Day 6. :smug:

    First few times I tried this I always caved on Day 4 but this time I've not had any urges really, which I find quite odd. This challenge is obviously harder in the morning (pun intended) but after that I'm fine, not getting random boners like on my first few tries or looking at any girl and thinking 'I would'.

    I have noticed a few positives though. Conversation has become a lot easier, I used to over analyse everything I said but now I speak in a calmer, more thoughtful manner. I no longer panic during silences and think ''omg, this is awkward!'', I just embrace the silence and then carry on the conversation when I think of something to say. Even if I say something wrong or embarrassing I just shrug it off and laugh. I just feel more relaxed when talking to people... possibly due to the sense of feeling more in control of my actions. Feeling less self-conscious and bizarre as it may sound I notice more girls looking at me (and smiling)... maybe I've stopped giving off the whole "I whack it to porn" vibe, haha.
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    Surprised this is still going! Not been keeping up the whole time, has anyone actually managed to stay clean from the 1st January?
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    (Original post by Dorito)
    Day 6. :smug:

    First few times I tried this I always caved on Day 4 but this time I've not had any urges really, which I find quite odd. This challenge is obviously harder in the morning (pun intended) but after that I'm fine, not getting random boners like on my first few tries or looking at any girl and thinking 'I would'.

    I have noticed a few positives though. Conversation has become a lot easier, I used to over analyse everything I said but now I speak in a calmer, more thoughtful manner. I no longer panic during silences and think ''omg, this is awkward!'', I just embrace the silence and then carry on the conversation when I think of something to say. Even if I say something wrong or embarrassing I just shrug it off and laugh. I just feel more relaxed when talking to people... possibly due to the sense of feeling more in control of my actions. Feeling less self-conscious and bizarre as it may sound I notice more girls looking at me (and smiling)... maybe I've stopped giving off the whole "I whack it to porn" vibe, haha.
    That's awesome man. The bold bit is so true, I don't worry so much about what to say anymore. I used to worry about having nothing to say, that my brain would freeze and would completely stop thinking up anything at all. It'd go blank. Now, I don't worry about it at all and I find it a lot easier to just talk.

    I like that idea of giving off an "I whack it to porn" vibe.. I feel the same actually. I wouldn't say it's shameful to masturbate, it's a natural thing.. But, I would feel kinda seedy about it, as if I'm hiding something. I feel completely open and honest now that I don't fap. I just don't seem to know how to react around girls if I've masturbated that day or the day before, I'd feel kinda uncomfortable.

    Your post has helped me realise how NoFap is helping me. After a while you don't feel too different, I suppose once you've started to get over the strongest urges and gain control, then it becomes a part of you. I don't feel amazingly different right now, because it's now been over 2 months, it's becoming part of my behaviour.. but I know that I've changed. When you're in the first couple of weeks, you're still not used to it, so the changes are much more noticeable which is really motivating. It's nice to have a reminder of that now and then. Cheers for sharing.
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    (Original post by ameritus)
    Surprised this is still going! Not been keeping up the whole time, has anyone actually managed to stay clean from the 1st January?
    I started on 11th December 2012 having found it on Reddit. Naturally I signed up on here too, and I've been fap-free so far 73 complete days if you're wondering.
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    (Original post by RichyFrench)
    I started on 11th December 2012 having found it on Reddit. Naturally I signed up on here too, and I've been fap-free so far 73 complete days if you're wondering.
    Oh wow jeez :eek::congrats:

    How have you managed it?! And have you experienced any...erm....side effects?
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    (Original post by ameritus)
    Oh wow jeez :eek::congrats:

    How have you managed it?! And have you experienced any...erm....side effects?
    It gets a hell of a lot easier the further along you make it. The first week was iffy, but after that it's fine really. One major blip when I was horny, I tried to rationalise a fap, but after sleeping on it, I woke up feeling fine and with no desire to fap. If you stop looking at anything that arouses you, it becomes incredibly easy. Porn will set you off, so don't go there.

    When you say side effects, what exactly do you mean? If you take the tradition meaning implying negative effects, I really don't think there are any. I mean, obviously masturbating feels nice at the time and so I'm missing out on that.. I mean, it literally stimulates the pleasure centre in the brain, of course it feels nice. That being said, there's so much more to it which are the reasons I don't fap.

    Self-control is like a muscle, you can train it. The willpower and self-control is takes to give up masturbation will spill over into other areas of my life. I also feel a lot more comfortable in my own skin. In conversations I don't seem to have that brain fog where you know kinda what you wanna say, but you never manage to pick the right words or actually say what you're thinking.

    I have a lot more clarity of mind, which really helps my conversation. I noticed it particularly on the phone yesterday. I usually detest speaking on the phone but I had absolutely no problem at all. That, combined with the effort I was making towards finding a job, made me feel pretty damn good. I was walking around the house singing "I'm feeling good" by Nina Simone.

    Also I feel kinda powerful being able to control this urge that a lot of people struggle to own. It's empowering being able to do it, it gives me a great sense of achievement.

    For different people it can do a variety of things. I won't tell you that you'll experience all the same things I feel, because you probably won't. It affects everyone differently, it depends on your approach, and why you wanna do it. Give it a go for yourself and see how you feel. If you don't like it, don't do it anymore. If you think you might be able to do it, and you'd benefit from it, try it, you've got nothing to lose.
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    (Original post by Blob2491)
    As soon as you feel the urge to masturbate think of why you even started the challenge and how you feel after you fap. I personally get a low, depressed feeling for days that makes me feel like an inadequate human being...that feeling alone is enough for me to stop myself so try find something similar?
    Yh I didn't plan to fap I just thought have a peak and see what I've been missing but I couldn't resist now my work rate has just gone down the drain since then which is the most annoying thing



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    add my name too please, what u are doing is actually really good! u can fix many guys lives like this....this is such a great idea
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    Today is day #50. I'm very pleased with how things have been going. I was invited to a party the other day, for mid-March, by people who didn't know me personally but had heard of me (friends of friends). It's unusual because all these people at the party were populars in my school (and I was definitively not). Thinking of it in the context of who I was back then, that they would invite me to a party, is a nice thought, because it represents clear evidence of how I've changed over the years. It's very self-affirming too - the feeling that I've become someone interesting and worth knowing - not from NoFap, but from all the things I've tried to improve about myself. I plan to take full advantage of it.

    I feel quite adjusted to the effects of NoFap now. I am certainly more confident and positive, but I know this only in a kind of theoretical way, because it is becoming increasingly harder to remember how I felt previously. It has become less of a challenge and more of a default; I would now have to *try* in order to lose the challenge. I have the desire to masturbate still, but it hardly occurs to me that 'therefore I should try not to masturbate'; the temptation experienced is like looking at a cake through a shop window when the shop happens to be shut. Sure, you want the cake, but to get it is more trouble than it's worth, and you would never seriously consider doing so.

    I feel like the master of myself. I'm stronger than my desires. Where others around me are shackled, I am free. I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.
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    Hey everyone. After much thought, I've realised that this isn't going to work for me, simply because I don't think it's what I want. I thought it was what I wanted but I don't. I will keep popping in here to see how you are all doing and if I do feel at any point that it is for me ill be joining again
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    (Original post by insignificant)
    Hey everyone. After much thought, I've realised that this isn't going to work for me, simply because I don't think it's what I want. I thought it was what I wanted but I don't. I will keep popping in here to see how you are all doing and if I do feel at any point that it is for me ill be joining again
    That's fine, thanks for letting us know why you're quitting. That's pretty understandable. Some people try NoFap thinking it's the cure to just about everything, when it absolutely isn't. It can bring some benefits but often there's other stuff in your life that you need to deal with.
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    (Original post by EmmaBurton)

    And please, please don't go back to fapping! You were very brave to do what you did, knowing it was the only way to break the destructive cycle. The pain you're now experiencing will surely deter you from touching yourself down there for a couple of weeks at least. And by then you will know that you can live without it, and your desire for it will be much diminished. You'll be a long way down the road to the self respect and mature sexuality that come with being a non-masturbator. And that feeling will be wonderful, well worth any discomfort you may experience in the meantime.
    Brave? I was climbing the wall with frustration, missing my boyfriend and desperate not to give in and start strumming again. Instead of being strong I have in and injured myself in a way that might never recover.

    The pain I'm suffering down there is nothing compared to the emotional suffering I've had since. My boyfriend was beside himself with anger at what I'd done and I think also felt guilty about the fact he works abroad so is mostly not there to meet my sexual needs. So we had a big row which still hasn't healed and could yet be the end of us.

    The most frustrating part of all this is that it's not like either of us are religious or anything that would make us against female masturbation. I'm cool with the fact my boyfriend does it and he positively liked the fact I did it. Looking back I'm not really sure why I wanted to stop. I think some self esteem issues about how often I was doing it and how dependent I'd become on my rabbit combined with a desire to show that we girls can do anything the guys can.
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    (Original post by KatieMM)
    Brave? I was climbing the wall with frustration, missing my boyfriend and desperate not to give in and start strumming again. Instead of being strong I have in and injured myself in a way that might never recover.

    The pain I'm suffering down there is nothing compared to the emotional suffering I've had since. My boyfriend was beside himself with anger at what I'd done and I think also felt guilty about the fact he works abroad so is mostly not there to meet my sexual needs. So we had a big row which still hasn't healed and could yet be the end of us.

    The most frustrating part of all this is that it's not like either of us are religious or anything that would make us against female masturbation. I'm cool with the fact my boyfriend does it and he positively liked the fact I did it. Looking back I'm not really sure why I wanted to stop. I think some self esteem issues about how often I was doing it and how dependent I'd become on my rabbit combined with a desire to show that we girls can do anything the guys can.
    You've said you get to spend one weekend in four with your BF, right? If your sex drive is so out of control you can't go without between sessions with him, you'd better hope what you did with the lighter is terminal for your clitoris. Otherwise, you're going to be a slave to your sexuality for the rest of your life. I've known girls who've had that problem and it has ruined their lives.
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    Almost 3 months into this. I'm feeling pretty great I must say. If I were to ejaculate now, no doubt the room would be filled.
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    (Original post by EstebanK0)
    Almost 3 months into this. I'm feeling pretty great I must say. If I were to ejaculate now, no doubt the room would be filled.
    Well done on making it so far! :congrats: Are you going for the whole year?
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    Anyone else still going strong in this? Since end of January I've been seeing a girl regularly so no doubt this will continue to be easy. Strong premature ejaculation the first time I got with her though, had been about 2.5 weeks since had sex or fapped. Blew in like 10 seconds

    Feels good mannnnnnnn

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    (Original post by miser)
    Well done on making it so far! :congrats: Are you going for the whole year?
    I certainly am! Well, trying my best to.
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    (Original post by EstebanK0)
    I certainly am! Well, trying my best to.
    How do you feel mate? Worth it?
 
 
 
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