(Original post by KJKA)
Problem is people want things and they aren't prepared to work for it and make the sacrifices required to achieve things. Then when things don't work out look for a scapegoat. An excuse. A person may get distracted and procrastinate when he should have been revising and hence does pretty bad in his exams. He will then try to blame everyone but himself for his failure. He'll complain about the teachers the workload he had but will never turn the finger on himself.
Nobody is perfect. Celebrities shouldn't be perceived as being perfect. Everybody is self conscious about what people think of them whether they be a celebrity or not.
Everyone has problems it's not a matter of concealing and avoiding the problems and then complaining when the problems cause difficulties down the line it's a matter of heading the problems straight on.
But don't you think that after a certain stage these problems become irrelevant, and start consuming your life?
For example, and I realise this is clichéd, let's assume that a there is a man in Nigeria who is incredibly poor. He lives day to day and his biggest problem is trying to get money for food so he can survive. Let's say that after 5/6 more years like this, he plays the national lottery and wins about £20,000.
He moves to the UK with that money and gets a job. For a while he is pretty happy but slowly doubts start to appear in his mind regarding various issues. He thinks he is too fat, can never get a girlfriend and thinks this way for 2/3 years. Getting sick of being lonely, he starts going to a gym and after another 2 years he is now happy with how his body looks but he still doesn't attract girls so he thinks the problem must be with his face and gets a nose job, which turns out very well. He is now confident enough to ask a girl out and eventually finds someone who likes him.
Content for a while, again he starts doubting himself. He thinks that he is not tall enough. He thinks that he isn't intelligent enough. He marries the girl and starts thinking he isn't a good husband or a father. He's conscious of the fact that his neighbours are richer than him. As he gets older, he starts getting insecure about his wrinkly skin, and starts to gain the weight back. As he gets even older, he thinks that his children abandoned him as they get busy with their own lives.
On his deathbed, our friend realises that he has lived a life full of misery. What if he had just been grateful after he had gotten food to eat. What if he was happy being in a first world country and having his future secured. What if he realised that girls aren't superficial and asked a girl out regardless of how he looked. What if he realised there's nothing he can do about his height and accepted it. What if he didn't doubt his intelligence. What if he realised that everyone gets older. What if he understood that his children did not abandon him, they are out there forming their own lives.
Now, what if he had tried to change every single one of these things. Would that not be just as bad?
you become happy? Do you accept your life as it is, or try to make it better and still suffer in the end?